My Body vs. The Retailers

There are many posts out on the interwebz about body positivity and feeling comfortable in your own skin, etc. This applies to all body types, shapes and sizes. This is not purely the domain of the plus size person.

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Mostly, I do feel comfortable in my body. Emotionally comfortable. I don’t feel that I need to be thinner or different to be “better.” I’m neither less nor more than anyone else based on the shape or size of my body. And I’m proud of myself for feeling that way. I know many people struggle with their size, be it bigger or smaller than “the norm.”

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That said, I don’t always feel physically comfortable. I’m a lot of weight for my body (and joints and feet and knees and hips and heart) to support and carry around. It can be hard to get up, hard to move around, forget about steps or inclines, lordy! And especially after last year, a year of not feeling well and being very sedentary…and then this year when my feet got so painful…I have barely moved, and I am really out of shape.

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I don’t think you need to be “thin” to be “fit.” I know there are plenty of people who disagree with that, but I have seen overweight people run marathons (with no resulting health crises), I have seen fat people doing yoga, weight training, swimming, cycling, and more.

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To the title of this post, I see many debates about the clothing industry and how they’re not meeting the needs of every body out there. Do I think they can do more? Sure. Do I think every clothing line is ever going to accommodate every size and shape out there? Probably not. I’m normally a size 24. I see other women who are size 24 who are shorter or taller than me, have flatter stomachs or wider hips than me, who carry their weight all on the top or all on the bottom…there is no way One Size Will Ever Fit All! There is no way multiple sizes will ever fit all!!!

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And there are factors besides size when it comes to selecting clothing. I know several retailers who carry my size and even higher, and the clothes fit, but I don’t care for the fabrics, colors, or prints they use. Another couple of retailers carry my size and above and I really admire the styles, but the items are priced much higher than my budget allows.

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Can you see where I’m going with this? For any number of reasons, retailers may always fall short of my needs – size, style and budget-wise. And I can’t control that. What I can control is ME. While others may say “it’s not your fault” that clothes don’t fit, and that may be true, the fact of the matter is that if I want more than three tops in my closet <- gross exaggeration for purposes of making a point, *I* can be proactive and not wait around for retailers to cater to me. I know this may be an unpopular opinion in the plus size community, but I can do something about this. If designers can’t make a top to fit my stomach…I can make my stomach smaller to fit their tops. Is this right or fair? Perhaps not. But I would like more clothing selection than is available that fits me. So I can meet them part-way.

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This is my very roundabout way of saying I AM GOING TO LOSE SOME WEIGHT. Ha, how odd is it that in the current environment I feel I need to defend that statement. The world is crazy, yo! But yeah, I have no intention of going nuts with this, but I want to get to a place where clothes shopping is not so frustrating and difficult…and where just getting from Point A to Point B is not so challenging and exhausting. It will not be the focus of this blog, but I’ll let you know from time to time how I’m doing.


Onto the clothes! As serious as my thoughts were this week, my outfit was anything but! I got this fun, bright, easy-breezy Johnny Was top from Gwynnie Bee and I love it! Johnny Was makes beautiful boho-inspired items – tunics and kimonos and dresses, in plus and straight sizes. You’ve seen me in other Johnny Was looks here and here and here. They always make me feel happy, but quite honestly, I could never in a million years afford them! So Gwynnie Bee allows me to rent them to wear and enjoy…and then send back, without the high price tag! If you’re interested in learning more about clothing rental service Gwynnie Bee and getting one month free (!!!), follow this link.

Beyond the beachy tunic, my new Target sunglassesYAY FOR NO MORE SQUINTING (!!!), my long-time fave skinny jeans from Charlotte Russe and Sam Edelman chestnut brown sandals (sold out, similar here) round out the look.

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My sister sent me this cool book called “Brooklyn: A Personal Memoir: With the lost photographs of David Attie” by Truman Capote. I love the black and white photographs of old Brooklyn. It’s sad to see the landscape so modernizing these days. Interesting side note re Truman Capote, my cousin was in the 1967 movie “In Cold Blood” as “young hitchhiker.” He must have been 12 or 13. I’ve actually never seen the movie. Someday.

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What do you think about mainstream sizing and retailers’ responsibilities to their potential customers? I’d love to hear in the comments. 

