Sentence a Day (Best & Worst Edition): August 2018

8.1 Best Thing: I discovered today, when I pulled the July page off my calendar, that August is a three-paycheck month for me! With my payroll schedule I have two such months each year and I keep a running list for six months at a time, of “things I need/want” and then I wait for that extra paycheck. The first is always in March or April (depending on how the calendar year falls) and the second is usually in October or November. I don’t know what aberration of days caused this early miracle of sorts, but YIPPEE! Other Best Thing: Had a near perfect evening out with a friend. I’m usually reluctant these days to go into Brooklyn or the city on a weeknight (cuz old), but I read about an interesting art event that I just couldn’t resist. One “that worked out well” thing just rolled out after another: no traffic in, found a parking spot as soon as we turned onto the block where we were going (#NYmiracle), the event was free, it didn’t matter that I’d left our tickets in my printer at work, free appetizers and wine, cute giveaway tote, interesting exhibits, awesome interactives, an astounding meditation session (tears streaming down my face much?), a shop where I found a lovely birthday gift for my niece (6 weeks late but), excellent dinner right across the street and an easy drive home at night. BAM. If I must name a Worst Thing, it was so so so hot. Still 90 degrees at 9pm and like 95% humidity.

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8.2 It would be fun to say I took crazy drugs and have zero recollection of the day but the truth is I just forgot to do this AND have zero recollection of the day. Cuz old.

8.3 Best Thing: Got home from work, put on the aircon and my nightgown and lay on the sofa for a Last Tango in Halifax marathon (just started Season 3 and really enjoying it). All evening. AND got a complimentary email from someone in upper management at work about the blog I do there. Worst Thing: Peeing every 7.6 minutes all night from drinking so much water today.

8.4 Best Thing: Not getting my head shaved like I did a year ago today! Worst Thing: Finished Last Tango in Halifax, boo.

8.5. Best Thing: Did a great awesome amazing kitchen clean-out and it’s so good now! Worst Thing: Never really got out of the house today as I’d wanted.

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8.6 Best Thing: Went to dinner with a friend. Worst Thing: Seemed like way too much money got pulled out of my checking account after paying bills, gonna have to look into that. “Looking into things” is one of my least favorite parts of adulting.

8.7 Best Thing: I brought a bunch of radishes home from an organic farm where some of our adult clients work. I love radishes but hardly ever buy them cuz the ones at the market are teeny tiny and high maintenance. Worst Thing: The radishes (which were quite large) were too mealy to eat, boo.

8.8 Best Thing: Got my hair cut. Worst Thing: It’s shorter on top than I wanted.

8.9 Best Thing: Major cuteness at Sibling Day at work, Worst Thing: Near heatstroke from running around taking pictures in the sun all day at Sibling Day. Don’t feel well. Passing on dinner with friends. Going to bed early.

8.10 Best Thing: FRIDAY. Worst Thing: A good thing at work has come to an end. PLUS, I’m waiting, but dinner ain’t making itself.

8.11 Best Thing: Met up with friends for dinner. Remained sociable for more than three hours! Worst Thing: Still feeling residual negativity from work yesterday. Wish I could better learn how to LTSG ($5 Starbucks gift certificate to first one who guesses the acronym correctly!).

8.12 Best Thing: Breakfast sandwich. Worst Thing: Was uncharacteristically disappointed in being so unproductive today. And #SundayBlues.

8.13 Best Thing: Got home from work, put on my nightgown (it was 4:30, folks), got on the sofa and watched a movie. Didn’t even pretend to do work. I needed that. Worst Thing: Land-friend’s smoke alarm is beeping, she’s away and I’m not a big fan of going up high on step-stools to replace the battery. So. BEEP.

8.14 Best Thing:  THUNDER & LIGHTNING STORM!!! Worst Thing: After two weeks of no McDonalds sweet tea AND no chips (except one snack size bag at Sibling Day cuz heatstroke)…I’ve GAINED a pound! That’s just not fair. Beep.

