My Body vs. The Retailers

There are many posts out on the interwebz about body positivity and feeling comfortable in your own skin, etc. This applies to all body types, shapes and sizes. This is not purely the domain of the plus size person.

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Mostly, I do feel comfortable in my body. Emotionally comfortable. I don’t feel that I need to be thinner or different to be “better.” I’m neither less nor more than anyone else based on the shape or size of my body. And I’m proud of myself for feeling that way. I know many people struggle with their size, be it bigger or smaller than “the norm.”

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That said, I don’t always feel physically comfortable. I’m a lot of weight for my body (and joints and feet and knees and hips and heart) to support and carry around. It can be hard to get up, hard to move around, forget about steps or inclines, lordy! And especially after last year, a year of not feeling well and being very sedentary…and then this year when my feet got so painful…I have barely moved, and I am really out of shape.

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I don’t think you need to be “thin” to be “fit.” I know there are plenty of people who disagree with that, but I have seen overweight people run marathons (with no resulting health crises), I have seen fat people doing yoga, weight training, swimming, cycling, and more.

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To the title of this post, I see many debates about the clothing industry and how they’re not meeting the needs of every body out there. Do I think they can do more? Sure. Do I think every clothing line is ever going to accommodate every size and shape out there? Probably not. I’m normally a size 24. I see other women who are size 24 who are shorter or taller than me, have flatter stomachs or wider hips than me, who carry their weight all on the top or all on the bottom…there is no way One Size Will Ever Fit All! There is no way multiple sizes will ever fit all!!!

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And there are factors besides size when it comes to selecting clothing. I know several retailers who carry my size and even higher, and the clothes fit, but I don’t care for the fabrics, colors, or prints they use. Another couple of retailers carry my size and above and I really admire the styles, but the items are priced much higher than my budget allows.

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Can you see where I’m going with this? For any number of reasons, retailers may always fall short of my needs – size, style and budget-wise. And I can’t control that. What I can control is ME. While others may say “it’s not your fault” that clothes don’t fit, and that may be true, the fact of the matter is that if I want more than three tops in my closet <- gross exaggeration for purposes of making a point, *I* can be proactive and not wait around for retailers to cater to me. I know this may be an unpopular opinion in the plus size community, but I can do something about this. If designers can’t make a top to fit my stomach…I can make my stomach smaller to fit their tops. Is this right or fair? Perhaps not. But I would like more clothing selection than is available that fits me. So I can meet them part-way.

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This is my very roundabout way of saying I AM GOING TO LOSE SOME WEIGHT. Ha, how odd is it that in the current environment I feel I need to defend that statement. The world is crazy, yo! But yeah, I have no intention of going nuts with this, but I want to get to a place where clothes shopping is not so frustrating and difficult…and where just getting from Point A to Point B is not so challenging and exhausting. It will not be the focus of this blog, but I’ll let you know from time to time how I’m doing.

PHEW.

Onto the clothes! As serious as my thoughts were this week, my outfit was anything but! I got this fun, bright, easy-breezy Johnny Was top from Gwynnie Bee and I love it! Johnny Was makes beautiful boho-inspired items – tunics and kimonos and dresses, in plus and straight sizes. You’ve seen me in other Johnny Was looks here and here and here. They always make me feel happy, but quite honestly, I could never in a million years afford them! So Gwynnie Bee allows me to rent them to wear and enjoy…and then send back, without the high price tag! If you’re interested in learning more about clothing rental service Gwynnie Bee and getting one month free (!!!), follow this link.

Beyond the beachy tunic, my new Target sunglassesYAY FOR NO MORE SQUINTING (!!!), my long-time fave skinny jeans from Charlotte Russe and Sam Edelman chestnut brown sandals (sold out, similar here) round out the look.

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My sister sent me this cool book called “Brooklyn: A Personal Memoir: With the lost photographs of David Attie” by Truman Capote. I love the black and white photographs of old Brooklyn. It’s sad to see the landscape so modernizing these days. Interesting side note re Truman Capote, my cousin was in the 1967 movie “In Cold Blood” as “young hitchhiker.” He must have been 12 or 13. I’ve actually never seen the movie. Someday.