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Weeks in Review: Week 113-115

It has been a pretty inactive month, and not worth posting individual weeks…so I’ll do a catch-up here of the few things that have been going on. It continues to be a…difficult time right now…even beyond the loss of Caleb. Ever go through a period when no place feels like a safe, comforting space? It’s not good. Yesterday I totally hid out from everyone and everything…I watched 4 hours of royal wedding, 2 hours of the end of New Girl, then movie after movie after movie, and just let other stories fill my head. For an entire day. I needed that. I feel more human today. I’ve left the building (for food), sorted through medical bills (they are endless), and am working on upcoming blog things. I just needed to wallow around the bottom for a bit. Now I think I’m ready to come up for air. Here I go.

Just a big iron rooster.


The trees were bare, bare, bare…then overnight they turned green.


I’m so grateful for one nice day that last week…and that Caleb was feeling strong enough that we sat outside in the yard together for a bit. That was the last good day 😦  Please note the grey freckles on his muzzle. They’ll have relevance later.


I’d started a 30-day challenge of posting an Outfit of the Day every day…but I fell right off that wagon when Caleb left me. I was about to start a Will Anyone Notice If I Wear the Same Pair of Jeans Every Day for a Year experiment, but…I think I’ve worked through that.


I sent my baby cupcakes for her 27th birthday. I used this place Georgetown Cupcakes that had amazing flavors and reasonable prices, and seem to ship anywhere (in the US) and quickly.


I went to a Garden Conservancy Open Days tour of a private garden here on the Island. It was just the sort of quiet, lovely activity I needed. I might share more photos in a separate post if anyone is interested.

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Friends were good that first week about getting me out for company. We were able to sit outside here in town and have a nice dinner.


I photographed our annual 5K fundraiser run. It is always a rainy day but usually manages to hold off just long enough for the run to go off and prizes awarded.

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My daughter sent me flowers and chocolates for Mother’s Day.


My niece, nephew and great-niece sent me this locket to put a picture of Caleb in so I can wear him close to my heart. So thoughtful.


I FINALLY got a new pair of sunglasses. I bought a pair of Ralph Lauren sunnies in NINETEEN EIGHTY-FIVE that I have loved and worn ever since then…until last summer when I put them in my purse without their case, and an emery board scratched the lenses all up! Sadface. These are not the sunglasses of my dreams but my eyes have seemed even more sensitive to the sun lately so I had to get something. I don’t recall the brand but they’re from Target. Guess I could have taken the sticker off before taking the picture off, eh? I’m very noncommital to purchases. There are still tags on things I’ve worn half a dozen times! Not exactly sure what that’s about.


I got Janey these catnip-laced paper bags. She was not that impressed.


And my talented sister painted this picture of Caleb for me! She even painted in his little muzzle freckles 🙂 I cried and cried when I opened it. My boy.


One more full work week then a 3-day weekend, then a 4-day work week. That’s good. I need some uncommitted time.

What have you been up to now that it has finally turned to spring?



Spring Plus Size Try-on Haul AGAIN

I feel weird preparing something as “normal” as a blog post…but I’m trying to find my way back to some sort of normalcy…I guess really to a new normal…and fortunately, the blog is something Caleb didn’t really have an imprint on. Not like the apartment and the car and every beach and park on Long Island. So in trying to throwing myself into something and distract myself away from…You Know Who…I think blogging is as good a distraction as any. Actually, the first day I’d thought of trying my hand at watercolor painting, but that required all new equipment, yadda yadda yadda, so in the end I just watched countless hours of YouTube watercolor tutorials, which was actually quite soothing and I highly recommend it.

So while “clothing” isn’t feeling all that important to me right now, hot weather *is* coming…and whether I feel like it or not, I will need to put something on my body before going to work (new dress code and all), so….a few things arrived in the mail last week and I did a quick try-on video to share with y’all. Uh-oh, I’m lapsing into my mother’s Texas roots. I don’t recall her actually saying “y’all,” but…whatever. I’m living in topsy-turvy land. Bear with me here.

