Time Flies…But Does It Have To??

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I might have told this story here before, but…I can remember being little, 5 or so, and counting the interminable days til Christmas…(and probably whining a bit about HOW MANY, SO MANY days) and my mother probably tried to console me and suggest that I be more patient, but the only part I really remember is her saying that TIME GOES FASTER AS WE GET OLDER. I couldn’t understand it at the time (how does time go faster? a day is always 24 hours, a year 365 days…) but obviously what she meant is our perception of time goes faster as we get older. And, of course, she was right. Relativity and all that.

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Andree by Unit rayon top, 3x. Out of stock. Comparable here and here in plus size and here in straight size. 

This week on the blogosphere and all across social media, I’ve been reading about it being the END OF SUMMER…I’ve seen outfit posts with cozy cardigans…one just pointed out that it’s only FOUR MONTHS TO CHRISTMAS…I read this week that Starbucks will begin selling their Pumpkin Flah Flah drinks earlier this year – in AUGUST. COME ON, PEOPLE!!! It is STILL SUMMER!!! It is ninehundredmillion degrees out, I can’t even go look at a sunset because it is TOO DARN HOT and yet I am looking at women in red plaid skirts and leopard coats and cowboy boots on street style blogs.

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Gloria Vanderbilt Amanda jeans, size 22 short.

Isn’t it enough that our minds trick us into thinking we are on a roller coaster of time, speeding along faster and faster to the inevitable end? Do we have to play along? Can’t we just enjoy a season for what it is now – hot and steamy and sunny and beachy – and keep wearing gingham and sleeveless blouses and swing dresses with slides and breezy kimonos and drinking iced tea with orange slices and mint and eating tuna salad on crackers? Can’t we just enjoy summer until we can’t squeeze one more drop out of it and THEN…when there is actual crispness in the air, THEN we can cozy ourselves into a chunky knit and suede booties and have a hot sweet autumn-flavored drink with whipped cream and look out the window at the changing leaves?

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That’s what *I* intend to do. I’m not setting one foot into fall until I have to. And then I will enjoy the heck out of it.

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Aldo cognac espadrilles

Which brings us to today’s outfit (phew, I knew I’d get here eventually). I wore and shot this back in June – the first week of summer – but it got set aside as I’d shown a very similar top just the week before and I will show it now because it is summery and it is still summer.

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This is another Andree by Unit embroidered rayon top via Gwynnie Bee -I showed another one here and I still have a few similar items in my GB closet. They’re so easy and summery. Lightweight, colorful, easy breezy fit. Over my favorite Gloria Vanderbilt Amanda jeans. Which, if you want to talk about how many times you’ve worn something, I’ve had these a year and I’ve easily worn them 30 times or more. And my Aldo espadrilles, which also got a lot of wear this year and will continue into fall.

So, just an easy outfit. But that’s what summer’s meant to be. EASY. It’s summertime and the livin’ is easy. Remember??

What I Wore:

Photos by moi. 

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Week in Review: Week 127

WARNING: This may be The Most Boring Week Ever. Get out now while you still can.

Trying to be more mindful of what I eat. Peanut butter and honey on apple slices for morning snack. Which was actually breakfast as I didn’t get up in time to eat anything before work. This might be the most unappealing food picture ever. Will not be Instagramming it.

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High Point of my Week: watching the weeds grow.

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#InternationalCatDay

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Friday’s missing outfit from What I Wore This Week.

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Bobeau peach ombre top, size 3x. Old. Comparable here and here in plus and here and here in straight size. Palomino duster length cardigan from Old Navy, size 2x. Sold out. Comparable here and here in plus size and here and here in straight size. White Gloria Vanderbilt Amanda plus jeans, size 22 short. Cognac Aldo espadrilles. 

A perfect example of a “what are they thinking??” collaboration email. After reviewing my site and “seeing that you talk about men’s fashion”?? Uhm, WHICH day was that exactly?? Needless to say they are getting a No, Thank You. Ha.

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Instacart brought me my groceries so I didn’t have to go out. I love getting the groceries delivered. It saves time and lugging. And money, as I don’t impulse shop.