8.15 Best Thing: After several nights of just going straight home after work and not seeing the light of day again til the next morning, I went out with a friend to try to shoot the Milky Way. This is not really my jam, but the thought of just going to the beach in the evening sounded pretty good. We got deli sandwiches and sat at a marina…the food was good, the conversation was good, the air was fantastic…but the milky way shooting did not pan out. Too cloudy. But it was still a lovely evening. I didn’t really care about the pictures anyway. Worst Thing: What’s that military acronym for when everything gets effed up? I know, me, the queen of acronyms, should know this. And I do. I just can’t recall it at the moment. Anyway, THAT. At work today.

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Beep. I’m afraid to go up high on the step-ladder by myself to try and change the battery. I can push the button with the broom handle and the beep stops for…some number of hours, I’m not sure cuz it starts again while I’m asleep or at work, I don’t know. 

8.16 Best Thing: Yesterday’s work stress got sorted out and we survived. Worst Thing: I broke down and got a McDonald’s sweet tea. It wasn’t even as great as I’d expected, but I was out and needed a drink and it really irks me to pay for a bottle of water (I’m a tap water gal).

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8.17 Best Thing: Went out with a friend to live music in the park. The day had been hot and humid but the breeze (aka near hurricane wind) off the harbor was delightful. We had ourselves a little pic-a-nic and white trash cocktails (orange soda + peach vodka + orangecello + maraschino cherries in plastic water bottles) and listened to a whole array of professional and amateur musicians giving us their all. It was delightful.  Worst Thing: Watched the series finale of Casual, a Hulu show I’ve really enjoyed over the past three years and now it’s over. Sadface. Why is it so hard to find a nice show about nice people??

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8.18 Best Thing: Had a nice quiet day at home alone. Oh yeah, and my land-friend came home and changed the battery in the smoke detector. No more beep. Worst Thing: With much sadness, I cancelled my MoviePass account. It was great while it lasted – $9.99/month to see unlimited movies at theaters. I saw 8 movies in the 5 months I had it. That’s more movies than I’ve seen in the last 10 years! But because they keep losing money, they keep changing the plans to save them. The most recent one is $9.99 for three movies a month, which still works for me as I was only seeing 1-2/month as it was, BUT – THEY select 6 movies a day for you to choose from. And I’m not a “main stream” kind of movie person. I’m not interested in adventure, action, suspense, sci-fi, super-hero, animation and even most comedies. That leaves very little. Pickins in the “nice people/nice story” genre are extremely slim. And that doesn’t seem to be what’s going on their “6 movies of the day” menu. So. I’m out. Boo. It was really nice while it lasted, but.

8.19 Best Thing: Had fun day with friends in Brooklyn – found a thing (charming Mondrian greenhouse) I’d seen on Instagram and have been wanting to photograph. Worst Thing: There was a truck in the way of getting the composition I wanted of said mondrian greenhouse, grrr.

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8.20 Best Thing: Last day of work before vacation. Worst Thing: One more day of work before vacation.

8.21 Best Thing: VACATION!!! No Worst Thing on the first day of vacation.

8.22 Worst Thing: Found out today that I was broken up with on New Year’s Day…he’d just neglected to make that clear TO ME. Really really sad. Spent afternoon binge movie watching, crying and day drinking. No Best Thing.

8.23 Multiple Worst Things: Still so sad. My heart hurts. My chest hurts. My eyes hurt. Sunflower field not going to happen. Again. Not sure exactly why universe is so whole-heartedly against me doing a sunflower field photo shoot. Come on, Universe, couldn’t you throw me one little bone today??  Best Thing: I did get out with friends today. I feel a little separate from everything. But I did get out. When I’m with people I’m not in my own head so much, but…eventually I come back here alone and the bad thoughts start seeping into every part of my body and the unanswered questions and reliving the conversations over and over again and making up new conversations and…yeah.

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8.24 Best Thing: got out for the whole day with friends, saw a cool installation I would like in my living room…and I feel like I’m processing You Know What as well as can be expected. Worst Thing: I am so so so so tired. My brain and my body. I can barely hold the phone up to type this. But I guess that’s a good thing as hopefully I will sleep through the night.

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8.25 Best Thing: Did an engagement shoot for a really lovely couple. Worst Thing: Didn’t do anything else.

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8.26 Worst Thing: The time is getting away from me and I have absolutely no recollection what I did on this day.

8.27 Best Thing: I met two online friends in the city – one I met once, 12 years ago, and the other who I’ve never met and they were lovely. Worst Thing: The restaurant where we met was SO LOUD I couldn’t hear a word either of them were saying, they could have been talking about crushing puppies and I wouldn’t have even known.

