Not Too Fancy

First I just wanted to say how saddened I was to hear the news today (6.5.18) of Kate Spade. We never ever truly know what is going on in the heart or mind or life of another…and even seemingly successful or happy people can be carrying heavy burdens that can just become too much to bear. So to take a lesson away from this, as cliched as it might sound, be nice to everyone you meet because you just don’t know what pain they might be dealing with.

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And onto today’s post…

My friend and I went to dinner last night in a popular nearby town. Lots of restaurants and people out on the street. I like busy areas. We went into a bar/restaurant that has been in business since 1912 that my friend remembered as having a 2-headed sheep on display. How could we miss that?? Sadly, the bartender told us it was not a 2-headed sheep but a 2-headed cat (just as good?) and it had not been there, but at a nearby bar that was no longer in existence. So much disappointment. BUT, we had a nice dinner and catch-up…and saw this fun mural in the alley next to the bar, so did a little photoshoot in my “regular” clothes.

I’m not fancy. I like pretty things…but not really on my body.

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I mostly prefer more basic clothing items. Not so much trendy.

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I wonder sometimes if the blog doesn’t show enough “trendy” items. I read a lot of blogs that do, and they’re fun to look at, like a fashion magazine. But when it comes to spending my money on clothing, I usually opt for an item that is going to look current for a long time. I do have fun with Gwynnie Bee and renting items that are unlike things I would normally buy and I guess that fills my need for “fancy.”

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My hope for the blog is that other women who feel “regular,” will see that they don’t have to be fancy to look nice or modern.

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This is a very utilitarian outfit, but it’s one of my favorites right now. It’s easy to wear, it’s comfortable, nothing is high maintenance, and it looks current. And it’s so easy to change up – I could swap out the green utility jacket for a denim jacket or black cardigan. I could change the stripe top to a white, grey, black or blush pink tee. Instead of the dark wash jeans I could wear white or black denim or faded skinnies. Or pink jeans (I’ve got my eye on a pair)! So many options with these very basic pieces!

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I don’t know that I’ve ever shown these jeans on the blog, though they’re my very favorite every day pair. They’re the Gloria Vanderbilt “Amanda” tapered jean. I’ve been wearing Gloria Vanderbilts for years and years (#notsponsored). It’s probably the first stretch jean I ever tried when I was looking for plus size jeans so long ago…and I’ve been a fan ever since. My white jeans (here) are also GV Amanda. They come in lots of washes and different colors – I used to have a coral pair (fun!).

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Thanks for the pictures, Linda!

What I’m Wearing:

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Month in Review: March 2018

Since I *really* didn’t do much this past week and there are only a handful of pictures, I think, instead, I’ll do the MONTH in review, sort of a “Best of” kind of thing. And next week I’ll catch up with two week’s worth of review and then I’ll be all caught up!

My most popular post in March was the one where I’d lost my damn mind and bought the cactus scarf instead of the springy pastel one. It really all worked out in the end as it didn’t feel springy yet at all, and, in fact, still does not, with a forecast of 3-5″ of snow tonight and tomorrow!

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My favorite outfit of March was the denim jacket over the tartan plaid shirtdress.

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My top three favorite looks from other bloggers in March were:

  1. Jennie from A Pocketful of Polka Dots in this “classic but trendy” mix of blue chambray, leopard cardi, high brown boots and fabulous spiked necklace! PS: if you have short hair, scroll down her page for ALL the inspo and different looks!

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2) Olivia of Livvy Land in this dreamy blush cardigan. She has about the most enviable cardigan collection I’ve ever seen – soft tones, yummy fabrics, and everything mixes and matches perfectly with her easy style of dressing.

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3) Sara from Stylish Sassy and Classy inspired me with her floral top and white jeans and now I am all about that look!

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And because life is not all about fashion…

My three favorite books I read in March and that I highly recommend (click on images for book descriptions or to purchase):

And the return of a long-time favorite blogger who had been absent since last fall, Un-Fancy. She writes about her relaxed capsule wardrobe and has such an easy, pleasing style that I always enjoy her posts and pictures, whether about style, home or life.