Three of the items I tried on in the video are from Amazon Prime Wardrobe . This is a new program open to Amazon Prime members where you can “try on” between 3 and 7 pieces of clothing (or shoes, bags, accessories, etc) at no charge for up to 7 days, and they only charge you for what you don’t return. One of the problems with online shopping is your money is tied up for the time it takes for the store to send you the items you bought, then the time it takes for any returned items to go back through the mail to the retailer and then the time they take to actually refund your credit card. It can take up to three weeks, from start to finish, to get the money back on items you didn’t keep. I don’t know about you, but I do not have an infinite clothing budget. I need to get my refund from Items A, B and C before I can then purchase Items D, E and F. So this is a beautiful thing. That’s the good news. The bad news is I found the selection, at least in the plus sizes, to be a little limited (so what else is new). But hopefully that will improve with time…and maybe that’s just me, so don’t go by my experience, take a look and make your own decision.

DR2 by Daniel Rainn Lace Detail Peasant Blouse (Plus Size)

No longer available, similar here in plus size, or in straight size here

Melrose and Market Bell Sleeve Button Back Floral Print Shirt (Plus Size), size 4x

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From Gwynnie Bee..

lucky brand Keyhole Back Ruffle Top, size 3x

And these are the Amazon Prime Wardrobe items:

Star Vixen Women’s Plus-Size Long Sleeve Open Hem Peasant Top With Keyhole Tie

Blu Pepper Women’s Plus allover Printed Tank With Embroidery

Ruby Rd. Women’s Plus Size Button-Front Striped Dobby Top

And if you’ve got a spare 13 minutes, you can see the rundown on each of these items as I try them on. Janey makes a cute appearance during the 4th item…at minute 5:14…if you just want to see Janey and not me 🙂  I won’t be offended.

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Throwback Thursday

REALLY throwback. Way way back. I’m going to do something a little different today. And maybe every so often. I thought I’d share some pictures from throughout my lifetime, show the different stages I went through – we all go through so many stages…of life, of style, whether intentional or not. Some pretty, some not so much, ha, but it’s all part of the process.

So here we go.

Aww 🙂 I must have been 1-2ish. We lived in a little house right on the beach in Ponte Vedra Beach, Florida. Sadly, I have no memory of this as I was so young and we were only there about a year. Funny how little girls’ dresses were so short!

A couple years later living on Long Island the first time. This is my adorable teenager sister, isn’t she so That Girl-esque?? And why the ruffles on my tights? Why? Why?

A big jump to my late teens-early 20s. I was very horsey. Most of the time I wore jeans and sneakers or boots and breeches.

Then I got girly. And I loved me a white dress! My mother and I used to take the train every summer from New York to Los Angeles to stay with her family. The train made an hourlong stop in Albuquerque and all the Indian women had blankets laid out at the station with their wares showcased – dolls and moccasins and turquoise jewelry. Every year she’d buy me a new piece. Sadly I only have one piece left now but it’s always a nice memory for me.

This was on a weekend trip my ex-husband and I took to Puerto Rico. I’ve always been a barefoot girl. Probably part of the reason my feet are so bad today!

Another big jump to my late 30-early 40s. I call this picture “I Give Up.” I was selling vintage clothing on eBay at this time and was going into easily a dozen thrift stores a week. And if I came across something that fit on my body, I bought it. It was a very sad style period for me.

But then! I discovered Gwynnie Bee! And truly, it changed my life. I tried things I never would have tried before, and started developing a personal sense of style.

And I had to share this picture from 2015, because, purely coincidentally, I am wearing the exact same outfit this afternoon!!! I really get my money’s worth out of the clothes I buy!

And that is our little walk down clothing memory lane…hope you enjoyed it, or could at least commiserate! Do you have equally horrifying pictures of your past fashion-self?

Influencer is Not a Bad Word!

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So, last week, one of my co-workers (I’ll call her C) said to me how much she was enjoying my blog and that it had influenced her to pay more attention to looking good and dressing in more than just casual jeans all the time. I was really moved by this – like wow, I’m really an “influencer,” in the best sense of the word! Not to make the moment about me (ha ha, though that is my special gift!) but it really made me feel good.

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C said she was travelling to visit family out of state and bought some new clothes – dresses – to wear on her trip. Her sister complimented her on how nice she looked and said she should dress that way more often, which I’m sure made C feel really good. And it made me feel good to know she felt good! It was a big warm fuzzy circle of looking good and feeling good!