8.28 Best Thing: Went to the beach with my bestie. Worst Thing: Nothing bad about that.

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8.29 Best Thing: Spent a couple hours in a friend’s pool, just bobbing and chatting. Worst Thing: Watched The Worst Movie Ever – promise me you will not waste your time. “I Remember You.” Not the Icelandic horror film. Worse. PROMISE ME.

8.30 Best Thing: Socialized. Worst Thing: Socialized. Ha ha. I’m a freak.

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8.31 Best Thing: I’m done with this project. This will be my last Sentence A Day, I really didn’t feel it was serving me or anybody else yet was taking a good amount of time. There are other things I’d rather do – other things I’d rather write or create. Worst Thing: Last day of August. Tomorrow is September, then there’s no avoiding the fact that summer is, truly, coming to an end.

See you in September!!!

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It Couldn’t Be Easier

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Look familiar? I’ve worn (and shown!) this dress exactly 3,289 times (Give or take. Let’s just say it has long surpassed the 30th wearing!). It’s the infamous “invisible” black swing dress from asos. They almost always have some variation of it – right now they have a long-sleeved turtleneck version here.

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The point is, I have worn it A Lot. If you’ve been following me for awhile you’ve seen it here, where I wore it to work everyday for a week to see if anyone noticed or cared (they didn’t); here, where I showed how to take a summer dress and wear it all year-round; here and I’m sure in many “what I wore this week” posts. I bought it in 2015 so it’s 3+ years old. I’ve worn it under cardigans, kimonos, vests, a denim jacket, an unbuttoned chambray blouse, and this day under a Tencel utility jacket. Suffice it to say I’ve gotten my money’s worth!

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On this day we were headed into Brooklyn for the day, looking for a thing I’d seen on Instagram, a cute little Mondrian-style greenhouse. I knew the approximate location, but reckoned there’d probably be a lot of walking to find it exactly. I wanted to do a photo shoot (cuz Brooklyn) and started to “dress up,” but then said nope, that’s not what I would really wear when traipsing around who knows where, on a cool and sprinkly day.

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So, on went the easy black dress, a light hooded jacket and Keds sneakers with Vionic arch support inserts, and off we went! I know this outfit is not exactly the stuff of great fashion blogs, but it’s real. And it couldn’t be easier.

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Speaking of “the stuff of fashion blogs,” it’s so fun going into Brooklyn or Queens or the city because you actually see girls dressing the way you see in blogs. As opposed to (yawn) Long Island where they look like the product of a giant conglomerate of shopping malls, churning out the same stores, the same clothes, creating the same looks. I know, I know, look who’s talking, Miss Worn the Same Black Dress Times 27,000 times. But it’s a nice change of scenery.

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Here is the story of the little colored glass house. And now it has ended up in this nice little community garden…but it seems they’re not sure if it will stay there.

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Do you have one item that you’ve worn again and again and again with many different items to change the look?

What I Wore:

Thanks, Linda, for the pictures!

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She Works Hard for the Money

I frequently see posts about the pros and cons of using your blog as a source of income. I recently read this post on Nancy’s Fashion Style on that very topic and it prompted me to respond. I know I wrote briefly about this once before but I’ve wanted to go into a little more detail about my experience.

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As for “blogging for money,” all throughout my life I’ve had hobbies that turned into businesses – and I think that’s the best kind of “business” to have! When I was younger I was a horse lover turned riding instructor. Then I fell in love with graphic design and started a newsletter about gardening (another hobby!) which got me a job as a desktop publisher, creating newsletters for nonprofits. The love of gardening turned into a floral design business. My love of thrifting and treasure hunting turned into an ebay store, and then following my love of clothing, morphed into an online vintage clothing shop. I started more serious photography when I was shooting the vintage clothing on live models and then people started asking me to photograph them and their families and events and I had a photography business.

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Now all these things – graphic design, photography, writing, fashion – have come together gloriously as My Little Blog 🙂 And while I haven’t yet, I hope to someday get an income from it so that when I semi-retire I won’t need to spend my days collecting runaway shopping carts at the Piggly Wiggly.