I’ve been enjoying an app this year called 1 Second Every Day and you post a picture or video to it daily (or catch up whenever you want, it doesn’t judge) and at the end of the month (or week or year or whatever time frame you select) it “mashes” them together as one-second clips that are savable and sharable. I’ve been posting them on Instagram but they fit into the Month in Review theme here, so…

What do you think about Month in Review as a regular feature? I can swap different categories in and out…favorite movies/tv shows, best new products, etc. Thoughts? I always enjoy seeing others’ reviews and recommendations. In fact, I will hardly buy anything anymore without some sort of recommendation, whether from someone I know personally, or a blogger whose taste I consistently admire.

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Well, that wraps up March…onto April…and maybe spring weather at last!!! Who am I kidding, this is what outside looks like right this minute…Caleb looked like the abominable snowman when he came back in after his morning pee.

Bye, then!

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Springtime Plus Size Try-on Haul

So, spring shopping has begun. Well, spring trying-on and buying-and-returning has begun. I only need (want) a couple new clothing items to round out my warm weather wardrobe:

  • cropped/ankle length white jeans
  • a couple pairs of colored pants that aren’t jeans
  • some tops that are a little nicer than just tee shirts – like button downs and tunics
  • 1-2 lightweight knit sweaters
  • a dress. I don’t NEED another summer dress but I saw this dress in the Ellos catalog and I can’t get it out of my head. I need to at least try it on.

Boy, when I make it into a list it seems like more than I was thinking. But in reality I know I’ll never find all these things to fit, so…the list will narrow as I go along.

Last weekend I stopped into my local Avenue store and tried on a few things. I was pretty firm with my black and white palette. I feel like I start out every season with black and white, then just add in a few colors later on.

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These were supposed to be ankle length but I’m short and my legs are short, so. And the cuff wasn’t sewn-in or anything so it was just going to come right down and then the pants are too long. I’ve tried cuffing jeans and I’m just not good at that sort of thing. They’re crooked, they don’t stay up, etc. I need the manufacturer to do it for me and put in a couple nice stitches!

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Avenue White Washed Rolled Ankle Jean size 22

Since the ankle length was too long, I tried on the capris thinking they might just go to my ankle. But they’re just weird. They’re not as neat as a true skinny jean would be but they’re too tight for a straight leg…and the bottom had like a kick flare. Which is not flattering on my short thick legs.

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Avenue Washed Capri Jean in White size 22

So I went up a size and it was no better.

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Avenue Washed Capri Jean in White size 24

I tried a pair of wide-leg pants in a black and white geometric…but my legs are so thick that “wide leg” fits me like a tapered cut! If the waist wasn’t pulled up all the way to my bra I might have bought them!

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Avenue Dot Relaxed Pull-on Pant size 22

Then, always the search for white tee/tank/tunic SOMETHING WHITE. Sigh. This should not be so hard.

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And, just because it was white and on sale…I tried this ruffly blouse on. It wasn’t bad but I don’t really have a need for that, so…back it went. Back it all went.

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I’d been excited to try a couple things from Loft’s new plus size collection. The items were nice but the fit was just a little off. I will definitely try something else from there because I really like the styles and when they go on sale the prices are not unreasonable.

Loft Items:

Not much luck on this first go-round!

What do you have on your spring wish list??

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Week in Review: Week 107

I love the charming older homes in my area.

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I was sick for two days and didn’t get out.

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My view from bed.

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And then we had more snow!

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And had another snow day, which we all love very much.

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I’ve been looking for an etagere in just the right size since I moved here back in August, and finally found one on CraigsList. Guess I should have emptied my car out before going to pick it up. Fortunately I had some old computer cables in the back to tie the hatch down as it wouldn’t shut with the etagare legs sticking it. AND, fortunately, it was less than two miles from my house so I didn’t have to drive far after picking it up. It’s very hilly around here and I was afraid all my junk would start spilling out the back as I drove uphill!

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In place.

