Last Day of Summer – Really!

The past two weeks we’ve been bombarded with pictures of pumpkin lattes and cozy sweaters and all the spicy brown tones…but really, that was jumping the gun just a bit! Tomorrow is the last day of summer, for real, so today I am showing my last summer outfit of the season (sadface).

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It was my one big splurge slash birthday present to myself – this Johnny Was top in a lovely summer blue. Like my favorite Junarose dress, I feel so free and floaty in it, and apparently free and floaty is my favorite way to feel. Unrestricted. Like flowers swaying in the breeze.

 

I wish I could be more like those flowers, gently swaying, bending softly to the wind…

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At least in this top, I sort of feel that way.

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It’s important to have clothing that feels good to you. That feels good on you.

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The end of a season is a good time to assess your summer wardrobe, whether it worked for you…whether it felt good for you. I’ll be going through my closet soon and reviewing my summer wardrobe – what worked and what didn’t. I’ll share that review with you. I hope it will help you with your own wardrobe.

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I feel a little like the top of a beautiful birthday cake with tiny blue ruffles and roses.

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The End.

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What I Wore:

  • Johnny Was tunic top, size 3x. No longer available, similar here and here in plus size and here and here in straight size.
  • Gloria Vanderbilt Amanda jeans, size 22W short. Plus here and straight size here.
  • New Balance sneakers

I’m linking up with Emma and her Style with a Smile Link-up.

Thank you to Robert Mitchell Photography.

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Month in Review: August 2018

I have felt very disorganized ever since vacation, I can’t quite get my ducks together, so, yes, I realize it’s the middle of September and I’m just now posting my August in Review, but…LIFE.

Top 3 Blog Posts

#1 I Was Ghosted Ooh, that’s a little sad. There’s not even a picture. I will say now, just about a month later…of course I am surviving. But I am sad. And what I just have to keep repeating to myself is “my feelings don’t matter…what I want doesn’t matter.” I mean, sure, they MATTER, but not in this situation. Am I sad? Sure. But it doesn’t matter. Are there things I wish I could tell him? Sure, but why? They don’t matter. Are there still things I wish I could do with him/talk to him about, etc? Yes, but it doesn’t matter. That’s the sucky part about break ups. One person says “it no longer matters what you feel or what you say or what you want…because *I* no longer feel that or want it.” The End.

#2 Some Thoughts on Accessorizing Oh my gosh, this feels like a year ago!

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Old Navy striped dress, old, similar here and here in plus size and here and here in straight size  /  Old Navy beige duster length cardigan, old, similar here and here in plus size and here and here in straight size  /  Kate Spade heart tote, old, comparable here and here  /  Keds Champions sneakers with Vionic arch support inserts / Hat was a gift

#3 Time Flies, But Does it Have To?

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Sleeveless top by Andree by Unit, old, similar here and here in plus size and here and here in straight size  /  Gloria Vanderbilt Amanda jeans, size 22W Short.

Favorite Blogger Outfits

August was an odd month. Vacation, break-up, I wasn’t online as much as usual and very little was interesting me. So there is only one favorite blogger outfit and it really interested me! I saw it right at the start of the month and it set the bar for everything I saw after it, and just nothing lived up to it. So for August, only one Favorite Blogger Outfit.

Melanie from Bag and a Beret in this inexplicably amazing outfit. I want to wear this tomorrow. And the day after that. And the day after that. I want to wear it every day. That question I always ask myself when I’m on the fence about an outfit or buying a new item – “Is this the person I want to be??” THIS is the person I want to be. Bold. Not precious. A rule breaker. Easy. As in “with ease,” not like “simple.” Thank you, Melanie, for setting the bar high. I hope I can live up to your role model-ness someday. Even just ONE day!

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Favorite Product

I got this teeny tiny little hair straightener…for my teeny tiny hair. It’s finally just long enough that I can get a straightener through the top part and make a smoother look. Cuz while I’m enjoying the ease of super short hair, I am not a fan of the tight waves I get at this length. So at least I have another option now. I like it cuz it heats up super fast and does what it’s supposed it. Two thumbs up.