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How lovely it is to make income from doing something you love to do! I’ve blogged for many years on other topics (photography, vintage clothing, lovely inspiration, my home(s), even a long-distance mother/daughter blog a la 3191 Miles Apart). For free. Just because I loved doing it. And I love creating Fashion Schlub. But I’m at a point in my life where I need to be considering additional income sources so that I can retire before I die. And since I LOVE doing this and there are ways to use it for income, why not? 

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I do see blogs that are like one big ad, and no, those are not much fun to read. They’re just like watching commercials on TV – who likes to do that?? But I don’t mind at all reading a blog I like and them telling me what clothes they wear or what products they use, if they do it in a non-selly way. I don’t mind seeing and clicking on affiliate links in a blog or reading a sponsored post…as long as I feel the blogger is sincere in their feelings for the product.

I know I’ve said this before – I would only recommend an item on the blog that I truly feel is good or that I would use or have used. I’ve gotten so many reach-outs that make absolutely no sense for my blog…and I have turned them all down. So know that when I do work with a brand it will be because I truly like the brand/item and feel good about sharing it with you.

lot of time and effort (and expense) go into producing a quality blog. Why would someone resent a blogger making money from it?

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So yes – I intend for this eventually to be an income-producing blog. I don’t expect the quality or character to change. I think it would only get better!

About six months ago I started sharing affiliate links – primarily so that readers can find items like the ones I show in the posts. If that exact item is no longer available, I try to find the closest possible match, or at least that shares some of the best qualities of the original item, just as though I were shopping for a duplicate item myself. I like to share several links for each item so they can be found at higher and lower price points, and in plus and straight sizes. I make, literally, pennies each time someone clicks on an affiliate link…and I won’t even get the money paid to me til it reaches $100….and I’m not even a quarter of the way there! So at the rate things are going now, I’m looking forward to getting a nice hundred-dollar check in about another two years! PAR-TAY!!! 

It was a hard decision for me to add the banner ads at the side and bottom of my posts because I have no control over what the ads are for or what they look like. And again, bloggers make very little money from them and, like the pay-per-click affiliate links, you have to reach a minimum dollar amount before you get a pay-out. I hope they’re not horribly offensive. If there’s just a few on other blogs, I barely notice them…I hope that is your experience here, too. I certainly haven’t noticed any decrease in views this month as a result, which is promising. But please let me know how you feel about them.

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All that said (!!!) let’s get to the outfit! I started the month in a kimono and I’m ending it one, too. It was another super hot day just like before, so I was hoping this easy-breezy kimono would be just the right thing, but…nope. Ha. See?? I’m being honest! It’s a Gwynnie Bee item, so not a keeper, but I’d thought it was more of a light chiffon-y fabric that air would pass through easily, helping to keep me cool. But it was actually modal (a rayon blend that feels more like a stretchy cotton knit). I’ve had modal dresses – winter dresses – and leggings, and it was a lovely fabric for them. But this just felt HOT. It was a fun print and shape, but it was a “one and done” item for me and has already been returned. I’m wearing it over an old, slightly too small (couldn’t find my usual grey tee!), Just My Size tank top and white Gloria Vanderbilt Amanda jeans that you’ve seen many times this year.

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The End (ha ha).

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What I’m Wearing:

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What Not to Do

My daughter Katie and I went into Brooklyn this past weekend on the hottest day of the year so far – reaching 100 degrees in the afternoon. She’s been wanting to go to Smorgasburg for some time…we tried to go in LA when we were in California in February, but we just couldn’t fit it in…and besides, the Williamsburg, Brooklyn one is the original one, so in my mind that makes it the best. What is Smorgasburg? It’s a big pop-up food festival every weekend during the milder months in NY, and all-year round in other, more temperate, cities.

I thought it would be fun to do a blog photo shoot while we were there…but clearly I didn’t really think about it at all! Shooting in the midday sun on the hottest day of the year, in an extremely crowded location with no shade? Yeah, that seems brilliant. NOT.

I’ve been working on a blog photography post for a future blog, and today’s post could easily be used as the “what not to do” example, ha. But still, we gave it our best shot, for better or worse, so…

Oh, speaking of what not to do…I just created a blog page with things TO do – called “How-To Lessons,” and it’s full of links to blog posts that contain lessons on how to do things like style one dress three ways or how to create a clothing shopping list or how to have a closet filled with only things you love and wear. The page is here https://fashionschlub.com/how-to/  or you can find it anytime on my home page under “How To Lessons.” 

