Week in Review: Week 91

Well, better than last week but still not a ton of excitement.

More wig photos. Can’t stop won’t stop.


Got my wireless shutter release to “help” with selfies. Ack.


Actually, in the end, it had to go back cuz it didn’t have the right cable for my camera. I’ve already got the new one.

This week’s Gwynnie Bee. Uhm, no. I love it in theory. But it’s just too…too everything on me. It’s gone back and I already have the replacement.


I’ve actually been feeling a little energetic and like I *want* to walk! So Caleb and I went for a very slow walk around our very small block (it’s only .3mile around). My feet were hurting, but *he* was really really struggling near the end. He just can’t do outings anymore like he used to. Anyway, there are so many pretty houses in this area.


That one reminded me of mine and my husband’s second house, The Money Pit. I LOVED that house. But. We just couldn’t stay there long.


I love graphic tees. I just don’t like the sayings I always see in the stores. I mean, they’re fine and all, but it’s not what *I* want to wear on *my* body. But this one caught my eye on Instagram. If only it came in plus sizes.


I’m still looking for several pieces of furniture for the apartment so I can finally finish unpacking! One is a bedroom dresser – wider than high, vintage but not fancy, doesn’t have to be perfect, but. I liked this one at the thrift store but…SIX HUNDRED NINETY-EIGHT DOLLARS?!? Are they INSANE?? It’s pretty and all but not in good condition, look at all the missing veneer on the top right edge and along the bottom. Sheesh.


My boy went to the groomer yesterday and got his hairs did and now he is very handsome. He’s showing off to the passers-by on the street.


I came across this picture from November 2014. I miss being able to go on outings and adventures with him.

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And this was a very nice quiet weekend. I’ve been doing some more unpacking and a little cleaning, going through old photos…just random productive things but taking it slow. It feels good to finally be able to do things and not be exhausted after just a few minutes.

OH, I went to the dr this week for my 2-month checkup. My blood levels are almost back to normal, which I could tell by the way I feel…but I told him about my feet and how they were still really bothersome with the neuropathy. He prescribed something and I’m 3 days on it and feel no difference yet. Guh. Anyway, I go back in March for scans to make sure I’m still all clean in there.

A short week ahead with the holiday, so yay. Do you have Thanksgiving plans?



Week in Review: Week 87

Feeling better every week so I’m getting out more and back to my normal activities, YAY.

Last Sunday some friends and I drove up to Tarrytown, NY to visit Lyndhurst Castle and the Tarrytown/Sleepy Hollow lighthouse.

Of course we needed trip snacks.


Lyndhurst Castle


There was a lot of walking. I can keep going if I can keep stopping to rest.




The long walk to the lighthouse was worth it.


I was terrified at walking across this bridge. Bridges not my thing. When I drive over them I have to stay really focused on NOT steering the car over the edge. It’s weird. Does anyone else have that? Walking across not much better, especially when they’re these grate-bottomed ones that you can see through. Terr. If. Fying. But I did it!


Got this Lucky Brand dress from Gwynnie Bee on Monday. Nope. It was cute but overall too small. I felt like I was wearing a little girl’s dress. Back it went and had another one in a couple days.


Managed to get one Outfit of the Day posted on Instagram. I still haven’t figured out the good photo spots in the apartment so I haven’t done many OOTDs since I’ve been here.


Went in search of sunset and/or foliage a couple afternoons.


One day Caleb and I went to a new place but the trail started out as SUCH a narrow rocky steep hill that it was really challenging for us both…and we finally reached a point where he was just DONE. His butt plunked down on the ground and he wouldn’t or couldn’t get up. I got a little scared thinking what if I have to carry this dog back down that hill?? I sat down and rested with him for a bit then I managed to get him up and turned around and we descended VERY slowly. It was a little harrowing for us both but we survived. A little further down that same road we found a spot a little better suited to our needs and we just sat on the beach til the sky turned pink then we went home.


Ooh! My ThredUp purchase arrived! Excited to try it on later…


Trying to soak up the last bits of afternoon daylight before we set the clocks back in a few weeks. Can anyone tell me WHY we still change the clocks for Daylight Savings Time??

Bettye xoxo


Cardigans Are a Girl’s Best Friend

Okay, first of all, forgive me as I have selfied. I had no available photographer this week so I figured out I could use a light stand as a tripod workaround. I always lose the little piece on the tripod that attaches the camera to the tripod, rendering said tripod useless. But the hard part of selfies isn’t where to put the camera or how to take the picture from umpteen feet away…it’s how to get yourself in focus!!! So, my apologies in advance for a high percentage of not-quite-in-focus pictures.