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This looks like a pretty motley grocery delivery, so I’ll explain. Haagen-Dazs, no explanation required. I’m making a white bean artichoke spread to go on the wasa crackers as an afternoon work snack. The peppers and radishes are a morning work snack, just as-is, raw and crunchy. I’ll pull the chicken apart for chicken salad with scallions (either on a sandwich or scooped up with the wasa crackers). The tomato, red beans and red onion is for a salad – those three items w a bit of mayonnaise (it and the juice from the tomatoes make a nice simple Russian-esque dressing) and salt and pepper. The almond breeze is for cereal and smoothies – I have frozen fruits and vegetables and acai stuff. It’s lovely to think I will get up in the morning in time to make healthy smoothies. But the reality is that I will probably not, so that is where the Cap’n comes in. And I’m making a big pot of spaghetti tonight that will last me several dinners in the week ahead…and I have salad fixins already in the fridge and I’ll probably go out  to dinner once or twice. So. There’s my groceries explained.

I finally broke out the watercolors! In my defense, it’s a first attempt. I’m happy that it’s recognizable as what it is. I’ll keep trying.

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I passed this pretty restaurant patio on my way to meet friends for dinner.

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I had alcohol. And a three mushroom quesadilla.

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Wearing #273 for this dress, more or less. I’m going to cry when I stain or rip it. Literally. Plus, my eyes are disappearing from my face.

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And today, Sunday, was a whole lotta nuthin. Trying to plan something  for the week ahead so it’s not…like last week! It’s my last full week before vacation, so…there’s that.

Hoping you have a more interesting week than I did!

Cheers.

 

 

 

 

What I Wore This Week

It’s time once again to play What I Wore This Week! Fortunately I chose a better week for it this time. The last time I did WIWTW (c’mon, you can do this!) I was on vacation so it was like “here I am in my nightgown, here I am in my bathing suit, here I am in the dress I wore whenever I wasn’t wearing my nightgown or my bathing suit.” This is a week of work outfits (with nary a bathing suit in sight).

Monday – this was a normal workday. I didn’t expect to be running around taking a lot of pictures so I dressed accordingly. I went out to dinner with a friend but I changed before dinner cuz spilling.

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Rust Sharagano dress, size 3x, old. Same dress in different colors here. Comparable here and here in plus size and here and here in straight size. Cream (EXCUSE ME, “Palomino”) longline cardigan from Old Navy, size 2x. No longer available in plus size, but in straight size goes up to XXL. Cognac flats from Payless, I do not recommend. Zero arch support and are too shallow to wear with an insert comfortably.

Tuesday – another workday. Again, I expected mostly to be in the office all day and I wasn’t going out after work, so.

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Rachel Roy chambray dress, size 2x. Old but extremely similar here. Comparable in plus size here and here and in straight size here and here. Navy H&M cardigan, size 3x, sold out. Comparable here and here in plus size and here and here in straight size. White Keds Champion sneakers.

Wednesday – workday but I did expect to be taking pictures offsite so I dressed accordingly. Cool. Plus, haircut!

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Old Navy chambray dress, size 3x, old. Similar here and here in plus size and here and here in straight size. White crochet cardi from Avenue, size 3x, old. Similar here and here in plus size and here and here in straight size. White Keds.

Thursday – I knew today was going to be a big picture and running around day but it was just too hot for jeans! I started out the day with the same white cardi as yesterday, but I took it off for the outdoor pic portion of the day – revealing my shoulders at work – oh the horror. When I got home I was just too hot to put it back on even just for the picture…and I also got out of my sneakers and into my slides. Not to mention, all I had in me was a quick cell phone snap, apologies for crappy blurry fuzziness. I’m done for today. Not even meeting friends for dinner tonight as planned…as soon as I finish this post it’s straight to bed for me!

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Blue paisley Loft dress, size 3x, old. Comparable here and here in plus size and here and here in straight size. Hundred-year-old Mephisto slides. I’ll be wearing them til they literally fall apart. 

Also, no Friday. I meant to start on Sunday so there’d be five days by Thursday and I could schedule this to post on Friday. But I forgot. Then I was going to put on tomorrow’s outfit and shoot it tonight. But I’m too tired. Ha. I’m a b-a-a-a-d blogger.

I will leave you, instead, with this Thursday Throwback…from two years ago, August 2016. When I still had hair and a dog. And wore dresses with waistbands.

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Sangria dress, size 3x, old. Comparable here and here in plus size, and here and here in straight size.

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Some Thoughts on Accessorizing

The only thing that separates us from the animals is our ability to accessorize.   ~ Steel Magnolias   

I don’t generally do a lot of accessorizing because I’m lazy a beacon of minimalism.