Thank goodness for sunglasses!

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Red paisley kimono from Steve Madden, no longer available, comparable here and here. White v-neck tee by Universal Threads/Target, size 4x. Skinny jeans from Charlotte Russe, size 22. White Keds from DSW.

As I said, it was very crowded, and what was so fun to me, was how many people were clearly shooting their blogs, vlogs or Instagrams! Here these three are setting up their “fruity drink” shot with the city skyline behind. Out here on the Island I rarely see or hear of or run across other bloggers, let alone see them shooting! I wish there was more of a blogging community on the Island like there is in the city and the outer boroughs – it would be so much more fun! Thank goodness for the bloggy friends I’ve made online!

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ps – I bet Katie’s shot came out better than theirs!

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I know you’re going – crowded? It doesn’t look crowded to me!

Wait for it….

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Nice shadows on my face from the sun straight overhead (more “what not to do”).

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I thought this would be nice for my 4th of July red, white and blue look but…it’s just not working for me. Plus, as light as it was, an extra layer is not what I needed to be wearing that day. The second we were done shooting I pulled it off.

There’s all sorts of food at Smorgasburg.

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smorgasburg collage 1

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My favorite was my pineapple, raspberry, agave juice in a pineapple shell. I think it saved me from heatstroke. Literally. Look how red-faced I am!

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The crew seemed pretty happy to be chopping thousands of pineapples all day.

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Food puns.

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It was very sticky!!! But so yummy.

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So, we survived, we had some interesting things to eat, but boy was I happy to get back in my car in the air conditioning afterwards!

Thanks, Katie, for shooting under very difficult conditions – you did a great job!

What I’m Wearing:

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Week in Review: Week 120

Busy Busy Busy. Work was busy, evenings were busy. Busy so busy. Whoa. And yet, sadly, not a lot of pictures to show for it. OH WELL.

Monday I had dinner with an old friend. We ate outside on the patio and it was NINE MILLION DEGREES I am not exaggerating. After dinner we went down to the park by the harbor and a pre-storm wind-picked up, which was lovely. We just sat on a bench and chatted and caught up. Nice.

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Tuesday I got my hair cut pretty short for summer.

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Then we did a photo shoot outdoors at a museum, you can see it in its entirety here. It was another hot day but we were able to find shady spots to shoot in.

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Pink top by Andree Unit, similar vibe here and here in plus size, here and here in straight sizes. Super comfy cognac slides by Steve Madden

Wednesday I met some friends at Beach Hut, this is a franchise of beach-front spots that serve food, drinks and have live music every night throughout the summer season. You can sit in their dining area if you want to order their food or you can just plunk your chair down in the sand with your own refreshments and still hear the music. So it’s a nice low-cost summer option and we do this pretty often. Last year they got in trouble for tax evasion and this year the franchise is back with new owners and a new name but they’ll always be Beach Huts to me.

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Uhm, okay.

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I’ve been cleaning my car out for a long time now…there was a LOT of stuff in there. I’m finally down to the last of the Stuff That Shouldn’t Be There (as opposed to things like jumper cables, beach chair, water bottles, etc), and once it’s all emptied out I’ll get it super-duper cleaned at the car wash…in preparation for my new endeavor – I’m going to be an Uber driver, woohoo. Ha. I’m stalling a bit cuz I’m a little nervous but I think it will be a good way to bring in some additional cash on my own timetable.

Anyway, this week I found these items. I just don’t know how some things wind up in there! My daughter’s high school graduation program from nine years ago (note: she graduated on the day Michael Jackson died) and…

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…this weird little hot dog cookbook ?!? Ha. If you’re a hot dog lover, I saw this article online this week about spiralizing hot dogs.

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Friday was the last day of Secret Friend (aka Secret Santa) Week at work and I got my final gift (Starbucks gift card!) and found out who my secret friend was, whee!

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Another great surprise that day was a little chipmunk waiting for me on my steps when I got home!

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AND…getting to see MY BABY!!! She’s in NY for a little bit and we did a quick blog photo shoot (here’s a sneak peek) AND…

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…sat on the beach with spiked slurpees and watched the cloudy sunset.