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And that’s a huge part of why I do this – and I’m sure many other bloggers as well. It’s my way of saying you can make a big impact with how you look and feel (yes, you!) with really not a lot of effort. You just have to Do It!

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I spent many years thinking…I’m too fat, I’m too old, I don’t have any sense of style, boo hoo hoo. But finally I just decided to do it anyway. To make the effort to dress better anyway. Even If I was fat and old and bleh. And you know what? I feel so much better now. I look better. I’m still fat and old, ha ha. But…it’s better. And if *I* can do it, anyone can.

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And onto today’s outfit. Sorry to be back in the white jeans again (!) two outfit posts in a row but I got this adorable top from Gwynnie Bee and while it would also look nice over black or blue jeans (or even the green jeans on my list!), I thought it would look best over the white jeans.

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I do love this top from Loft Plus. Loft’s new plus size line really has a lot of nice items. I haven’t quite worked out the fit yet on some things. I’ve regained weight in my stomach since last year when I lost some, so a lot of things are being snugger around my belly. I do want to make a plan about that before long. Just so I can find clothes to fit!

Anyway, this top is a very nice lightweight rayon fabric, in a businessy blue and white oxford-like stripe…but then with some feminine embroidery on the chest and amazing bell sleeves. And – do you have any idea how much I love a tab/band collar?? A LOT. I love them a LOT.

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It was just a little cool and windy this day (and the next day – 82 degrees!) so the green Tencel jacket came back out. But it was so nice to finally be able to wear something that felt springy…and not be freezing!!! 

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And…just to make my photographer Who Shall Remain Nameless happy…I will share a photo she took using her own creative director skills….

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Thanks for shooting, PWSRN! You did a great job!

What I’m Wearing

  • Loft Mosaic Striped Bell Sleeve Blouse, size 26. In plus size here, and in regular and petite sizes here.
  • Picket Fence White Gloria Vanderbilt Amanda tapered jeans, size 22W Short. Plus size here.
  • Green Tencel jacket from Ava&Viv/Target, size 3x, no longer available. Similar plus size here and straight size here and here.
  • New Balance Fresh Foam Arishi Lightweight Running Shoe in light grey here

I’m linking up today with:

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Month in Review: April

Wow, I feel like April really flew by! We started the month still in snow and we’re finishing it up with a sunshiny day in the 60s. As this was a very work-busy week for me I don’t have much to share in Week in Review, so I’m going to do Month in Review again like last month and will resume WiR next week, when hopefully I will have something a little more interesting to share!

First I will say THANK YOU to all you lovely people who have been reading and following and commenting on my little blog…thanks to y’all, April was my most viewed month to-date, beating out the previous winner, August 2017, when my head-shaving post (see it here) was so widely shared and viewed. I’ve made such nice connections and friends…and have met some kindred spirits with interests beyond fashion. For someone like me who is naturally pretty introverted and what I call “a bad meeter,” it’s been such a nice way to connect with people without all the usual “in person” social anxieties. But that’s a story for another day (okay, Julia??).

All that said, my most viewed post in April was All Dressed Up & Yadda Yadda Yadda where I wore a colorful dress and sparkly cardigan…for no special reason. Sometimes you just gotta, you know??


My personal favorite outfit in April was this colorful Russian doll looking peasant top over white jeans…maybe because it felt spring…and the temperatures finally felt the same! How sick is everyone getting of talking and hearing about The Winter That Would Not End?!?

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Favorite Blogger Looks

My top three favorite blogger looks in April were:

Jenna Marie of Sincerely Jenna Marie has the casual-yet-modern look nailed with a basic white tee, faded blue denim and comfy sandals…but it’s the extra touch of the scarf tied on the bag that elevates this to me.

How cozy does Cheryl of Cheryl Shops look in this pretty pretty pink duster-length cardigan?? I love a basic white jeans + tee + cardigan look and this one is just dreamy. Not to mention that round straw tote!

(The last one did not respond in time to my email asking permission to share her photo here so I’m just including the link to the outfit and I hope you’ll go look!)