AMOVEE Mini Flat Iron Smart Ceramic Tourmaline Hair Straightener Negative Ionic Technology for Travel

Favorite Movie

Remember my sadface when I cancelled my MoviePass app? No movies for me this month.

Favorite Book

Wow, August – not such a great month for “favorites”! I only read one book and it was…okay. I liked his other book better, The House on the Corner of Bitter and Sweet, and maybe in comparison this one just didn’t…you know. Knock my socks off. But it was definitely an interesting story, a page turner, he tells a story well. I just didn’t LOVE it. But we can’t love everything. That doesn’t mean they’re worthless. Did you read anything you liked in August??

Favorite Video

Totally random and unrelated to the blog, but so so lovely.

3 Biggest Accomplishments

  • Only drinking TWO McDonalds Sweet Teas all month. And surviving.
  • Getting every last box out of my kitchen.
  • Survived a break-up.

Things I Learned this Month

  • That Kansas City, Kansas and Kansas City, Missouri are the same place! 

I can’t say I was sorry to see August go. I think of it fondly, cuz vacation. But there was just a cloud over everything for me. Now we’re flying through September and I feel like I’m just finally getting myself straightened out and settled in after vacay.

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NYFW Street Style Trends

I LOVE Fashion Week…and almost more than the runway shows themselves, I love the shows happening out on the streets – the street style looks from guests attending the shows. The “real” fashion is, of course, amazing, but generally unattainable by us common-folk. I love to see what’s being worn out on the streets by the real life fashionistas, and to think about how it could be incorporated into the average wardrobe. So, in looking through hundreds (and hundreds!) of pictures from the past week-ish, I pulled out some that make some points or that I just thought were really lovely. Hope you enjoy my review (I’m feeling a bit like Joan Rivers…but nice!!!).

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1) via Refinery29  /  2) via Refinery29  /  via Vogue
P8 clashing colors
via Man Repeller
page 2 leopard
1) via Popsugar / 2) via The Cut  /  via Vogue
P9 brights
via The Cut
page 3 white shirts
1) via Vogue  /  2) via Refinery29  /  3) via Popsugar
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via InStyle
page 11 green page 2
1) via Man Repeller  /  2) via Man Repeller  /  3) via Pop Sugar  /  4) via Pop Sugar                               /  5) via Man Repeller
page 12 sequins
1) via Pop Sugar  /  2) via Man Repeller
page 13 bathrobe
I know, I know, I said I was going to be nice. But come on!
page 4 pattern mixing
1) via Refinery29  /  2) via Style du Monde
page 5 no explanation
1) via Popsugar  /  2) via Man Repeller  /  3) via Vogue
page 6 sneakers
1) via Popsugar  /  2) via Vogue  /  3) via Popsugar  /  4) via Popsugar  /  5) via Popsugar  /                6) via Popsugar
P7 timeless classics
1) via Popsugar  /  2) via Popsugar  /  3) via Popsugar  /  4) via The Cut
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via In Style  /  Jaime JeTaime blog

There was so much more I could have shared, I could do this Every Darn Day, but there’s just So Much! PS – GREAT BIG GRATEFULNESS KUDOS to all the street photographers being more inclusive this year than I’ve ever seen – plus size gals, transgender, physically disabled, little people, different races and colors – it was pretty awesome. There’s a LOT further to go, but at least we’re moving in a better direction of inclusivity.

Anyway, this was just a little peek into some real life trends appearing during New York Fashion Week. I hope you enjoyed my rundown. What was your favorite? Might you try something new? I hope so! I definitely will!

This is Not My Birthday Post

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It is my birthday – September 5 – I am FIFTY-EIGHT YEARS OLD. 60 is hurtling towards me – but this is not my birthday post.

Here’s the thing – I had a sweet concept in mind for my birthday post, but I just couldn’t pull it together by myself. I need help. So rather than let the idea go altogether, I’m giving myself a week’s grace period and will try again to post a VERY SPECIAL BIRTHDAY SPECTACULAR next Wednesday, a week after my birthday. I know, it’s lame, but I’m determined to not give up without a fight.

So this is just a regular old blog post. On my birthday.