That said…I really enjoyed wearing this Karen Kane floral dress from Gwynnie Bee…BUT it was only wearable with a cardi over top. It was a little too clingy to my hip bumps and my tummy on its own…but a cardigan is magic and just glides right over those things and you’d never know there were any problem areas at all!

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Aforementioned hip bumps…not quite as evident in the photo, but trust me, they’re there.

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And tummy…

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But with the cardigan all that just disappears…

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Interestingly, my friend Julia over at When the Girls Rule just posted today about a top she calls “the fixer.” And I think a loose-fitting cardigan falls into the category of “fixer,” as it fixes whatever’s underneath. I’m borrowing your term, Julia, cuz it’s brilliant! 

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So if you have something that seems a little too snug for you in spots, don’t necessarily discount it. If you love it, you can “fix it” with a loose cardigan over top.

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Plus, they’re wonderful for extending your summer wardrobe into the cooler months of fall. I’d had this dress in my Gwynnie Bee closet for some time, and it just arrived now in the middle of October. Layering the cardigan over it made it autumnal!

Speaking of autumnal, just some borrowed scenes from my girlfriend’s front porch…

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What I Wore:

  • Karen Kane floral dress via Gwynnie Bee, 24
  • Old Navy black duster cardigan, 2x
  • Hat from Headcovers Unlimited

Week in Review: Week 85

Well, I’m finally starting to feel a little better…so I can get out a little more and not end up so house-bound and cranky!

It’s so good to have near-by places that I can get to in just a few minutes and see something pretty or just people- or dog-watch. This is a VERY doggy town! Anyway, I caught the local crew team finishing up their practice just before sunset.


Caleb got to stroll around a bit. It’s harder now to let him off lead as he’s so deaf that he doesn’t hear me call him and he’s so dotty that he forgets to look for me and just wanders off. So it was nice that he was able to have a few minutes of freedom on this deserted spot on the beach.


Another day we tried to catch sight of the harvest moon as it rose up over the horizon. It’s always a guessing game as to where the best spot will be. I still think this is a good spot but it was so cloudy that the moon didn’t show anywhere til it was high in the sky much later.


My friend and I went to a lake to try and get some pretty sunset shots but it was a very nothing sky. So we did an Outfit of the Day instead and then went to Denny’s for brinner. Man, do I look tired!

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Loft dress, Old Navy cardigan, Vionics shoes, vintage scarf

Friday night I went to our work event “A Special Night for Our Special Kids” to take pictures for our blog and newsletter. An entire amusement park is closed to the public for the evening and is open to families with children (and adults) with autism. The park is less crowded, quieter, lines are shorter or nonexistsent – all to make a nicer time for these kids for whom noise, crowds, waiting, etc., can be a real challenge.


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Saturday I planned a custom tour for myself of Red Hook, Brooklyn. I really needed to get out of Dodge but I still can’t do a lot of walking, so I planned in lots of little stops where I could drive to The Thing, walk just a short distance to The Thing, then go back to the car to do the next thing. It was perfect. Red Hook is a small, quietish, waterfront neighborhood in Brooklyn. There are no subway stops there so there’s less hustle and bustle than other areas.


There’s a couple good street art areas…




Some nice gardens…


A little garden space at Pioneer Works, a multi-cultural space, with plantings to attract wildlife.


Some very interesting homes. I love how the one shutter on the window is actually the twin towers.


This was my schlubby outfit of the day. Oofah those pants are horrendous. But so comfortable.


I got a key lime pie. I’ve never even HAD key lime pie so I’m not sure what possessed me. I just had to have it. It’s very good but too tart to ever be a favorite of mine.


Views of the Statue of Liberty.


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And great sunset views.


And yesterday I was exhausted and barely moved! But it was a good exhausted cuz I’d had fun the day before. Today I’m off for Columbus Day and the goal is to get a few more boxes unpacked and things put away and organized. My body is saying NO! NO GOALS! SOFA! But…I’ll try to do SOMETHING productive.

Hope y’all are enjoying the three-day weekend and have a good week ahead.

Bettye xoxo

Week in Review: Week 82

Another pretty quiet week. I didn’t do much, BUT, I did do an apartment update video so you can see what I’ve been up to in the past 3 weeks (not much, ha!). The video is at the end.