And the outlier of the bunch for me, this metallic pleated skirt with gorgeous teal blue sweater on Daniella of LellaVictoria. This look is so extra with all the metallics (those boots tho!) and yet so relaxed at the same time. Like, “Oh, do I look amazing?? I hadn’t noticed!”

Favorite Books

I did not do as much reading in April as I had been – my day job and blog work have been leaving me exhausted by 9pm most nights and if I try to read at that point I fall asleep within minutes. So I only read the one, but it was really really good. I gave it 5 stars on Goodreads and I give Very Few 5-star ratings.

It’s the emotional story of a Jewish family living in Poland during World War II, how they each have different experiences over the span of a decade. I don’t want to tell the ending, but it was a very moving, well-told story that I highly recommend – based on the experiences of the author’s own family.

We Were the Lucky Ones

Hopefully I will have more time for reading in May!

Favorite Movies

I *did* make time to go to a couple movies in April. I am subscribed to MoviePass, an app where for a sum below the price of going to ONE movie, you can go to a different movie EVERY DAY (this is not a sponsored post, I just really like the app). My favorite was “Outside In” with Edie Falco and Jay DuPlass. It was a quiet story about nice people – as a young adult he had taken the rap for a shooting and spent 20 years in prison. One of his high school teachers maintained a correspondence with him all that time and really advocated for his early parole. Once released his new life is difficult and their friendship is challenged. And that’s all I’ll say. But it’s well-acted, nice story. (click image for trailer)

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Favorite Products

A favorite product I bought this month, and this is a little embarrassing (!), but I can get stinky feet (probably cuz I don’t wear socks. i hate socks.) and I’ve tried all kinds of sprays and powders over the years and nothing has ever done a really great, long-lasting job, BUT…after reading a ton of reviews on the internet, I finally invested a whopping $12.95 on a shoe deodorizer/foot odor eliminator from Amazon. I spray it in my sneakers 1-2 times a week and it has greatly improved the situation. If I really stick my nose into the shoe, I can still slightly smell the foot odor…but the scent of the spray really masks the foot smell from a reasonable distance away (most people would not be sticking their noses into your shoes). And then the whole apartment has this nice lemon verbena/mint/eucalyptus scent that is both refreshing and energizing. Oh, I also sprayed it on my car seats when Caleb had a bit of a messy accident back there (don’t judge, he’s an old man) and the poop smell was gone the next day!

Lumi Outdoors Extra Strength Odor Eliminator

Monthly Mash-Up

I’ve been enjoying an app called 1 Second Every Day where you post a picture or video to it daily (or catch up whenever you want, it doesn’t judge) and at the end of the month (or week or year or whatever time frame you select) it “mashes” them together as one-second clips that are savable and sharable. I’ve been posting them on Instagram but they fit into the Month in Review theme here, so…

And that is all there is for April! Week in Review will be back next Monday….

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Lists, Lists, and More Lists

I have a tendency to get locked into routine. I can get a little lazy and I find I do best if certain things (blog posts, for example) are on a schedule. But sometimes I get so locked into that schedule that I miss opportunities. I’ve got this little stockpile of drafts and saved posts and pictures that I want to share with y’all, but I keep not posting them cuz they don’t fit into the Mon/Wed/Fri schedule. And that’s just silly. So I may be throwing some extra posts at you willy nilly,  NOT on schedule, if that’s alright. Oh, I’m living on the edge now, my friends!

Also, I’m a big list maker, I have lists of everything. Things to do, things to make, places to go, things to photograph, movies to see, books to read, and, as you know, clothing to buy. It occurs to me now that maybe you’d be interested in some of my lists even when they’re not in a formal “blog post” format. I’m already making them…why not share them?? So I’m gonna share this “revised shopping list” with you since I was making it anyway for myself…let me know if you like/don’t like this or if you’re interested in any other lists. Some, of course, are local to my area so wouldn’t be of interest to as many of you, but who knows. I don’t know where y’all live or if you’re ever going to visit the Long Island/New York area, so…

Updated Plus Size Spring Shopping List

Since apparently the plus size black and white striped tee is, for me, the rarest of rare sparkle glitter unicorns,  and my clothing cupboard for the warm weather is bare, bare, bare…I am revising my original spring/summer clothing shopping list and looking for some alternatives.