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Tuesday was the first day back to work after two weeks of vacation. We all know how THAT feels. So I wanted to make things as easy for myself as possible, so I wore this easy-peasy white blousy plus-size peasant top by Catherine Malandrino. It’s a nice gauzy cotton with just enough colorful embroidery that it’s not a big yawn. It is So Roomy!!! My favorite plus-size Gloria Vanderbilt Amanda jeans were perfect with the top…and while I wore sneakers to work (closed shoes only!) I changed into my Mephisto slides when I got home cuz STILL SUMMER. Still hot. Over 90 here.

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It’s always nice to wear something easy and comfy on a day that you think might be tough. It’s just one little gift you can give yourself. I don’t think we gift ourselves nearly enough, do you??

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And I wanted to share two things with you – to all of you finishing up your vacations and going back to work this week. These are two of my favorite blog posts I wrote back when I was doing my “I Saw a Dragonfly” blog, which was just…my thoughts and photography, etc. One is How to Enjoy the Last Day of Vacation and the other is How to Survive Enjoy the First Day Back to Work. How to Enjoy the Last Day of Vacation REALLY made me miss Caleb. There are so many things I don’t do anymore because I don’t have him to do them with.

Okay, not going to get all sad again. I did enough of that over vacation. I *am* going to apologize for the lack of photo quantity and diversity. It was a selfie day AND very very hot. And mosquitoes. I’m in a bit of a photo slump. I have ideas galore but not currently the means with which to execute them. Bear with me, I’ll get it figured out eventually.

What I Wore:

Photos by me.

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The Anti-Shopping List / Plus Size Try-On Haul

We all know how to make a shopping list. It’s a list of things we need or want. Simple. Want to bake a cake? Make a shopping list: eggs, flour, sugar, cocoa, butter, etc. What’s maybe NOT so obvious is an “anti” shopping list – things NOT to buy. You know, those things that keep ending up in your wardrobe cuz you thought you wanted or needed them, but you FORGOT that a, b or c. You forgot that you already HAVE two light-blue tencel sleeveless summer dresses in your closet. You forgot, as much as you coveted that white denim jacket, that you MUST have a jacket with pockets. You forgot that wearing a sheer top means you must wear a cami underneath and YOU HATE CAMIS. You forgot that fixed seams at your waist aren’t doing you any favors. You forgot to measure the arm hole on that sleeveless top to make sure your whole bra won’t be showing. You forgot to do the “sit test” in that button-front blouse and now, seated at your desk at work, it is gaping open at the bust and the v-neck is falling so low that your whole cleavage is showing. Grr.

It’s easy to fall deep in love with a beautiful item…and to overlook the little things that will make it end up on THAT side of your closet again – that side where things go that you never wear.

So I have an “anti-shopping” list. I keep it right on my phone with the regular “want/need” lists, so I don’t get love-is-blind-ed by that perfect color/cut/pattern and overlook the detail(s) that will render it unwearable once I get it home. Some of the things on the list are obvious to me because I kept forgetting and making the same wardrobe mistakes over and over. But to be really thorough, I actually went item by item in my closet and noted what downfall (if any) each item had…so I knew to try and avoid that again in the future.

This is my list. Yours will be different: anti-shopping list

Now, these are just rules – not a life and death credo – and sometimes rules are meant to be broken (ha ha). But I like to be reminded of the rule before handing over my hard-earned money to be really really sure there’s a good reason for breaking it.

And My Number One Rule of Shopping: Just Because You Like It Doesn’t Mean You Have to Own It. I think that’s what causes a lot of us to bring home way too many things – clothing, home dec, etc., and then it goes unused, unworn…and just causes clutter and then stress when we realize There’s Too Much Stuff!!!  

I hope you consider making your own Anti-Shopping List so your wardrobe stops ending up with mistakes in it!

And now…I went shopping! Ha. I’ve been buying some “heading into fall” items and some basic “wear all year” items over the past month and just letting them pile up so I could do one big haul video. I’ll share links to the items below and in the description box of the video itself. And hey, video production quality much better – yay! I tried out a new camera and the lighting situation is so much better and there’s not that constant annoying sound of the lens motor maintaining focus. If you watch, let me know what you thought!

What I’m Keeping:

What I’m Returning:

I’m still on the fence about the burnt orange boho top from Venus.com. Thoughts?