I won a $100 on a birthday scratch-off! Yay. This replaced the money I spent the day I had the tire blowout: Used Tire + New Valve came to exactly $100, so.


Met some friends for dinner, but first we went to the lake for some pictures…and I actually got to see a little bit of a sunset.


The Fried Who Shall Remain Nameless took an Outfit of the Day pic for me and I got a little silly.




Yesterday I had my last chemo treatment, woohoo! I’ve got horrible chemo acne right now, so that’s lovely. But the dr said I should start feeling normal again in 5-6 weeks so I’m really really looking forward to that!


And that was my week. But if you’re interested in an apartment update, here’s a little video for you…

Have a good week, y’all!

Bettye xoxo

Week in Review: Week 79

Phew! THAT was a week! I finished up packing (just barely), had chemo #3 of 4, and moved to the new apartment. All hands were on deck for moving day so things went very smoothly, for which I’m grateful.

I’m on the hunt for a new office chair. Could this be it??

Ready to cash in the coin jar. How much do you think is in here??

My handsome nephew helped move my old sofa to the dump, yay!

And we’re in the new place!

The day after moving was a rest day…and today my daughter and I spent the day together, not doing anything packing or cancer related. It was really nice. 

And now my legs are screaming from doing too much today but it was so nice to just get away for a little bit. Unpacking can wait.

She’s Alive!!!

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Yep, I’m alive! The last couple of weeks have been spent preparing for a trip, going away, and now getting caught up on life after being away. I had a little mini family reunion with my sister and brother-in-law, and their daughter (my niece), her husband and their beautiful one-year old daughter Annabelle…and my daughter was able to join us for a few nights, as well as my bro-in-law’s sister and her partner.

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We stayed in a nice condo right on the beach in Indian Shores, Florida, which was very nice and vacationy…and HOT. I don’t know how people live there intentionally. But it was good for a vacation, being right on the beach. We sat our chairs right in the water and just enjoyed relaxing and catching up with one another. I caught up on a LOT of sleep, I was still worn out from radiation, but I finally feel all caught up this week and feel Really Good for the first time in months. Just in time to return to chemo tomorrow and start all over again. But at least I had a little reprieve and created some good memories…like when a giant manatee glided right past my sister and I when we were out in the water…practically within touching distance! That was amazing.

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It’s so important to get a Real Break now and then…getting outside your normal realm, away from responsibilities, work, phone calls, even social media. Sometimes you don’t realize how…AARRGGHH…you are with life in general, until you’re able to step away and have a break. Even if you can’t go on a trip, you can take a day to go somewhere new and explore a bit, see different things, and come back with some new memories and maybe a clearer perspective.

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Speaking of stepping outside your normal realm, how cute is this dress? It’s the dress I got at Plus Bklyn (see post here ) cuz I wanted one new, fun, summery thing to take with me on vacation. This is so light and breezy and easy to wear, I just love it. And I’m not generally a hat girl but my niece gave me this hat in Florida because my scalp kept burning. In the end, the hat was not for me while sitting in the hot sun, and instead I took a washcloth, wet it in the ocean, and lay that on top of my head. Now THAT was a fashion statement, indeed. My apologies that I have no photographic evidence of this event but it was brilliant. Kept my head cool and un-burnt.

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Back to the dress by Junarose, it’s not my usual look, loosey goosey with a large print…but now I think it’s my favorite dress of the summer and I’ll be wearing it a LOT.

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And I love these big boho earrings. They’re very dramatic and have a lot of movement. And the boys like that, you know 🙂

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I made a new friend. I had Doritos.

What’s your favorite outfit this summer??

What I Wore:

  • Junarose Krissa Junglee Printed Dress, size 22
  • Earrings from Maurice’s (old)
  • Victoria Diva hat from Wallaroo Hat Company

A Tribute to Moms

I’m a mom. I know how hard it is. I HAD a mom. I know how hard I was on HER. Being a mom is H-A-R-D. It’s also a gift. I just wanted to post a tribute to moms everywhere – past and present – human moms, animal moms, “next door neighbor” moms – all the people who “mother” other people whether they’re related by blood or obligation or not.

THANK YOU to all the moms out there – for caring and driving and tolerating and wiping and buying and hugging…and loving. Happy Mother’s Day.

Here are some pictures of my mother and me…and of me and my daughter.