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What do you think about mainstream sizing and retailers’ responsibilities to their potential customers? I’d love to hear in the comments. 

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Spring Plus Size Try-on Haul AGAIN

I feel weird preparing something as “normal” as a blog post…but I’m trying to find my way back to some sort of normalcy…I guess really to a new normal…and fortunately, the blog is something Caleb didn’t really have an imprint on. Not like the apartment and the car and every beach and park on Long Island. So in trying to throwing myself into something and distract myself away from…You Know Who…I think blogging is as good a distraction as any. Actually, the first day I’d thought of trying my hand at watercolor painting, but that required all new equipment, yadda yadda yadda, so in the end I just watched countless hours of YouTube watercolor tutorials, which was actually quite soothing and I highly recommend it.

So while “clothing” isn’t feeling all that important to me right now, hot weather *is* coming…and whether I feel like it or not, I will need to put something on my body before going to work (new dress code and all), so….a few things arrived in the mail last week and I did a quick try-on video to share with y’all. Uh-oh, I’m lapsing into my mother’s Texas roots. I don’t recall her actually saying “y’all,” but…whatever. I’m living in topsy-turvy land. Bear with me here.

Three of the items I tried on in the video are from Amazon Prime Wardrobe . This is a new program open to Amazon Prime members where you can “try on” between 3 and 7 pieces of clothing (or shoes, bags, accessories, etc) at no charge for up to 7 days, and they only charge you for what you don’t return. One of the problems with online shopping is your money is tied up for the time it takes for the store to send you the items you bought, then the time it takes for any returned items to go back through the mail to the retailer and then the time they take to actually refund your credit card. It can take up to three weeks, from start to finish, to get the money back on items you didn’t keep. I don’t know about you, but I do not have an infinite clothing budget. I need to get my refund from Items A, B and C before I can then purchase Items D, E and F. So this is a beautiful thing. That’s the good news. The bad news is I found the selection, at least in the plus sizes, to be a little limited (so what else is new). But hopefully that will improve with time…and maybe that’s just me, so don’t go by my experience, take a look and make your own decision.

DR2 by Daniel Rainn Lace Detail Peasant Blouse (Plus Size)

No longer available, similar here in plus size, or in straight size here

Melrose and Market Bell Sleeve Button Back Floral Print Shirt (Plus Size), size 4x

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From Gwynnie Bee..

lucky brand Keyhole Back Ruffle Top, size 3x

And these are the Amazon Prime Wardrobe items:

Star Vixen Women’s Plus-Size Long Sleeve Open Hem Peasant Top With Keyhole Tie

Blu Pepper Women’s Plus allover Printed Tank With Embroidery

Ruby Rd. Women’s Plus Size Button-Front Striped Dobby Top

And if you’ve got a spare 13 minutes, you can see the rundown on each of these items as I try them on. Janey makes a cute appearance during the 4th item…at minute 5:14…if you just want to see Janey and not me 🙂  I won’t be offended.

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Throwback Thursday

REALLY throwback. Way way back. I’m going to do something a little different today. And maybe every so often. I thought I’d share some pictures from throughout my lifetime, show the different stages I went through – we all go through so many stages…of life, of style, whether intentional or not. Some pretty, some not so much, ha, but it’s all part of the process.

So here we go.

Aww 🙂 I must have been 1-2ish. We lived in a little house right on the beach in Ponte Vedra Beach, Florida. Sadly, I have no memory of this as I was so young and we were only there about a year. Funny how little girls’ dresses were so short!

A couple years later living on Long Island the first time. This is my adorable teenager sister, isn’t she so That Girl-esque?? And why the ruffles on my tights? Why? Why?

A big jump to my late teens-early 20s. I was very horsey. Most of the time I wore jeans and sneakers or boots and breeches.