I’m linking up today with Shelbee at her Link-Up on the Edge

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It Couldn’t Be Easier

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Look familiar? I’ve worn (and shown!) this dress exactly 3,289 times (Give or take. Let’s just say it has long surpassed the 30th wearing!). It’s the infamous “invisible” black swing dress from asos. They almost always have some variation of it – right now they have a long-sleeved turtleneck version here.

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The point is, I have worn it A Lot. If you’ve been following me for awhile you’ve seen it here, where I wore it to work everyday for a week to see if anyone noticed or cared (they didn’t); here, where I showed how to take a summer dress and wear it all year-round; here and I’m sure in many “what I wore this week” posts. I bought it in 2015 so it’s 3+ years old. I’ve worn it under cardigans, kimonos, vests, a denim jacket, an unbuttoned chambray blouse, and this day under a Tencel utility jacket. Suffice it to say I’ve gotten my money’s worth!

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On this day we were headed into Brooklyn for the day, looking for a thing I’d seen on Instagram, a cute little Mondrian-style greenhouse. I knew the approximate location, but reckoned there’d probably be a lot of walking to find it exactly. I wanted to do a photo shoot (cuz Brooklyn) and started to “dress up,” but then said nope, that’s not what I would really wear when traipsing around who knows where, on a cool and sprinkly day.

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So, on went the easy black dress, a light hooded jacket and Keds sneakers with Vionic arch support inserts, and off we went! I know this outfit is not exactly the stuff of great fashion blogs, but it’s real. And it couldn’t be easier.

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Speaking of “the stuff of fashion blogs,” it’s so fun going into Brooklyn or Queens or the city because you actually see girls dressing the way you see in blogs. As opposed to (yawn) Long Island where they look like the product of a giant conglomerate of shopping malls, churning out the same stores, the same clothes, creating the same looks. I know, I know, look who’s talking, Miss Worn the Same Black Dress Times 27,000 times. But it’s a nice change of scenery.

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Here is the story of the little colored glass house. And now it has ended up in this nice little community garden…but it seems they’re not sure if it will stay there.

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Do you have one item that you’ve worn again and again and again with many different items to change the look?

What I Wore:

Thanks, Linda, for the pictures!

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White Plus Size Dresses for Summer

I recently had a little convo on someone’s blog about my love for summery white dresses in my youth…

(Ugh, my computer is flashing obnoxious messages at me – I’d written this post in advance and had intended to put pictures of my two favorite white dresses from my youth right here….but now I can’t access the computer at all and I’m just finishing this up and scheduling it from my phone, so the pictures are not happening.)

It’s been a long time, though, as I just felt a white dress wasn’t right for my size or shape. White has so many rules around it…”darker colors are more slimming,” light colors jump out at you, seeming larger, versus dark colors which tend to recede…BUT…I’m starting to feel the pull, in spite of those things. Maybe it was Anna’s white dress + black moto jacket look that pulled me back over to the bright side.

So I’ve started looking around online to see if I could find something that might feel right…something easy, not too precious…that I could wear to work with a little cardi and white sneakers or out in the evening dressed up with a pretty sandal.

White dresses can be a little challenging to get just right, so here are a couple guidelines for buying and styling:

  • We’ve discussed quality of fabric before, especially for summer…and I think fabric quality is even more important with white. Check to make sure it’s either lined…or heavy enough material that it’s not see through (unless that’s the look you’re going for). Again, unless you’re going for That Look, keep your ‘wares neutral-toned so they’re not visible under the dress. People sometimes think white is the best color for undergarments under white clothing, but what you see then is the contrast against white bra and skin-toned skin. If your bra is skin-toned, there’s no contrast line and it’s creates a more invisible undergarment look.
  • Like a black dress, a white dress is like a blank canvas and almost anything goes! Black, naturals, neutrals, pastels, hot colors, cool colors…there are limitless ways to style a white dress. Not just as far as bags and shoes, but also jewelry, scarves, jackets, belts.

