A Look Back at: Gratefulness
Long time readers might recognize this post from two years ago. I admit, I’m recycling a post! But sometimes we say something good that bears repeating…and this is certainly the season for repeating this one, in particular. That said, I still have, and wear, this same outfit!
I have to confess: I am not a positive person. My glass is not half-full. I do not easily see “the bright side of things.” Or rather, for every “good” I also see the “bad.” I see both. Everything HAS both. I don’t wish to be more “positive” if that means ignoring the negative. I hate being told, “smile, it’s not so bad,” or “look at the bright side.” To me “look at the bright side” means “ignore the dark side.” I’m here on this earth to experience *everything* – the good and the bad. Events, emotions, all of it. I consider myself a realist. I want to study the bad AND the good….and only then can I form an educated response or plan. Only that feels responsible to my “self.”
So a holiday like Thanksgiving can be challenging for me. Sure, I can come up with a list of things I’m grateful for. But as I’m making up THAT list in my mind, I’m ALSO making the list of things I’d like to change, to improve on, to better.
I know I have it better than SO many beings on this planet. I have a home, an income, I have my relative freedom, no one is going to kill and eat me. But I wish for so much more. There are things I’ve lost that I long for. And sometimes that wishing and longing, especially at a time like this, makes me feel ungrateful.
So I’m going to really make an effort to make a practice of being grateful. I might do some of it here. You guys will keep me honest if I forget, okay?
I am grateful for friends who support me, laugh with me, continue to ask me to be a part of something. I am grateful for my dog Caleb who has been a part of my heart for so many years and who keeps me company and keeps me active. I am grateful for family who, while they live far from me and I don’t often see them, I trust would help me if I really needed it. I am grateful for a job that not only helps me keep a roof over my head and food on my table, but also allows me some creativity and to work with really special people. I am grateful to be born into a country where I have freedoms and options as my birthright. I am grateful for my health. I am grateful for a strong, brave, independent, healthy daughter.
Last Saturday I was grateful for a beautiful day spent with friends…and the ability to travel to interesting places. After a trip to a museum, we stopped at Cedarmere, the charming Roslyn country home of 19th-century poet, newspaper editor and civic leader William Cullen Bryant. On this day the foliage was really outstanding and we all took pictures of the trees, bridges and buildings. I wondered if you’d enjoy seeing some pictures of locations we go to to shoot – what do you think? Yes or no?
I am most certainly grateful for the people who help me with this blog as well as the people who read and follow it and post comments. That’s my friend Linda in the photo above who has photographed several sessions for Fashion Schlub, including this one. Linda, I’m so grateful for all your help!
I would like to end by wishing friends and followers a Happy Thanksgiving. I hope you all have things to be grateful for.
What I’m Wearing:
- Old Navy black&white striped swing dress, size 3x
- Maurice’s cropped jean jacket, 3x. Sold out, comparable here and here.
- Mustard yellow rayon scarf from Marshall’s. Comparable here.
- Target red faux converse sneakers. Comparable here.
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jodie filogomo
So I’m one of those Pollyanna types. I may see both sides, but I’d rather concentrate on the good. It’s an annoying trait to some…I know that.
But it really would be boring if we were all alike….
Besides, I always look better with a smile. I think it’s my cleft lip scar—-when I’m smiling you don’t notice it as much. So it’s my way to camouflage it…
XOOX
Jodie
http://www.jtouchofstyle.com
bettyewp
Yeah, I’m certainly not trying to encourage anyone to be more like me!
That said, it IS Very Annoying when people try to convince ME to BE MORE POSITIVE. Ugh.
You have such a great smile, Jodie!
But I just have to tell you, everytime I go to read your blog I ALWAYS type in “Jodie’s House of Style,” ha ha. Google knows what I mean and sets me straight, but I do that Every Single Time.
Nancy
It s good to remind ourselves of the good things in life. I always see the good things in life, luckely, I need too!
bettyewp
Here’s a good thing – you! Your Instagram “runway walk” videos always bring a smile to my face!
julia
Beautiful photos and yes, we want to see where you photograph! Have I said that before? You sound like my husband. He always says he’s a realist too. I’m a glass half full person. Why? It seems more fun to me. I feel negativity like a weight and I feel optimism like air and I’d rather be floating high above than sinking. But, that’s me. And we are all able to feel and think what we want and no one perspective is correct. You do you! I’ll be reading all along!
bettyewp
Yeah, you’ve said that before 🙂 Sometimes I forget what I’ve said/asked in the past so I’ve quite possibly asked that more than once. Thanks for always piping in!
Susan Marinelli
Me too. What Julia said
bettyewp
Ooh, hey, have missed ya! Thought maybe I lost you in the big self-hosting move, I seem to have lost a lot of views. But I’ve been reading your great posts over at Shelbee on the Edge! If you guys didn’t know, Susan here has been writing some guest posts over at Shelbee on the Edge – there’s one here https://www.shelbeeontheedge.com/guest-post-bueller-bueller-spreadthekindness-link-up-94/ – she’s very entertaining, why don’t you take a look?!
PS – The Fogless Blog is coming up and Wednesday is the deadline for getting me pictures or links! I’d hate for the NAMER to miss it!
carmen
I’m also a Pollyanna type, my glass is half full, sometimes overflowing! People say I’m always smiling. My husband is the realist. Sometimes a bit negative, but he prefers being a realist. We need realists to balance us. 🙂
❤️carmen
https://fashionableover50.wordpress.com
bettyewp
We need ALL of us 🙂
And I just have to say, Carmen, you win Avatar of the Day! That picture is so beautiful!!!
carmen
Thank you so much Bettye, glad you like my Avatar! 🙂
I wanted to say this is a beautiful spot for a photoshoot, we love looking for interesting places too, part of the fun of blogging. ❤️
Iris
The pictures are as beautiful as they were originally. I LOVE fall and the fall colors. Thanks for re-sharing.
Grace & Peace, Iris
http://www.IrisOriginalsRamblings.com