Then I got girly. And I loved me a white dress! My mother and I used to take the train every summer from New York to Los Angeles to stay with her family. The train made an hourlong stop in Albuquerque and all the Indian women had blankets laid out at the station with their wares showcased – dolls and moccasins and turquoise jewelry. Every year she’d buy me a new piece. Sadly I only have one piece left now but it’s always a nice memory for me.

This was on a weekend trip my ex-husband and I took to Puerto Rico. I’ve always been a barefoot girl. Probably part of the reason my feet are so bad today!

Another big jump to my late 30-early 40s. I call this picture “I Give Up.” I was selling vintage clothing on eBay at this time and was going into easily a dozen thrift stores a week. And if I came across something that fit on my body, I bought it. It was a very sad style period for me.

But then! I discovered Gwynnie Bee! And truly, it changed my life. I tried things I never would have tried before, and started developing a personal sense of style.

And I had to share this picture from 2015, because, purely coincidentally, I am wearing the exact same outfit this afternoon!!! I really get my money’s worth out of the clothes I buy!

And that is our little walk down clothing memory lane…hope you enjoyed it, or could at least commiserate! Do you have equally horrifying pictures of your past fashion-self?

Rebirth

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Spring at last! The time has come for light layers and bright springy colors! And on a more philosophical level, a sort of rebirth for me from all the nonsense of last year, illness and treatments and worry…then ridiculous foot pain all winter into the spring…so many things keeping me indoors and inactive and feeling down. There are also some other personal things that are finally reaching resolution this year, so I’m seeing some light at the end of a long dark tunnel. Sorry to be so oh woe is me but it is what it is. But there’s an end in sight – to sprinter (spring + winter) and to me feeling so MEH. 

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And this outfit is anything but meh. I’ve shared this “bright but dark” top before here and here. You can see how versatile it is in that I’ve worn it with black jeans, medium wash denim, and now white denim. I think the top would also look nice over a white peasant/boho style skirt like this, amiright? How nice would that be for summer evenings on the beach? Oohhhh…summer evenings on the beeeaaacchhhhhh. I can’t wait!!!

It’s still a little chilly early and late in the day and a light jacket is called for, Just in Case. I’m the queen of Just in Case.

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This army green jacket is a couple years old from Target’s Ava & Viv plus-size brand. It’s very lightweight Tencel, a sustainable fabric regenerated from wood cellulose. It’s similar in feel to rayon or bamboo, in that it has that same drapey characteristic.

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I was never really a white jeans gal but now I feel like they go with just about everything! How do you feel about white jeans?

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I’m trying to get away from wearing my plain silver disc earrings Every Single Day, so these little dangly silver and turquoise ones are on frequent rotation. Can’t you just see my hair being a teal blue?? I’m thissssss close.

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Thanks to my pal Linda for taking these pictures. We had a nice dinner after. I took a picture of my food and thought of Nancy of Nancy’s Style, who commented recently that it’s not a great idea to read my blog when you’re hungry (mostly my Week in Review posts) cuz I’m always posting pictures of the places we go to eat and the yummy things we have! So I will refrain. This time. Just so she can get ahold of herself 🙂 (GET AHOLD OF YOURSELF, NANCY!!!) 

What I’m Wearing:

  • American Rag floral border printed tunic, via Gwynnie Bee, 3x. Sold out, comparable here and here in plus sizes and in straight sizes here and here.
  • White Gloria Vanderbilt Amanda tapered jeans, size 22short. From Amazon
  • Pink velcro Vans Ward V sneaker, from DSW
  • Dangly turquoise earrings from Forever 21, no longer available. Comparable here and here and if you prefer gold to silver, here
  • Army green Ava & Viv/Target Tencel jacket, size 24. Old, comparable plus sizes here and here and straight sizes here and here

I’m linking up today with:

If you want to find some new bloggers to check out and maybe follow, visiting the link-ups is a great way to see a lot of different bloggers in one space.