This black and white polka dot blouse could go over my white jeans, medium wash blue jeans, and the black summer-weight pants I’m still looking for (!). It can easily go into the fall as well under a black cardigan. I like that it has the look of a blouse without the potential button gap hell.

I know that polyester in the summer is not the greatest idea, but my office at work is air conditioned to the max from May-October, so I always dress to accommodate the chilly building.

DR2 by Daniel Rainn Polka Dot Blouse (Plus Size)

This next one has the more the coloring of a black-stripe-on-white tee. I could wear it to work under the lightweight black cardi or maybe even the light pink silk cardigan…or I could add a real pop of color with turquoise, teal, hot pink, lilac – almost any color…and I can wear it after work or on the weekends (aka out in the Long Island humidity) on its own.

 DR2 by Daniel Rainn Ladder Inset Blouse (Plus Size)

I’m definitely in a polka dot mood today! This navy and white dot top could go over blue or white jeans…or those elusive green pants (I’m like a dog with a bone once I decide there’s something in particular I want). This is perfect for work under a cardigan and on its own after work and on weekends.

Caslon Pleat Front Tank (Plus Size)

This ivory peasant blouse would go over any wash jeans, my tan linen pants (that I just found and didn’t know I still had, score!), and the sage green pants should I ever find them to fit. This is sort of an outlier item as I did not have anything ivory on my list, but  ivory/cream is always a good basic and goes over most any color or type of bottom.

DR2 by Daniel Rainn Lace Detail Peasant Blouse (Plus Size)

Ahh, a pretty floral blouse! This is just like what I’ve been looking for. I love these colors and it can stand alone over white or blue jeans, or I could put my pale pink cardi over it. I would even try it unbuttoned over a white tee, like a short kimono. Sweet!

Melrose and Market Bell Sleeve Button Back Floral Print Shirt (Plus Size)

These are just some things I saw in a quick online peek. Since I’m having such a tough time rounding out my closet for the warm weather with what I originally wanted, I realize I needed to broaden the search a bit or I was going to be wearing the same outfit every day! I’ll be sure to let you know what I order and how I make out with them!

Have a good rest-of-the-weekend!

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Creating a Spring/Summer Clothing Shopping List

I’ve been on the fence about whether or not this would actually be of interest to people…but a good friend said that *she* would be interested, so…here goes!

Long ago, I used to do what I call “recreational shopping.” By that I mean that I would go to the mall, without necessarily anything specific in mind, just to see what there was. Inevitably I would see things I liked, many things, and I figure if I LIKED them, that they would work in my wardrobe, because…If I Like All the Things in My Closet…Shouldn’t They All Go Together? So I would just buy things indiscriminately because I liked them, with no real thought to whether the purchases made sense.

It took me many years and MANY wasted dollars to realize that the answer to that question is NO. And I’ll be honest, it wasn’t out of any real wisdom that I came to this conclusion, it was more out of necessity. Once I was divorced (21 years ago) and a single mother of a young daughter, I no longer had “unlimited” (not that they were ever unlimited but I had not yet learned The Very Hard Lessons about overspending and DEBT) funds for my recreational shopping. Now I had to make my “first real office job” salary stretch as far as it could. So recreational shopping became a thing of the past and I had to learn how to build a working wardrobe as efficiently as possible. And it took me almost all 21 years to do that, ha ha!

Hang on, I could tell my stories all day long…let’s get on to the list making!

I start by assessing what’s already in my closet from last year – most seasons the majority of items stay, and I only let go of the few things that are no longer in good condition, no longer fit, or are just things that I find I no longer reach for in my closet. It’s okay to fall out of love with things! They served their purpose for awhile, but when it’s time to move on, let them go, maybe to someone else who will enjoy them more.

Then I consider each and every item in the closet (and drawers). How many outfits can I make out of this item? Just one? Then I consider what new item I could bring in to make that already existing item more versatile. Will the new item go with multiple items already in my closet? That’s a plus. I don’t want to buy something new if it’s only going to go with one other thing. I want every piece to do double- or even triple-duty. I want a closet filled with mostly basics, that will mix with almost everything else.