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Mommy 1922

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D mommy

D mommy 1956

D mommy cigarette

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I still have this dress and the matching cape…and the lucite purse

D blr baby 2

D bettye mommy

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D mommy me

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And the next generation…

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And me and my fur-baby 🙂

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(Otherwise it was an uneventful, slightly queasy, non-visual week…I’ll just lump the few bits into next week’s Week in Review).

Happy Mother’s Day xoxo

Week in Review: Week 63

Last week had a great start. My friend and I went into Greenwich Village for the day just to wander around, sit in parks, stop for snacks and dinner, and see what we could see. I love having a non-activity-based day, like we were not going there for anything in particular. We just parked and walked wherever we wanted and did whatever we wanted and it was a perfect day.





At the end of the day we drove to the west side just in time for a beautiful sunset. It was the first really warm day of the spring and there were perfect warm breezes coming off the water, it was so so nice.


The next day was May 1 and time to clear off my bulletin board from the past few months and start fresh.


Janey matches the tuffet almost perfectly.


The tulips are just about gone by at Sloan-Kettering. I hope they’ll replant with something else pretty. It makes it a lot nicer walking up to the building.


Someone at the beach was not so lucky.


I tried stepping outside my comfort zone with this top from Gwynnie Bee. I really liked the color and pattern but the flouncy hem is just not for me.


WHOA MAMA. These are fierce.


I started radiation this week. So far so good. Two treatments down, 23 to go. I lay on the table during treatment #1 trying to come up with a better alternative to crappy hospital gowns (shown below) and trying not to panic when I couldn’t take a full deep breath because of laying flat on my back and having a snug plastic mold attached tight around my belly. Day #2 I managed to meditate for about five minutes and only got distracted and antsy for about the last two minutes. The whole radiation part is only 7 minutes long. Who knew? I’m getting an education in something I never wanted an education in.


Friday was my baby’s 26th birthday. My perfect little papoose baby is now an independent, self-sufficient, strong, smart, kind, beautiful woman. I could not be more proud. She’ll be in NY in a few weeks, I can’t wait to see her.

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I still need to swap out my winter clothes for summer, it’s MAY for crying out loud. Maybe this week I’ll get to that.

Be well, my friends. xoxo




Feeling Like Myself

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Well, I’m 6 weeks post-op and I’m starting to feel pretty normal again, which makes me very happy. But it’s this outfit that’s really making me feel like myself. I love this kind of simple outfit. Denim on the bottom, a simple tee on top, and a third item over both.

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It’s getting mild enough finally to not need a jacket every time I go out, so this very thin, lightweight longline cardi from Torrid is perfect.

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And I have been searching for SO long for a nice white tee and finally got this one from J. Jill. It’s a linen cotton blend so will be very nice in the warmer weather. I *do* need a new nude bra, though (mwerp!).

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And I LOVE LOVE LOVE my Superga sneakers! When you’re heavy, bending over for long enough to tie shoelaces can be SO uncomfortable, not to mention cutting off your oxygen (!!!) that I’ve been wanting a laceless sneaker. I tried some slip-ons and they just didn’t fit right on my high-instep foot. These velcro ones are so easy! Plus, the Superga is a nice solid sneaker with a thicker sole and that helps a little with my painful heel – AND they come up high enough that I can wear my inserts with them. With most of my shoes, the insert raises my foot up so high in the shoe that when I walk, the shoe just slips right off my heel! So these were a real win. AND they were on sale for $24.99!!!

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On this day we went to a nearby park that is very fancy with waterfalls and railings and whatnot. It’s a popular wedding photo venue with local photographers.

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After shooting these shots on this walkway, we went up the steps back to the main path. Well, My Friend Who Shall Remain Nameless did…I TRIED to go up the steps…but tripped on the top step and did one of those slow motion falls…first to my knees on the concrete…then down to my elbows (never letting the camera touch the ground, win!), then because I was at the top of a little hill and couldn’t get my balance, I rolled down onto my side…and started rolling down the hill…”ow-ing” and laughing hysterically the entire time. Thankfully a small shrub stopped my descent and I did NOT roll into the pond with the geese. But it WOULD have made A Great Shot!

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So, yeah, while sometimes I like to be a little “dressier” (ie, not in denim!), other than leggings, this is my favorite kind of outfit. Easy peasy, comfy, with endless combinations.

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In other news, it looks I’ll be starting radiation treatments as early as next week, so I’ve been enjoying my little “feeling like myself” break I had between surgery recovery and beginning treatment.

What kind of outfit makes *you* “feel like yourself”?