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Coming Out of Hiding

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Last week was a stressful one for me…and when I get hit with stress/anxiety overload, I do what I gotta do, and then I hide out. In bed, in a book, in a movie. So I worked…and I hid. Hence, no “Week in Review” as there was nothing to review. I have crossed the stressful bridge, however, and can now move on…and am trying to make up for a little lost time. All this by way of explaining that I Went Out on a Monday Night, ha ha. I’m such a wild child!

A girlfriend and I were headed to an art exhibit that another friend had some photos in. Anytime we go to an area we do not frequent often, we hit Google up for what interesting/weird/good things there are to do/see/eat there. This time we found a little place called Costa Nova Waffles so we headed there for a little snack before the art exhibit.

OH. MY. GOODNESS. The shop was teeny tiny, just enough space for a few stools along a side wall and the front window. The decor was beachy and fresh in an aqua and white color scheme. The two girls working there were darling and answered all our questions and let us taste things before selecting. What it IS, is…a cross between a crepe and a waffle filled with yummy goodness. So they pour a crepe-like batter into a large round waffle iron and press it so when they’re done they’re thin and a cross between soft and crispy. They spread on your choice of filling while it’s still warm, then add any mix-ins – like fruit, chocolate chips, marshmallows, twix, etc. – before folding into a pie-piece shape and slide it into a brown bag for easy handling. I went with the traditional Portugese egg custard, which was very nice and just the right amount of sweet. I kept mine pure and didn’t add any mix-ins. Next time I’m going for the Speculous cookie butter. It was such a nice light crispy snack. I definitely recommend trying them if you get a chance.

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It was almost springlike, but so windy walking around the town! When will it end??? 

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dressed for spring, even though Mother Nature was not quite on board. This white embroidered peasant blouse by Vintage America Blues was this week’s Gwynnie Bee rental. It was a very light and floaty viscose rayon which was a welcome change from 17 layers of sweaters. It partnered easily with medium wash skinny jeans and a denim jacket (doesn’t everything??). It is available in both straight sizes (here) and plus sizes (here). I’d like to just point out that the “pale pink” flowers you see online are actually more of a muted day-glow peachy-pink. Just sayin’.

Then we headed over to the art exhibit.

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And to my delight one of my friend Amy’s photographs won an Honorable Mention award. She’d submitted these really beautiful portraits. I think she uses lighting really well. You can see more of her work here.

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She’s actually photographed me for the blog a couple times…here, here and here.

Do you ever feel the need to just hide out from life for awhile? Or do you deal with “weeks from hell” in another way…?

Thanks to my friend Linda for taking these pictures.

What I Wore:

  • Vintage America Blues embroidered peasant blouse, size 3x. If you like this look, you might also like these: Plus size option; straight size option
  • Denim jacket, no longer available. Comparable plus size option here; straight size option here.
  • Charlotte Russe Refuge cropped skinny jeans, size 22 here. Straight size option here.
  • Light grey New Balance Women’s Fresh Foam Arishi Running Sneakers here

I’m linking up today with Catherine of Not Dressed as Lamb and her #IWillWearWhatILike link-up party!

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All Dressed Up & Yadda Yadda Yadda

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While this would be a great date dress, I just wore it on a visit to The Vanderbilt Mansion on the north shore of Long Island. The day was still a little chilly but the sky and water were so so blue, my friend and I couldn’t resist taking a walk around the grounds and visiting some of the historic indoor sites as well (where, sadly, no photography was allowed).

Could that water BE more blue???

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In 1910 William K. Vanderbilt II (a regular Richie Rich) bought 20 acres on a wooded hill above Northport Bay and commissioned a New York City architecture firm, Warren & Wetmore, to build him a summer house (that’s some summer house!). These are the same two architects who designed the Grand Central Terminal in New York City for William’s great-grandfather Cornelius Vanderbilt in in the early 1900s. Over the next 26 years the architects expanded the house into a stunning Spanish-Revival style mansion Vanderbilt called Eagle’s Nest. Over the years, Vanderbilt purchased more land and expanded the estate to 43 acres. One of Long Island’s few remaining Gold Coast mansions, it is listed on the National Register of Historic Places.