Ha ha.

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Kate Spade graphic tote, old. I can’t find the heart one anymore, but there are a couple other black and white designs here and here and here.

But do I like it and am always admiring others who do it well. Honestly, it’s expensive to accessorize well! Bags are costly, belts, hats, shoes, even little slips of fabric (aka scarves) are not inexpensive! Don’t even get me started on jewelry! So, what happens when you have a limited clothing budget is, you buy as few accessories as possible, and all in neutral tones so they go with as many outfits as possible. You can always tell someone with $$$ (or at least savvy shopping skills) because they have unique, extremely NON-neutral shoes on or a wild print bag. You know that is not their only one. If someone could only have one bag, they’re probably going to go with black. Or something equally neutral (relative to their wardrobe). I certainly can’t speak for everyone, but overall I think that’s a safe statement to make.

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Old Navy palomino duster-length cardigan, size 2x. Very similar here in plus size and here in straight size.

All that said, I do think about outfits and accessorizing a great deal. And I wanted to share some of my thoughts – I don’t want to call them “tips,” because I’m no expert…but these are just my thoughts. Do with them what you will. We all know there are no hard and fast rules in fashion…but I do tend to follow some guidelines (remind me to tell you the story about my high school boyfriend and “guidelines” sometime).

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Old Navy black and white striped tee dress, size 3x. Old. Similar here and here in plus size and here and here in straight size.

The more neutral or monochromatic the outfit, the more you can accessorize. Conversely, the more colorful or patterned (or textured) an outfit, the less “extra” you need. Every outfit does not need shoes (well, yeah, you probably do need shoes, ha), bag, scarf, hat, necklace, bracelet, etc. Even if “it goes.” It’s the same concept as “we don’t need to own everything we like.” You don’t need to put on everything that “goes” just because it does.

Perfection is achieved, not when there is nothing more to add, but when there is nothing left to take away. – Antoine de Saint-Exupery

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Let ONE item be the focal point or statement piece. Just one. If you have pops of color or statement pieces all over the place, NOTHING really stands out. It’s like highlighting EVERY line in a text book. EVERYTHING can’t be The Most Important Thing. It’s just up to you to decide what IS.

The days of matching bag to shoes is over but if you want to have one accessory really stand out, you can spotlight it by letting everything else “disappear,” by keeping them in the same color, tones or pattern. For example, you want to show off your new mustard yellow bag. By keeping the rest of the outfit and accessories either monochromatic or a coordinated range of neutrals, the one thing that’s different – the mustard bag – is going to become the focal point. For example: black dress, black shoes, olive green utility jacket – mustard bag – POP! Or blue denim with a white tee and leopard print flats (a neutral in my book) – mustard bag – POP! Conversely, mustard yellow floral dress with natural wedges….and the mustard bag just blends into the overall color scheme. Which is fine – and I’ll talk about that in a minute – but if you want that bag to be the focal point, that is not the way to do it.

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Okay, a minute’s up, so now I’ll say this – when you’re putting an outfit together, you’ll want to decide if you want a focal point, or if you want the entire outfit to work together as a cohesive whole. A monochromatic look can be beautiful! Think cream on cream on cream or grey on grey…I always think a solid color outfit done well is so chic and classy. You don’t always need (yes, I’m back on that again) a “pop of color.” And monochromatic doesn’t have to mean every item is exactly the same color, all the pieces can be slightly different but in the same color family – like coral, muted orange and barely-apricot cream. The same but different.

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The more I look at the pictures of my outfit here, the less happy I am with it (DAISNAID*). I had wanted the black and white pattern mixing (the stripes on the dress and hearts on the bag) to be the focal point. So (at the time) I thought that wearing everything else in neutral tones – the soft beige cardigan, natural hat and white sneaks (would have preferred a beige flat but) would be a good disappearing foil to the graphic black and white items. In reality I think they’re too contrasting. If I’d worn the black cardigan instead, then the black and white items would have been the statement part of the outfit. But wearing a black cardi on that hot sunny July day just seemed unbearable, so…this is what I ended up with. And as such, it’s a good “what not to wear,” ha ha.

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I also thought I would like the orange scarf tied to the handle of the tote, but now I just find it distracting, pulling my eye right to it. Likewise my bracelets – coordinating with the scarf. There were just too many things going on. I’ve learned that lesson by viewing these pictures. Maybe the orange pop of color on the black bag would be good with an otherwise all black outfit…or a black tee over white jeans – because in such a simple color scheme, the orange scarf on the graphic tote would be the “star of the show.”