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I got a little neatening trim from Morgan at Posh. Now it looks more like an intentional style vs. growing out bald head.

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Janey in the packing peanuts.

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Shopping for comfortable black flats. I loved these but managed to control myself.

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The final contenders.

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Ooh, pretty! Should I??

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New hair, new shoes, Gwynnie Bee dress – off to a wedding!

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Awww!!!

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And today I slept on and off almost all day! Running errands all day yesterday and being out late last night took it’s toll on me and I could just not stay awake so I kept laying back down “for just 5 minutes” and would wake up hours later…until 4:00 this afternoon!!! Gah! I don’t feel ready to start a new work week yet, but…..that’s life.

 

This is Not a Blog Post

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It’s just me telling you sorry, no real blog post this Thursday. I let myself get behind (shocker) on travel prep and now I’m out of time and my flight is crackadawn Saturday and I have a work thing Friday night SO…I did not make time to do pictures and now I don’t have a real blog post for you.

But, I did want to talk about something a little bit. About blogging.

In the past few days, I’ve read such disheartening posts from two bloggers I’m really a fan of – one is a fashion blogger and the other…uhm, a horse blogger? Riding? Not sure what the term is, and anyway, to be clear, I follow her on Instagram not a blog, but that’s just fiddly details. It’s the same thing. They’re sharing on social media. With us. Sometimes it’s just how-to and what to do and look at this horse/dress/jump/haircut, etc. Sometimes they share of themselves. And that is the part that draws me in, that makes me feel like I know them, like I am friends with them. And I’ve spoken about that before.

But now…PEOPLE HAVE HURT MY FRIENDS. Yes, my “I Have Never Met Them In Real Life and Probably Never Will” social media friends, but still. Just like in the “real world,” there are icky people. People who go out of their way to be, at the very least, annoying…and sometimes downright mean, or worse, destructive. On social this may consist of snide comments…people can take words out of context (we know how easy that is to do, say, in a text, without seeing facial expression or hearing tone of voice) and get angry about  something and really run with it to an extreme. Bloggers are sometimes harassed by commenters, reputations can be trashed, etc. Things can get really ugly and hurtful. And then bloggers (aka PEOPLE) want to stop. To stop posting, stop sharing. Stop being our friends. The one young woman this has been happening to is so upset by it all, she’s pulling out of social media. A) She does a service to other riders and horse trainers when she shares her lovely gentle methods and now no one will be learning from her. B) It appears that she makes some degree of income from her Instagram posts and she will lose that, and we all know how life-changing a loss of income can be. She’s really shaken and upset by things people have been saying. She’s a young person and it’s such a shame that she’s having this negative experience when she’s just sharing good things. The other woman is older (not OLD, but an adult). And she’s not leaving social or blogging but…it’s just very upsetting to have people throw mud at you when you’re just trying to share…nice things!!! Ugh. I feel for both of them.  And for all the many people who have experienced things like this.

I feel fortunate that so far I’ve not had any really unpleasant experiences with my blog. I don’t know if it’s just cuz I’m still a “blog baby,” ha ha, or WordPress is really doing its job in keeping spammy comments out of sight. I hope I never do have to deal with these small ugly people…but I know it sort of goes with the territory as your numbers of followers/readers get higher.

And the flip-side of that is how grateful and appreciative  I am of the truly lovely people I have following my blog and commenting. I thank each of you for being kind and patient and understanding and complimentary and all the wonderful things that you are and say.

So, that’s all I have for you today. The next time you’ll hear from me I’ll be in…………

Didn’t think I was gonna spoil the surprise when I was this close, did you??

Just Keepin’ It Real

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Just keeping it real today. I have no photographer. It’s cold out. Whaa Whaa Whaa. So, I’m shooting indoors with the tripod and timer. And all the puppies. This is Muggles the Puggle. He wants to know Where is The Treat Surely There’s a Treat Why Are You Holding Out on My Treat. Caleb is staring off into space in the background. I’m sure Gracie is somewhere MacGuyvering a way to ACTUALLY get the treats.