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And I’m trying, ONCE AGAIN, to do Outfit of the Day every day. Even on casual days when I’m not really “dressing,” I’m just throwing on clothes to leave the building. Like today. I’m just running out to pick up breakfast then I’ll probably be home the rest of the day. I’m opting to skip the Fun Things with Friends (FOMO much?) to do some much-needed blog and apartment work. The day we went to the alpaca farm I had really intended to stay home and get work done, but…alpacas. So…if I get it all done today, I can play all the coming week without guilt. 

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Army green tee from Asos, no longer available, similar here and here in plus sizes…and here and here in straight sizes. Khaki linen blend pants from Jessica London, no longer available, similar here. Footbed slides by Mephisto (LITERALLY 20 years old), no longer available, similar here

And now it’s Sunday evening, time for some dinner, picking out my outfits for the week, then maybe a movie before bed. And tomorrow we start all over again!

What are you up to this first full week of summer??

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Not Too Fancy

First I just wanted to say how saddened I was to hear the news today (6.5.18) of Kate Spade. We never ever truly know what is going on in the heart or mind or life of another…and even seemingly successful or happy people can be carrying heavy burdens that can just become too much to bear. So to take a lesson away from this, as cliched as it might sound, be nice to everyone you meet because you just don’t know what pain they might be dealing with.

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And onto today’s post…

My friend and I went to dinner last night in a popular nearby town. Lots of restaurants and people out on the street. I like busy areas. We went into a bar/restaurant that has been in business since 1912 that my friend remembered as having a 2-headed sheep on display. How could we miss that?? Sadly, the bartender told us it was not a 2-headed sheep but a 2-headed cat (just as good?) and it had not been there, but at a nearby bar that was no longer in existence. So much disappointment. BUT, we had a nice dinner and catch-up…and saw this fun mural in the alley next to the bar, so did a little photoshoot in my “regular” clothes.

I’m not fancy. I like pretty things…but not really on my body.

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I mostly prefer more basic clothing items. Not so much trendy.

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I wonder sometimes if the blog doesn’t show enough “trendy” items. I read a lot of blogs that do, and they’re fun to look at, like a fashion magazine. But when it comes to spending my money on clothing, I usually opt for an item that is going to look current for a long time. I do have fun with Gwynnie Bee and renting items that are unlike things I would normally buy and I guess that fills my need for “fancy.”

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My hope for the blog is that other women who feel “regular,” will see that they don’t have to be fancy to look nice or modern.

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This is a very utilitarian outfit, but it’s one of my favorites right now. It’s easy to wear, it’s comfortable, nothing is high maintenance, and it looks current. And it’s so easy to change up – I could swap out the green utility jacket for a denim jacket or black cardigan. I could change the stripe top to a white, grey, black or blush pink tee. Instead of the dark wash jeans I could wear white or black denim or faded skinnies. Or pink jeans (I’ve got my eye on a pair)! So many options with these very basic pieces!

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I don’t know that I’ve ever shown these jeans on the blog, though they’re my very favorite every day pair. They’re the Gloria Vanderbilt “Amanda” tapered jean. I’ve been wearing Gloria Vanderbilts for years and years (#notsponsored). It’s probably the first stretch jean I ever tried when I was looking for plus size jeans so long ago…and I’ve been a fan ever since. My white jeans (here) are also GV Amanda. They come in lots of washes and different colors – I used to have a coral pair (fun!).

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Thanks for the pictures, Linda!

What I’m Wearing:

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Month in Review: March 2018

Since I *really* didn’t do much this past week and there are only a handful of pictures, I think, instead, I’ll do the MONTH in review, sort of a “Best of” kind of thing. And next week I’ll catch up with two week’s worth of review and then I’ll be all caught up!

My most popular post in March was the one where I’d lost my damn mind and bought the cactus scarf instead of the springy pastel one. It really all worked out in the end as it didn’t feel springy yet at all, and, in fact, still does not, with a forecast of 3-5″ of snow tonight and tomorrow!

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My favorite outfit of March was the denim jacket over the tartan plaid shirtdress.