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I love Spanish style architecture. The tile roofs, arched windows and doorways, the wrought ironwork. This place has all of that! I think my rainbow-hued dress complements the style of the estate, don’t you?

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I’m not sure if this is a boat house or possibly a caretaker’s cottage.

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I’m wearing my sparkly black cardigan. The one that, every year, just barely makes it back from the chopping block of my closet clean-out and is hung back up “just in case.” I’m glad it was there in this case. I’d thought I would wear a fine knit black duster with this dress, but the dress is a little shorter than my other dresses and when I put the  long-line duster over it, it looked like a bathrobe! This shorter dress needed the shorter length cardigan. I guess the sparkly cardigan will stay another year.

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The dress is a faux-wrap style with a tulip skirt and elbow-length flutter sleeves. Stretchy and drapey at the same time.

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I made a short video showing the dress without the cardigan over it if you wanted a better look.

What I Wore:

  • Catherine by Catherine Malandrino plus size dress, size 3x. Via GwynnieBee and in a straight size here
  • Black flats, Taryn by Taryn Rose
  • Black sequin cardigan, old. Comparable here: plus size here and here; straight size here and here
  • Vintage pendant necklace

I’m linking up with Shelbee of Shelbee on the Edge and her #SpreadTheKindness link-up party and also Catherine of Not Dressed As Lamb and her #IWillWearWhatILike link-upThere are lots of wonderful bloggers linking up there so take a look and maybe you’ll make a new friend!

Thanks to Karen for taking these pictures and trudging up hill and down dale with me after running a 5k earlier that morning! You rock!

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Dancing Machine (aka Plus Size Wedding Guest Dress)

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This past weekend I went to the wedding of a young friend/co-worker. Since most of my friends are closer to my own age and already married and my family is far away across the country, I don’t often go to weddings so haven’t needed a “wedding guest” type of dress in a long time. And since I need that type of dress so infrequently, I didn’t want to have to spend money on such a specialty item. Thanks goodness Gwynnie Bee was there to save the day!

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Around mid-February, I edited my Gwynnie Bee closet a bit, putting casual items on “hold,” which means they’re still in your virtual closet for when you’re ready for them, but GB won’t send them to you til you make them “active” again. I also put the prettiest dresses on “priority.” This way I was very likely to get something wedding appropriate in time for the big day!

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I was very pleased to receive this plus-size Tahari dress about 10 days before the wedding, giving me time to find shoes and complete the outfit. I don’t usually wear such a form-fitting dress…and “buy body-shaper” was on my to-do list but…I was pooped before I got to it so that’s that.

I love the big floral print and the fluted sleeves…and the exposed zipper detail in the back.

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My black Old Navy coat was the perfect length for the dress and because it’s a very simple style it easily dresses up or down. And I already had this bright pink pashmina scarf that worked perfectly with the dress. I removed the cross-body strap from my black bag and turned it into a clutch for evening – I love versatile items like that!

I wore my favorite turquoise earrings…

Earrings tied into the color of the dress

Earrings match the lamp

The shoes were another story. Shoes are *really* a struggle for me. Under the best of circumstances I have hard to fit feet – wide, very high instep and flat arches. Add to the fact that I can just barely reach my feet – so tying, velcro-ing, tongue-tidying – all a challenge, if not an impossibility. Add all THAT to my foot pain – heel spurs on both feet, continued neuropathy from the chemo, along with who-knows-what-else causing pain elsewhere…and finding a shoe that fits, is comfortable, and doesn’t cause me anymore pain than I already have – is really a struggle. So I tried on the orthotic brands like Vionic, the “comfort” brands like Naturalizer and Easy Spirit…but nothing was as comfortable as this funky, off-road-looking shoe from a brand I’d never heard of, Taryn Rose. When I slipped my foot inside I LITERALLY heard the angels sing. They were as lovely and cushy as my super soft Cloudfoam sneakers! AND they were on the clearance rack! So much winning!