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Ah. There she is. She hasn’t found the treats. Aunt Bettye is Very Good at Hiding the Treats.

I’m dressed for some light erranding, mud-and-poop cleanup in the yard and some photo editing. Maybe a nap. But I’ll change for a nap. If I’m going to nap, I go all in. None of this fully-dressed dozing off on the sofa nonsense. I’ll change back into my nightgown and get in bed. I don’t treat myself to naps very often as they throw off my already precarious night-time sleep, but when I do, I take it very seriously.

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I did not “blog-ize” the apartment before shooting. Is that because a) I like to keep it real, b) I didn’t realize how messy it was til I saw the pictures, or c) I’m lazy? You believe what you like. Yes, my Christmas tree is still up. I think Monday it will come down. Sadface. It’s the least wonderful time of the year.

Janey likes to sit on the arm of the desk chair when I’m at the computer and bump me incessantly with her head or TAP TAP TAP me with her paw.

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What do you wear when you’re just hanging around your house? I’m a “get out of day clothes as quickly as possible and into my nightgown” person. Wig, bra, shoes all off ASAP. I did my time. If I’m at home I want to be comfortable. Even “comfortable clothes” are not as comfortable as no clothes.

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I know what you’re thinking. This was The Lamest Blogpost Ever. Ha. So I learned a new trick to share with you.

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It’s still lame. But now there’s a GIF. And if you, like so many, are confused about how to pronounce that – here’s some useless information. The creator of the GIF, or Graphics Interface Format, says it’s pronounced JIF, like the peanut butter. The rest of the internet/world says he (the creator) is wrong and it’s pronounced with a hard G like in the word Graphics that it comes from. You say it how you like. I won’t judge.

What I Wore:

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Week in Review: Week 99

The week began with snow on the ground and puppies all over the apartment. Shocker. Ha 🙂 It was a full week back to work after the holidays and being sick and snow days.

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It was still cold.

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So, for better or worse, I was super bundled up.

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In the interest of my “pamper myself more” resolution, I did get flowers from Trader Joe’s for the apartment. In case you don’t live near a field of wild flowers or your city’s floral wholesale district, I believe that Trader Joe’s is THE best source for a large selection of reasonably-priced, healthy cut flowers. For $12 I have flowers in the bedroom, bathroom and living room. I’d have split them up even more but I still have not unpacked all the vases (because there’s nowhere to put them when I do). I usually buy three different varieties then mix them all together into bouquets.

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The street I usually turn up to come home was closed off at both ends so kids could sled. How sweet is that?

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One more present under the tree. See those starburst lights? Fun, right? It’s an app called kirakira+. It was .99 but that felt worth it to me for all the Christmas pics I take.

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Still snow.

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Remember a couple months ago I did that photoshoot with Jennifer from Peanut&Pip Photography? I got the rest of the pictures and am In Love with them! These are my favorites…

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Gorgeous, right?? She does such beautiful work…if you’re local and want family portraits…she’s your gal.

That was my week. Lots of snow and puppies. Not expecting much different in the week ahead. Well, maybe mud and puppies.

 

Top 5 Fashion Schlub Posts of 2017

Here we are at the end of the year that I thought would NEVER end…and I thought it would be fun to take a look back at what the most popular posts were from this roller coaster year.

In the #5 spot was a Week in Review post just after I got out of the hospital in April. Boy, I hope to never spend that much time in a hospital again!

The 4th most popular post was a much happier occasion, which was moving into my new apartment back in August.  That really was a great change for me and my life and I’m still grateful every day for the opportunity.

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In the #3 position was a post about gratitude for all the people who’d been so great during my time in the hospital.

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The 2nd most popular post was me getting cranky about starting to lose my hair due to chemo. That was a tough time. I feel like I’d been pretty stoic about all the cancer-related events leading up to this, but…losing my hair? Nope. I was gonna moan and complain about that.

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And the Top Post of 2017 was when I had my head shaved during chemo. Yeah, that was an interesting time…and I’m still living with the effects of it.