Here are some white summer dresses I’m liking, that aren’t too fancy/dressy or bodycon (read: tight-fitting):

Women’s Plus Size Eyelet Wrap Dress Ivory from Target

Sharagano Sleeveless Lace Shift Dress (Plus Size) Nordstrom Rack

Calvin Klein Plus Size Cotton Eyelet Trapeze Dress Macy*s

Ny Collection Plus Size Crochet-Trim A-Line Dress Macy*s

White Linen Scoop Neck Dress Zulilly

Inset Crochet A-Line Dress Avenue 

Linen Sleeveless Slip-on Dress Vivid LinenLinen Sleeveless Slip-on Dress

A LWD (Little White Dress) can be just as classic as the LBD. I personally would love to wear it with natural colored accessories…or orange!  How fun for summer, right?? My only concern is SPILLING. I’m the worst. When I eat out I eat like a baby, keeping a napkin hovering under my fork in case I spill. And I still get food on myself! Am I the only one with this problem? I swear I’m going to design an adult bib to take out with me. Why are people only given bibs with lobster? Other things are messy…and stain more than lobster and butter!

Sigh.

Do you love a white dress as much as I do??

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Olive You Long Time: #30WearCampaign

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Bobeau olive green lace-up tunic, size 3x. Old. Comparable here and here in plus size and here and here in straight size. 

I’ve had this olive green plus-size Bobeau tunic for three years, I can’t believe I’ve never featured it on the blog! It’s older than the blog! And I usually wear it over black leggings and under a black duster length cardi (shocker. what don’t I wear under a black duster length cardi??)

 

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Old Navy black duster length cardigan, size 2x. Out of stock (gasp!). Comparable here and here in plus size and here and here in straight size. 

I broke up all the black with my cognac espadrilles. Up til this summer I’ve worn this outfit with black flats, so I’ve branched out a little. I’m loving the richness of cognac with black. It warms up the darker color and adds a little interest without being too in your face. It’s just a gentle accent vs. a POP of color.

I’ve been looking for a cross-body bag in a similar color. Like this or this.

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Black Faded Glory knit leggings, size 3x. Out of stock. Comparable here and here in plus size. 

Here I am with my rare coffee! Ha, didn’t I just say I only drink 1-3 coffees a week? I really only got this one as an excuse to go into Starbucks twice to change outfits in their bathroom. Technically, they now have to let you in whether you’re a paying customer or not but I didn’t mind getting a cold drink on that hot day.

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Aldo cognac espadrilles

I’ve been thinking more and more about sustainable fashion, “slow” fashion. I’m not ready to jump in with both feet, but it is on my mind and I do feel ready to put a toe in the water. It’s definitely a thin line to walk, being a fashion blogger and trying to limit your clothing purchasing while increasing the lifespan of the pieces in your wardrobe. But I think it can be done.

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Have you heard of the 30-Wear Campaign?? The premise is, rather than purchasing items that you only wear a few times (The Daily Mail UK states that “…almost 2,000 women found that the majority of fashion purchases see the light of day just seven times.”), that you ask yourself these questions before making a purchase:

* Will I wear this at least 30 times?

* Is this a high-quality piece?

* Will it last at least 30 washes?

* Will I still want to wear this in 6 months time?

* Will I still want to wear this in a years time?

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The principal is selecting clothing you will keep and wear for a long time, specifically, at least 30 times. That may not sound like a lot, but if you wear Item A once a week…it will take you over seven months to wear it 30 times. And most items, due to weather variations during the different seasons, are not in your closet for seven months at a stretch, so you would be asking yourself if you will be content wearing it throughout this summer (for example) and again next summer.  And not only would you be content wearing it, but will it hold up for that many wearings…and the commensurate cleanings? This could rule out a number of lower-priced, fast fashion items, as they were just not made to last season after season. I’m not saying they never do, but in general, cheaply made, lower quality fabric content pieces, will not last as long as more well-made items.

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Of course,  that’s the rub to starting to build a slow fashion, sustainable wardrobe. It’s expensive. But remember you’re not trying to fill your closet with a hundred (or however many you have now) articles of clothing. You’re just looking to buy what you need. I can speak for myself here that I know I have more clothes than I need…and I know I have lot less than many people. So the goal for me might be to just add 1 new item each season…a high-quality item that has timeless appeal for me and that I will want to have in my wardrobe for a long time to come. Okay, maybe 2 new items! Ha. Remember, just my TOE is going in right now. It’s a big concept to wrap your head around.