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Silly posing ahead. When I shoot indoors with the tripod I always feel like I have to do something  to break up the monotony of “here’s a picture of me in a dress next to the bookcase. here’s another picture of me in a dress next to the bookcase. hey look, here’s a picture of me in a dress next to the bookcase.”

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A classic modeling pose called “Oh Look! A Quarter!”

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And to really break things up, here’s me, The Dancing Machine!

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If you’d like to try Gwynnie Bee for one month FREE, use this link Gwynnie Bee One Month Free and start adding designer items to your virtual closet!

What I’m Wearing:

I’m linking up today with Emma Peach over at Style Splash for her “Style with a Smile” linkup – go take a look at her site for great style ideas for us…uhm…EXPERIENCED ladies 🙂 as well as all the other linked-up blogs!

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Week in Review: Week 107

I love the charming older homes in my area.

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I was sick for two days and didn’t get out.

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My view from bed.

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And then we had more snow!

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And had another snow day, which we all love very much.

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I’ve been looking for an etagere in just the right size since I moved here back in August, and finally found one on CraigsList. Guess I should have emptied my car out before going to pick it up. Fortunately I had some old computer cables in the back to tie the hatch down as it wouldn’t shut with the etagare legs sticking it. AND, fortunately, it was less than two miles from my house so I didn’t have to drive far after picking it up. It’s very hilly around here and I was afraid all my junk would start spilling out the back as I drove uphill!

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In place.

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I got a little neatening trim from Morgan at Posh. Now it looks more like an intentional style vs. growing out bald head.

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Janey in the packing peanuts.

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Shopping for comfortable black flats. I loved these but managed to control myself.

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The final contenders.

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Ooh, pretty! Should I??

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New hair, new shoes, Gwynnie Bee dress – off to a wedding!

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Awww!!!

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And today I slept on and off almost all day! Running errands all day yesterday and being out late last night took it’s toll on me and I could just not stay awake so I kept laying back down “for just 5 minutes” and would wake up hours later…until 4:00 this afternoon!!! Gah! I don’t feel ready to start a new work week yet, but…..that’s life.

 

How to Pack for a Warmer Climate

I’M GOING AWAY! ON VACATION! TO SOMEPLACE WARM!

Not that there’s anything wrong with the cold, but it *will* be nice for one week to be in mild temps so I can do stuff without bundling up or my face hurting. But it can be a BEAR to figure out what to bring to a warmer climate when you live in a cold one. So I made a little video about how I whittled down from Many Items to Fewer, More Practical, Items. It’s practically a little baby capsule wardrobe.

It can be especially challenging when there are multiple people involved and you don’t know what everyone is going to want to do, so you sort of have to prepare for every possible contingency…WITHOUT having your suitcase go over weight (50lbs in this case).

And since I just did a video and no still shots from my wardrobe brainstorming (thinking pretty highly of my methods right about now), I will share a few pics that I never shared from last fall, of a cute’n’cozy sweater from Gwynnie Bee.

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This is *not* something I’ll be packing to go away. It’s by Rachel Roy, who does a really nice plus size line. One of my favorite summer dresses is from her, you can see it here.

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I loved that this cardigan was exactly the same length as the dress below it. It’s like they were made for one another. But it would have been equally cute over blue wash or black denim.

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Look at all the pretty colors that are in it! I’m just wearing a solid black base layer underneath – black dress, black tights, black booties – but the outfit looks very colorful just because of this one item. The beauty of the base layer.

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Ha ha, funny story. For some reason, I don’t remember now why, I took the sweater off part way through shooting, oh I think I wanted some pictures with it just over my shoulders, which looks cool when I see other people do it but when I do it it just looks like I have no arms. But when I put it back on I turned the shawl collar to the inside so it looks like there’s no collar…and I love a nice shawl collar cardigan. I’m such a derp.

Okay, so it wasn’t that funny.

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Look, no collar. D’oh.