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Wow, what am I going to blog about in 2018 if I don’t get sick or move again? Haha (funny not funny)??

I am so thankful for all of you that have been reading my posts and commenting and sharing – it means so much to me and it’s been nice knowing I have friends along on my journey. I hope to have more fun adventures in 2018, so let’s look forward to that as we close out 2017.

I’m going to take the rest of this week off from posting…but I’ll see y’all next year!

 

It’s Almost December!

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So! I have been toying with the idea of doing another 30-day challenge in January – which is challenging myself to wear a different outfit every day in January, but now I’m thinking that, instead, maybe I’ll do Vlogmas (vlogging every day in December leading up to Christmas)! I’m SO not prepared for that, but I’m a big believer in just jumping in first and figuring it out later…and vlogging Every Single Day will help me get up-to-speed on All Things Vloggy pretty darn quick!

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It could be awful..for me AND you, ha! But I think I’m going to give it a go…if I can’t do it, I can’t do it…but I’ll certainly give it the old college try. They’ll be short, maybe 5-10 minutes a day, more or less. So…I know you’re excited, ha ha! If you want to witness this, just subscribe to my Fashion Schlub YouTube channel.

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That aside, this is another day of tripod/remote shutter selfies. On this day, a man walked his dog up to where I was shooting and proceeded to ask questions about what I was doing, including “would you like to take a picture with Miss Wiggles?” Uh, OF COURSE!!!

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Then a town worker truck pulled up, and they knew one another, so THAT guy got out of the truck and started asking me questions about what I was doing…and then they both stood there watching me. AWKWARD. Suffice it to say I didn’t get too many pictures that day. And they’re really not doing this outfit justice, because I LOVE this potato sacky dress from ASOS Curve (their plus size section) and faux leather jacket by Chelsea & Theodore via Gwynnie Bee…and I loved them together. But I didn’t get to check my car window reflection between shots so my wig was wacky and the jacket was askew and my tights are dirty. But that’s real life, so. There ya go.

Speaking of Real Life, I’ve just uploaded another video, “Switching Out My Plus Size Wardrobe from Summer to Winter: Part 2,” wherein I get all my cold weather clothes out of storage, cull through them to decide what stays and what goes, and add the “stayers” into my closet. It’s scintillating stuff, be sure to watch.

What I Wore:

* Asos Navy Ripple Stitch Dress, size 22
* Chelsea & Theodore Taupe Drape Front Faux Leather Jacket, via Gwynnie Bee, size 2x

Today I’m linking up with A Labour of Life and her Labour of Fashion link-up party!

The Future of Fashion Schlub

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When I started The Schlub in February 2016, I was SO excited and had so many ideas. What I didn’t realize was how much support I would need from other people (GIANT THANKS TO ALL MY FRIENDS, PHOTOGRAPHERS AND NON-PHOTOGRAPHERS ALIKE!!!) to get good blog photos and how much time it really took to create quality content. But I still managed to meet all my goals in Year One – number of followers, regularity of posting, that sort of thing. And in the beginning of 2017 I created new goals…and then dum dum dum DUMMMM….stupid cancer, and the accompanying surgery and treatments and feeling crappy and exhausted all the time…and this year really just became about keeping my head above water. A lot of people would say “don’t worry about the blog, just take of yourself!” But I really needed something else to focus on so I didn’t just lay around feeling lousy and sorry for myself. So I tried my best to keep the blog going. I definitely had some slow spots but I feel I’m back now, at least where I was before. And now I’m feeling ready to grow again.

And I’m asking for *your* help. Yes, Fashion Schlub was started to follow my journey, but I would like it to be *your* journey, too. So if there are things you would like to see or learn about, please let me know. If there are things other bloggers do that you think are fun/interesting/etc, and you’d like to see me do it, too, share that with me.

That’s it. I just wanted to say I know Fashion Schlub was not all that exciting this year, and that going forward I plan to make it better. And thank you to all of you who continue to read and post comments, I appreciate every one of you and the fact that you’re still here!