And to bring it full circle, this is my olive green tunic’s 3rd summer with me…and it won’t be its last.

Want some more inspo on this topic?

We’ll talk more about this in the future…but I’d love to know your thoughts about this. Discuss 🙂

On a different topic…UK-based plus size retailer Simply Be has shared a blog post with quotes about body positivity from some well-known bloggers in the plus size community…and I’m included! I feel like I’m up on the Oscars stage all “Win or lose, I feel honored to just be in the company of these amazing actresses!” Seriously though, I’m proud to have been offered the opportunity to share my voice on this subject. Take a look (I’m mumble mumble down at the bottom)…discuss!

What I’m Wearing:

  • Bobeau olive green lace-up tunic, size 3x. Old. Comparable here and here in plus size and here and here in straight size.
  • Old Navy black duster length cardigan, size 2x. Out of stock (gasp!). Comparable here and here in plus size and here and here in straight size.
  • Black Faded Glory knit leggings, size 3x. Out of stock. Comparable here and here in plus size.
  • Aldo cognac espadrilles

Note: I feel a little hypocritical preaching fashion sustainability then giving you links to Buy! More! Clothes! But no one is saying “don’t buy clothes,” we all need clothes…I’m just saying I for one could be more mindful with my purchasing.

I’m linking up with Tina of Tina’s Pink Friday linkup!

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Mini Try-On AND Plus Size Sizing Rant

I never know if all y’all who read the blog actually watch the videos when I share them, so I feel compelled to repeat myself in both so you won’t miss One Sparkling Gem that I have to share. Heaven forbid.

So, as I explain in the 10-minute video below, I recently massacred two of my favorite summer dresses (this one – my heart! – and this one) by washing them oh so carefully…delicate cycle, cold water, no dryer. And still, they shrunk. The Grapes of Wrath dress to the point of being unwearable…and the lavender field dress is wearable but is no longer like wearing magical gossamer wings. Now it’s a little snug in the waist and bust and definitely shorter…so I may not be spinning in it in flower fields anymore. I’m so so sad. And that loss of two of my favorites led me, in some desperation, to the internet. I might have “forgotten” to pay a medical bill this month and bought two dresses from Asos instead. Don’t tell anyone. Desperate times call for desperate measures.

As I also explained in the video, I’m always forgetting how to convert my usual US size to UK size…and when the two dresses I wanted were out of my size American, I took a chance on UK sizing. My long-time fave black dress that I’ve worn 3.2 million times is an Asos UK 28 (US 22). But, it’s a swing dress so a little roomier than a “waist-ed” dress. Both these dresses were available in a UK 24 (which is a US 20, which I KNOW is too small for me but I got confused. BUT WAIT.) so I took a gamble.

Dress 1: ASOS Curve ASOS DESIGN Curve Floral Print Gingham Button Through Sundress

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Ugh. Ha. Nope. Just nope. You can see how charming the dress was on the model (shocker) by clicking the link above. Even the colors in the print seemed more subdued on the website than in person.  But the point is the size. Clearly too small. Way too snug in the sleeves, shoulders, bust and waist. UK 24 (US 20). I would have to go up a size or even two to get this to fit nicely.

So then I tried on Dress 2 ASOS Curve ASOS DESIGN Curve casual midi tea dress. Same size – UK 24 (US 20). Same maker “ASOS DESIGN.”

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And it’s GI-NORMOUS. I realize it has that sort of depression-era slouchiness, but this is far beyond that. This was just huge. You can see it more in the video than in the still shot here. Same size as dress above – UK 24 (US 20). I would have to go DOWN a size…or maybe even TWO to get this to fit nicely.

How are people supposed to shop successfully online when sizing is so inconsistent like this?? Using the “size guide” on retail sites is useless because they put one set of measurements – for all their products, across the board! Both these items, when I checked the size guide, gave the same measurements. Clearly…so clearly…they are not even close to the same measurements!

And I get that this situation is difficult for everybody, but for size categories that are so poorly represented in brick-and-mortar stores, it is especially egregious. I am non-plussed!