And now our time together has come to an end. Almost.  Take a look at the video. Tell me if you think I’m not taking enough stuff. I did just order a pair of white jeans that I hope will fit so they can go with me. I think they’ll “warm weather-ify” all my black and grey tops. Do you find you usually end up with too much on trips…or not enough? Or the right amount but just of the wrong things…???

My 10 Favorite Outfits of 2017

AKA It Was Too Cold Last Week to Get a New Outfit Photographed (if I’m being honest) So Let Me Recycle Some from Last Year. In my defense there WAS a snow bombogenesis cyclone, or whatever they ended up calling it. Translation: there was a lot of snow, a LOT of wind, and temperatures in the single digits all week. I thought I would be able to make some new outfits out of the items from last week’s winter haul, but in reality I sent everything back except one thing – that’s a conversation for another day. So, blah blah blah, I have nothing new to post this week. But I do like taking a look back over the past year and revisiting my outfits, sharing with you what worked or didn’t work for me. So. That’s what I’m gonna do!

#10 – Old Navy striped dress with Charlotte Russe tencel button-down and my beloved Superga velcro sneakers. I love an easy outfit. I love stripes. I love this tencel blouse over just about anything. Win win win.

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#9 – Hey look, the tencel button-down again! This time with a grey long sleeved tee from Avenue and this amazing Lucky Brand cardigan (rented from Gwynnie Bee), over Charlotte Russe cropped skinny jeans. I love the concept of layering, and it looks so great on slim straight bodies. I have a hard time making it work right, or look right to me, on ME. Still, this was a good attempt.

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#8 – This time I’m repeating the Charlotte Russe skinny jeans…now with a white linen blend tee from J. Jill and a dreamy Johnny Was kimono rented via Gwynnie Bee. This kimono was so so pretty.

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#7 – Hey, guess what I’m wearing again? The Charlotte Russe skinny jeans and the linen blend tee from J. Jill. This time with a lightweight cardigan from Torrid. And my Supergas. First day wearing them. And I fell on a hill and almost rolled into the pond in them!

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#6 – Ah, the much-loved (and much-worn!) magic black (or maybe it’s black magic!) swing dress from Asos…with the much sought-after denim jacket from JC Penneys, a borrowed leopard scarf, my Gorjana hoop earrings from Nordstrom, with lined footless tights from Maurice’s and black booties from Avenue. Super comfy and can go just about anywhere.

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#5 – Another Old Navy jersey knit dress with the ochre chenille cardigan from Target that I am UB-SESSED with. The color is amazing, it’s super soft and cozy…and the length is perfect for dresses or pants. Same tights and boots as above.  Vintage Echo scarf that belonged to my mother. Thanks, Mommy!

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#4 – A super cute botanical print top by Junarose from PlusBKLYN under olive green fleece cardigan from Rainbow, black leggings by Faded Glory from Walmart, with my comfiest sneakers from Adidas.

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#3 – Uh-huh. I wore a dress that looks like vintage Christmas wrapping paper. I’m a real bad-ass. Come on – how cute is it?? The dress is from Cow Cow, the black cardi is Old Navy…tights and booties same as above.

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#2 – Nothing dramatic here, but a solid pulled together look that I’ll wear a gazillion times. Old Navy striped jersey knit dress (yes, I have a lot of them!), Old Navy cardigan, golden mustard scarf from TJ Maxx, otk boots from Avenue.

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And my #1 Favorite Outfit of 2017 is this amazing bird print dress by Junarose, from PlusBKLYN. I know this isn’t much of an “outfit,” it’s just a stand-alone dress. But that’s what makes it So Perfect!

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I’m sure you noticed there’s a lot of repetition among my favorite outfits. I’m grateful to have so many pieces I like enough to wear repeatedly! I feel like I’ve chosen well when something gets a lot of wear.

I’m not putting links to the items cuz they’re all old and out of stock (well, the two Junarose items might still be available on the PlusBKLYN site – they were still there the last time I browsed there). But they’re mostly such basic items, each of the mentioned sites probably has something extremely similar.

Thanks for taking the little walk down memory lane with me!

xoxo