I think that’s the point. Decide what you want The Star of the Show to be, then find a way to spotlight it…rather than just pulling multiple colors out of an outfit – bag one color, shoes another, print with more colors, etc. The eye doesn’t know where to go! Like with graphic design or home dec or garden design, the best design guides the eye to where you want it to go.

All that said, these are just my thoughts about accessorizing. Everyone has a different take on fashion, but I thought I would just put these ideas out there as food for thought. I’d love to hear how you decide how to accessorize!

Ok – random guy jumping into the shot. Why. Why. Why.

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Why.

What I Wore:

  • Old Navy black and white striped tee dress, size 3x. Old. Similar here and here in plus size and here and here in straight size.
  • Old Navy palomino (color) duster-length cardigan, size 2x. Very similar here in plus size and here in straight size.
  • Kate Spade graphic tote, old. I can’t find the heart one anymore, but there are a couple other black and white designs here and here and here. Just a note – my sweet niece gave me this bag for my birthday last year – Thanks, Jenn!
  • Orange scarf, vintage. Similar here.
  • Raffia hat, no label. Similar here.
  • White Keds

DAISNAID* – extra bonus points if you can guess what this is!

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Photos by Robert Mitchell Photography

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Week in Review: Week 126

It was…a pretty good week. A work event was behind us, and it always feels good to move beyond the mad rush leading up to an event. I got some good photos for the blog I do at work, and that felt good. I had a good mix of social evenings and “at home alone” evenings. My only real complaint (well, besides a friend who is ignoring my emails, grr) would be the weather. It is just SO so hot, I don’t even want to go sit at the beach in the evening and watch the sunset. I just want to go home to the aircon (ps, I’m watching too many UK youtubers and watching too much British tv, I’m starting to pick up and use some of their slang without even realizing. and even when I do realize, I like it, and keep doing it).

Sad flowers.

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Fashion Schlub was included in Gwynnie Bee’s Best Member Moments of July post. I’ve shared this tidbit umpteen times. Whee, I’m a narcissist!

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While I’m still on the subject of ME (!!!), I’ll also mention that FS was also included in Independent Fashion Bloggers Links à la Mode Summer Round Up Party: A listing of fashion bloggers (below) you might want to check out. I love looking at accounts I’ve never seen before and finding new favorites (I’m definitely going to take a look at that second one!).

My friend Linda and I went to a cool open studio gallery thing in Brooklyn – it was a huge space with art exhibits and installations, appies and wine and interactive workshops/sessions.

I got a kick out of this artist (I picked up her card and now I can’t find it!). She combined crochet (aka yarn bomb torture activity) with lighting and 3D images.

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It doesn’t come across in the photo but the leopard in the center of the piece is actually 3D. How do people come up with this stuff? I’m so ashamed of my mind when I see things like this, like why can’t you ever come up with anything original?? 

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Vintage tin ceiling tiles and moss.

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Scraggly yarn (?) curtain in front of film of hand.

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This put me in mind of Noah’s Ark.

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we become everything we love

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We did marbling. Mine’s on the left, Linda’s on the right. It was so cool. I wanted to do more.

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I’m a sweaty Bettye poodlehead

We did the most amazing meditation. In the past when I’ve gone to meditation classes they were Buddhism-based, and I liked them very much. And a couple times a week I use a guided meditation app on my phone and just do a 5-10 minute breath-based meditation, and that’s fine. But this was like…SOUL meditation. Heart meditation. The woman who led it had us think on different things and there were different movements we did…it was just very different and it really moved me. Tears were streaming down my face halfway through. I wish I could go to her for more but she’s all the way in Brooklyn and that just doesn’t fit for me right now. But…wow. It was memorable.

This was the note on the chair I chose…that’s a pretty good message. For all of us.

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Then there was a photographer taking portraits of people in a dark room with crazy lighting…

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Everything about the evening was…I would say “perfect,” which is a term I rarely use…but for the HEAT. And humidity. The venue was air conditioned but it wasn’t even touching me, I was drenched the entire time. But other than that, it was really really really good.

Oh, this was one of my favorite things. Super tacky (intentionally?), but I love the beaded saying:

I play the game where I imagine my friends as old and silver. I like this game the most. Because in it we survive the hateful, warful years, all of the terrible things that will inevitably happen.