So now I’ve gone through all my items and made a list of missing pieces. The pieces that will go with what I already own to make new outfits.

Here’s my list for this spring/summer

  • black and white striped top, summer weight
  • basic white tee
  • basic grey tee
  • 2-3 patterned tops – floral, paisley, something with some color
  • 1-2 patterned kimonons
  • oatmeal/tan lightweight cardigan
  • white summer weight pants/jeans
  • black summer weight pants
  • sagey green summer weight pants

A dozen items might seem like a lot (it does to me) but I know from experience that I’ll be lucky to find just a few of these items – due to size, cost and personal taste. This list doesn’t include shoes and accessories. I’ve already shared some of my shoe and bag wish lists with you here and here.

I’ll confess, I got a little confused with what I was posting this week. I wrote this post several week ago and I should have shot a little video showing a couple samples of how I put these steps into practice…but instead I shot a try-on haul of items I’d bought trying to fill out my shopping list above (because everything came in within a few days and I wanted to try on so I could return what I wasn’t keeping and start over).

So just imagine, if you will, me taking my Bobeau sleeveless floral top out of the closet, inspecting it, thinking of what I might wear it with besides just my medium wash skinny jeans. Sage green cotton pants! And those pants would also be perfect with the black and white striped top I don’t have (ha) AND the navy and white striped top I just ordered. And then I’d move onto the next item. Make sense?? It’s not nearly as much fun as just perusing online retail sites or catalogs and going I like this and this and this and this  and ordering a bunch of random unrelated items…but it’s much more organized and you’ll end up only with things that actually go with things you already own. Cuz I don’t feel that I need or want dozens or hundreds pieces of clothing. I want to wear everything I have a LOT. Getting my money’s worth and not having any wasted investments hanging in my closet.

Here’s What I Bought and Tried On:

Loft Plus Textural Sweater Tee, size 24/26

Loft Plus Girlfriend Chinos, size 24

Target Who What Wear Plus Size Rib Trim Elbow Sleeve T-Shirt, size 4x

Asos Curve Stripe Top in Baby Loop Back, size 24

Old Navy Relaxed Plus-Size Sleeveless Boho Top, size 3x (floral no longer available)

Old Navy Plus-Size Linen-Blend Cropped Soft Pants, size 4x

Old Navy Plus-Size Mid-Rise Soft Utility Cropped Pants, size 3x

Macy*s Say What? Trendy Plus Size Long-Sleeve Swing Top, size 3x

Macy*s NY Collection Plus Size Pointelle-Knit Draped Cardigan, size 3x

And there’s a video! Caleb makes a couple cameo appearances 🙂


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Spring at last! The time has come for light layers and bright springy colors! And on a more philosophical level, a sort of rebirth for me from all the nonsense of last year, illness and treatments and worry…then ridiculous foot pain all winter into the spring…so many things keeping me indoors and inactive and feeling down. There are also some other personal things that are finally reaching resolution this year, so I’m seeing some light at the end of a long dark tunnel. Sorry to be so oh woe is me but it is what it is. But there’s an end in sight – to sprinter (spring + winter) and to me feeling so MEH. 

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And this outfit is anything but meh. I’ve shared this “bright but dark” top before here and here. You can see how versatile it is in that I’ve worn it with black jeans, medium wash denim, and now white denim. I think the top would also look nice over a white peasant/boho style skirt like this, amiright? How nice would that be for summer evenings on the beach? Oohhhh…summer evenings on the beeeaaacchhhhhh. I can’t wait!!!

It’s still a little chilly early and late in the day and a light jacket is called for, Just in Case. I’m the queen of Just in Case.

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This army green jacket is a couple years old from Target’s Ava & Viv plus-size brand. It’s very lightweight Tencel, a sustainable fabric regenerated from wood cellulose. It’s similar in feel to rayon or bamboo, in that it has that same drapey characteristic.

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I was never really a white jeans gal but now I feel like they go with just about everything! How do you feel about white jeans?

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I’m trying to get away from wearing my plain silver disc earrings Every Single Day, so these little dangly silver and turquoise ones are on frequent rotation. Can’t you just see my hair being a teal blue?? I’m thissssss close.