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My top three favorite looks from other bloggers in March were:

  1. Jennie from A Pocketful of Polka Dots in this “classic but trendy” mix of blue chambray, leopard cardi, high brown boots and fabulous spiked necklace! PS: if you have short hair, scroll down her page for ALL the inspo and different looks!

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2) Olivia of Livvy Land in this dreamy blush cardigan. She has about the most enviable cardigan collection I’ve ever seen – soft tones, yummy fabrics, and everything mixes and matches perfectly with her easy style of dressing.

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3) Sara from Stylish Sassy and Classy inspired me with her floral top and white jeans and now I am all about that look!

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And because life is not all about fashion…

My three favorite books I read in March and that I highly recommend (click on images for book descriptions or to purchase):

And the return of a long-time favorite blogger who had been absent since last fall, Un-Fancy. She writes about her relaxed capsule wardrobe and has such an easy, pleasing style that I always enjoy her posts and pictures, whether about style, home or life.

I’ve been enjoying an app this year called 1 Second Every Day and you post a picture or video to it daily (or catch up whenever you want, it doesn’t judge) and at the end of the month (or week or year or whatever time frame you select) it “mashes” them together as one-second clips that are savable and sharable. I’ve been posting them on Instagram but they fit into the Month in Review theme here, so…

What do you think about Month in Review as a regular feature? I can swap different categories in and out…favorite movies/tv shows, best new products, etc. Thoughts? I always enjoy seeing others’ reviews and recommendations. In fact, I will hardly buy anything anymore without some sort of recommendation, whether from someone I know personally, or a blogger whose taste I consistently admire.

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Well, that wraps up March…onto April…and maybe spring weather at last!!! Who am I kidding, this is what outside looks like right this minute…Caleb looked like the abominable snowman when he came back in after his morning pee.

Bye, then!

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Springtime Plus Size Try-on Haul

So, spring shopping has begun. Well, spring trying-on and buying-and-returning has begun. I only need (want) a couple new clothing items to round out my warm weather wardrobe:

  • cropped/ankle length white jeans
  • a couple pairs of colored pants that aren’t jeans
  • some tops that are a little nicer than just tee shirts – like button downs and tunics
  • 1-2 lightweight knit sweaters
  • a dress. I don’t NEED another summer dress but I saw this dress in the Ellos catalog and I can’t get it out of my head. I need to at least try it on.

Boy, when I make it into a list it seems like more than I was thinking. But in reality I know I’ll never find all these things to fit, so…the list will narrow as I go along.

Last weekend I stopped into my local Avenue store and tried on a few things. I was pretty firm with my black and white palette. I feel like I start out every season with black and white, then just add in a few colors later on.

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These were supposed to be ankle length but I’m short and my legs are short, so. And the cuff wasn’t sewn-in or anything so it was just going to come right down and then the pants are too long. I’ve tried cuffing jeans and I’m just not good at that sort of thing. They’re crooked, they don’t stay up, etc. I need the manufacturer to do it for me and put in a couple nice stitches!

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Avenue White Washed Rolled Ankle Jean size 22

Since the ankle length was too long, I tried on the capris thinking they might just go to my ankle. But they’re just weird. They’re not as neat as a true skinny jean would be but they’re too tight for a straight leg…and the bottom had like a kick flare. Which is not flattering on my short thick legs.

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Avenue Washed Capri Jean in White size 22

So I went up a size and it was no better.

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Avenue Washed Capri Jean in White size 24

I tried a pair of wide-leg pants in a black and white geometric…but my legs are so thick that “wide leg” fits me like a tapered cut! If the waist wasn’t pulled up all the way to my bra I might have bought them!

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Avenue Dot Relaxed Pull-on Pant size 22

Then, always the search for white tee/tank/tunic SOMETHING WHITE. Sigh. This should not be so hard.

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Avenue Reversible Tank size 22/24

And, just because it was white and on sale…I tried this ruffly blouse on. It wasn’t bad but I don’t really have a need for that, so…back it went. Back it all went.

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Avenue Choker Cascading Ruffle Neck Blouse size 22/24

I’d been excited to try a couple things from Loft’s new plus size collection. The items were nice but the fit was just a little off. I will definitely try something else from there because I really like the styles and when they go on sale the prices are not unreasonable.

Loft Items:

Not much luck on this first go-round!