Big. Sigh.

So. Moving on. Yesterday I called my local Loft store to ask (again) if they were carrying plus sizes in store yet and I learned that while they still do not technically (yet) carry plus sizes in stores, they do accept returns of plus size items at the stores. So she told me that I was welcome to come in and browse the return rack which had about 80 returned plus size items on it. She also told me they will be stocking plus sizes in stores soon (yay) and I’m on a mailing list for an in-store event in August when they will have an array of plus sizes to try and buy.

So, Loft Plus, one step forward (thank you)….ASOS, one step back. I still love you, ASOS, but you’re going to need to work a little harder to keep me.

I did find a few of the returned items to try on at Loft…

Loft Plus Bar Back Sleeveless Swing Dress, size 24-26. I did like this very much. I love the color – I love non-colors and in-between colors. Colors that are hard for people to identify (is it grey? is it green?). It was a slinky swishy rayon-spandex blend and had an interesting back detail…

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But…it would need something over it (can you say BLACK CARDIGAN…AGAIN???) for work and I’m feeling weary of “the black cardigan over this and the black cardigan over that” right now. I’ve got enough of those already. And it’s no replacement for the lavender filed dress, so…..pass.

I had this LOFT PLUS STRIPED SQUARE NECK TEE, size 24/26, in my online shopping cart during the last sale but I just wasn’t sure about the sleeves. I’m okay in sleeveless. But cap sleeves and little tiny ruffle or flutter sleeves, just don’t work for me (note to self). Plus, snugger in the belly than I like. Oddly, Loft dresses fit me well through the hips and belly…but tops are too snug. Pass.

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These next two I can’t find on the website, possibly because they were returns that might have been purchased awhile ago and so may no longer be available online.

This sweet little black and white geometric print was right up my alley, but…again, too tight in the belly. Pass.

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And this, I ADORE. It’s either a heavy silk or Tencel, chartreuse (chartreuse is my JAM!!!) band collar utility jacket. They just had the one in a size 20, so too small…and it was a little pricey. I’ll keep watching the site for a possible return and a price markdown because I would love this for fall and spring.

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So that is my little try-on and mini sizing rant. How do you deal with sizing issues?

Watch the video to see the dresses in action.

Thanks for reading and commenting and all the things!

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It’s a Wrap

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Wrap dresses are one of those items you see all the time on lists of Things You Must Have In Your Wardrobe. In reality, YMMV when it comes to these iconic dresses, but they’re definitely worth a try. A true wrap is very flexible when it comes to sizing and fit as you actually “wrap it” only as snugly as you like. The surplice top can be very flattering…or sometimes a little risque, depending on how low they go (or how adept you are at pinning!), and I have always found the skirt to be slimming. And this is from someone who typically wears non-waist-ed swing/trapeze/sack style dresses. But I like renting wrap dresses from Gwynnie Bee to try for awhile and I’m usually pleased.

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Diane Von Furstenburg created the wrap dress in 1974 (I’m so old I actually remember this and her Time magazine cover in the dress) based on a kimono design. She used stretchy knit fabrics in a ton of different fun prints and sales went through the roof! The design has been continued (and copied) to this day and her brand is as strong as ever today (GO #GIRLBOSS!). This one is So Amazing, but if I were to splurge on an actual DFV wrap, it would be the iconic chain print in this sienna color.

I actually had one back in the day. I would have been 15 or 16 here. I can’t recall if it was actually a DVF or just a knock-off but I remember I Had To Have It, even though it was like a whopping $28. I do remember thinking it made my hips look kind of big. Oh, brother!!! 

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Ha ha, nice keeping your eyes open, Bettye! Nice giant corsage, Boyfriend!

This cute stylized floral wrap dress is by London Times. I got it via Gwynnie Bee so it’s not a keeper, but we had a nice visit. I could have dressed it up with pumps or strappy sandals but I prefer “casual-ing things down,” which I did here with white Keds and a denim jacket. It also would have been well-suited to a cropped cardigan because of the defined waist.

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Have you ever tried a wrap dress? Did you like it?

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What I’m Wearing:

Special thanks to Robert of Robert Mitchell Photography for the great pictures!

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