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Thanks to my pal Linda for taking these pictures. We had a nice dinner after. I took a picture of my food and thought of Nancy of Nancy’s Style, who commented recently that it’s not a great idea to read my blog when you’re hungry (mostly my Week in Review posts) cuz I’m always posting pictures of the places we go to eat and the yummy things we have! So I will refrain. This time. Just so she can get ahold of herself 🙂 (GET AHOLD OF YOURSELF, NANCY!!!) 

What I’m Wearing:

  • American Rag floral border printed tunic, via Gwynnie Bee, 3x. Sold out, comparable here and here in plus sizes and in straight sizes here and here.
  • White Gloria Vanderbilt Amanda tapered jeans, size 22short. From Amazon
  • Pink velcro Vans Ward V sneaker, from DSW
  • Dangly turquoise earrings from Forever 21, no longer available. Comparable here and here and if you prefer gold to silver, here
  • Army green Ava & Viv/Target Tencel jacket, size 24. Old, comparable plus sizes here and here and straight sizes here and here

I’m linking up today with:

If you want to find some new bloggers to check out and maybe follow, visiting the link-ups is a great way to see a lot of different bloggers in one space.

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Coming Out of Hiding

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Last week was a stressful one for me…and when I get hit with stress/anxiety overload, I do what I gotta do, and then I hide out. In bed, in a book, in a movie. So I worked…and I hid. Hence, no “Week in Review” as there was nothing to review. I have crossed the stressful bridge, however, and can now move on…and am trying to make up for a little lost time. All this by way of explaining that I Went Out on a Monday Night, ha ha. I’m such a wild child!

A girlfriend and I were headed to an art exhibit that another friend had some photos in. Anytime we go to an area we do not frequent often, we hit Google up for what interesting/weird/good things there are to do/see/eat there. This time we found a little place called Costa Nova Waffles so we headed there for a little snack before the art exhibit.

OH. MY. GOODNESS. The shop was teeny tiny, just enough space for a few stools along a side wall and the front window. The decor was beachy and fresh in an aqua and white color scheme. The two girls working there were darling and answered all our questions and let us taste things before selecting. What it IS, is…a cross between a crepe and a waffle filled with yummy goodness. So they pour a crepe-like batter into a large round waffle iron and press it so when they’re done they’re thin and a cross between soft and crispy. They spread on your choice of filling while it’s still warm, then add any mix-ins – like fruit, chocolate chips, marshmallows, twix, etc. – before folding into a pie-piece shape and slide it into a brown bag for easy handling. I went with the traditional Portugese egg custard, which was very nice and just the right amount of sweet. I kept mine pure and didn’t add any mix-ins. Next time I’m going for the Speculous cookie butter. It was such a nice light crispy snack. I definitely recommend trying them if you get a chance.

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It was almost springlike, but so windy walking around the town! When will it end??? 

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dressed for spring, even though Mother Nature was not quite on board. This white embroidered peasant blouse by Vintage America Blues was this week’s Gwynnie Bee rental. It was a very light and floaty viscose rayon which was a welcome change from 17 layers of sweaters. It partnered easily with medium wash skinny jeans and a denim jacket (doesn’t everything??). It is available in both straight sizes (here) and plus sizes (here). I’d like to just point out that the “pale pink” flowers you see online are actually more of a muted day-glow peachy-pink. Just sayin’.

Then we headed over to the art exhibit.

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And to my delight one of my friend Amy’s photographs won an Honorable Mention award. She’d submitted these really beautiful portraits. I think she uses lighting really well. You can see more of her work here.

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She’s actually photographed me for the blog a couple times…here, here and here.

Do you ever feel the need to just hide out from life for awhile? Or do you deal with “weeks from hell” in another way…?

Thanks to my friend Linda for taking these pictures.

What I Wore:

  • Vintage America Blues embroidered peasant blouse, size 3x. If you like this look, you might also like these: Plus size option; straight size option
  • Denim jacket, no longer available. Comparable plus size option here; straight size option here.
  • Charlotte Russe Refuge cropped skinny jeans, size 22 here. Straight size option here.
  • Light grey New Balance Women’s Fresh Foam Arishi Running Sneakers here

I’m linking up today with Catherine of Not Dressed as Lamb and her #IWillWearWhatILike link-up party!

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