What do you have on your spring wish list??

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Week in Review: Week 107

I love the charming older homes in my area.

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I was sick for two days and didn’t get out.

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My view from bed.

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And then we had more snow!

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And had another snow day, which we all love very much.

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I’ve been looking for an etagere in just the right size since I moved here back in August, and finally found one on CraigsList. Guess I should have emptied my car out before going to pick it up. Fortunately I had some old computer cables in the back to tie the hatch down as it wouldn’t shut with the etagare legs sticking it. AND, fortunately, it was less than two miles from my house so I didn’t have to drive far after picking it up. It’s very hilly around here and I was afraid all my junk would start spilling out the back as I drove uphill!

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In place.

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I got a little neatening trim from Morgan at Posh. Now it looks more like an intentional style vs. growing out bald head.

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Janey in the packing peanuts.

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Shopping for comfortable black flats. I loved these but managed to control myself.

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The final contenders.

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Ooh, pretty! Should I??

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New hair, new shoes, Gwynnie Bee dress – off to a wedding!

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Awww!!!

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And today I slept on and off almost all day! Running errands all day yesterday and being out late last night took it’s toll on me and I could just not stay awake so I kept laying back down “for just 5 minutes” and would wake up hours later…until 4:00 this afternoon!!! Gah! I don’t feel ready to start a new work week yet, but…..that’s life.

 

This is Not a Blog Post

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It’s just me telling you sorry, no real blog post this Thursday. I let myself get behind (shocker) on travel prep and now I’m out of time and my flight is crackadawn Saturday and I have a work thing Friday night SO…I did not make time to do pictures and now I don’t have a real blog post for you.

But, I did want to talk about something a little bit. About blogging.

In the past few days, I’ve read such disheartening posts from two bloggers I’m really a fan of – one is a fashion blogger and the other…uhm, a horse blogger? Riding? Not sure what the term is, and anyway, to be clear, I follow her on Instagram not a blog, but that’s just fiddly details. It’s the same thing. They’re sharing on social media. With us. Sometimes it’s just how-to and what to do and look at this horse/dress/jump/haircut, etc. Sometimes they share of themselves. And that is the part that draws me in, that makes me feel like I know them, like I am friends with them. And I’ve spoken about that before.

But now…PEOPLE HAVE HURT MY FRIENDS. Yes, my “I Have Never Met Them In Real Life and Probably Never Will” social media friends, but still. Just like in the “real world,” there are icky people. People who go out of their way to be, at the very least, annoying…and sometimes downright mean, or worse, destructive. On social this may consist of snide comments…people can take words out of context (we know how easy that is to do, say, in a text, without seeing facial expression or hearing tone of voice) and get angry about  something and really run with it to an extreme. Bloggers are sometimes harassed by commenters, reputations can be trashed, etc. Things can get really ugly and hurtful. And then bloggers (aka PEOPLE) want to stop. To stop posting, stop sharing. Stop being our friends. The one young woman this has been happening to is so upset by it all, she’s pulling out of social media. A) She does a service to other riders and horse trainers when she shares her lovely gentle methods and now no one will be learning from her. B) It appears that she makes some degree of income from her Instagram posts and she will lose that, and we all know how life-changing a loss of income can be. She’s really shaken and upset by things people have been saying. She’s a young person and it’s such a shame that she’s having this negative experience when she’s just sharing good things. The other woman is older (not OLD, but an adult). And she’s not leaving social or blogging but…it’s just very upsetting to have people throw mud at you when you’re just trying to share…nice things!!! Ugh. I feel for both of them.  And for all the many people who have experienced things like this.

I feel fortunate that so far I’ve not had any really unpleasant experiences with my blog. I don’t know if it’s just cuz I’m still a “blog baby,” ha ha, or WordPress is really doing its job in keeping spammy comments out of sight. I hope I never do have to deal with these small ugly people…but I know it sort of goes with the territory as your numbers of followers/readers get higher.

And the flip-side of that is how grateful and appreciative  I am of the truly lovely people I have following my blog and commenting. I thank each of you for being kind and patient and understanding and complimentary and all the wonderful things that you are and say.

So, that’s all I have for you today. The next time you’ll hear from me I’ll be in…………

Didn’t think I was gonna spoil the surprise when I was this close, did you??