She is at @emilyoliveirastudio on Instagram if you want to see more.

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It was one year ago this week that I had my head shaved 2 weeks into chemo. THAT was a day, oofah. A year later I’m still going to Morgan at POSH to have her try and shape my crazy curly regrowth. This is what it looks like when I get up in the morning (!).

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The sides and bangs are pretty cooperative. It’s that poodle top bit that’s so crazy. It’s long enough to curl up and frizz in the humidity but not long enough to get my curling iron around to smooth. So at best, it’s smooshed down waves. Not cute like a “best short haircut” post on Pinterest.

Okay, here’s a thing I’m doing (ohhh I’m not happy about this but)…for the month of August – NO MCDONALDS SWEET TEA. I forgot I’d planned to make this resolution til Friday so I missed the first couple days…and Normal Me would say OH WELL, TRY AGAIN IN SEPTEMBER…but Trying to Be Better Than Normal Me is going to try and stick with it for the rest of the month. I was going to do “no sweet tea OR chips” in August but. I’m having a hard enough time getting my head around the tea part. Let’s just see how this goes. Chips can be the next step. BABY STEPS.

I have A Big Project on the agenda for this (Sunday) afternoon. If I complete it I’ll post a little before&after video. If I don’t, I’ll delete this paragraph and through the magic of television you’ll be none the wiser.

Before

After

This is the kitchen table I wanted, but…not happening.

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Okay, that’s it for this week! I’m going to to watch the last episode of Last Tango in Halifax (I didn’t realize when I started watching that it was only on for 3 seasons!) and then bed.

Wishing everyone a cool, dry, peaceful week!

 

Sentence a Day: July (Best & Worst Edition)

I did this a little differently this time. Rather than just listing the things I did (which can read a bit boring, even to me!), I’ve shared the Best and Worst Things from each day. Sometimes when I get in a “nothing is good” funk, this exercise helps me to remember that there is some good every day. But I can only acknowledge the good by recognizing the bad, so…here is my “Best Thing/Worst Thing” of July. Let me know how you like this format.

7.1  Best Thing: I was motivated and productive and spent 6 hours completing a blog project I’ve been wanting to do for a long time. Yay Me. Worst Thing: Saying goodbye to Katie again 😦 The visits are too short.

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Picture: Old, but one of my favorites of us together. I think this was on my birthday in 2016

7.2 It was a Day of Bests: In spite of some anxiety I got myself to the beach and it was wonderful. My friend joined me and WENT IN THE WATER WITH ME!!! We’ve been going to the beach together for YEARS and I’ve never see her in past her ankles – Yay, Mochi! And I saved a drowning ladybug. The Worst Thing? I didn’t even want to think about a worst thing today as the day was so lovely…but then I looked at my checking account balance. Oofah. Downer.

7.3 Worst Thing: Due to my own procrastination (I HATE making phone calls and put them off As Long As Possible) I can’t get an appointment for a week-and-a-half to get my car detailed (it’s still Very Doggy from Caleb) so I can’t start Ubering this week (re-read yesterday’s Worst). Other Worst (ugh): I kept seeing out the window that the sky looked amazing at sunset and I just never got myself out there and now I’m kicking myself for missing it. Other Worst (I got a million of’em!): The blog post I wrote for tomorrow is like The Worst. The Best? Uhm…that nothing EVEN worse happened.

7.4 Best Thing: I FOUND FIREWORKS! AND AN AWESOME APARTMENT IN TIJUANA, WITH OCEAN VIEW, BEACH ACCESS, GIANT BALCONY, ALLOWS CATS – FOR $450 A MONTH!!! Worst Thing: I can’t move to Tijuana.

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7.5 Best Thing: Spent the day at the beach and it was glorious. Worst Thing: Got a BT (BLT minus the L) on my way home and it was HOT. Like they put the whole sandwich under the broiler after assembling it. So the roll was hot, the mayo was hot, the tomato was hot. Weird and ew. Why would they do such a thing? I’ve never had a hot BT in my entire life! BUT if the worst thing that happens in a day is that my sandwich is weird…that’s not a bad day.

7.6 Best Thing: Had a full, fun day with a girlfriend out east, a lovely lavender farm as our main destination. Worst Thing: When I went to pay for something in the shop at the lavender farm, my debit card was missing! Oh no! Other Best Thing/Luckiest Thing: When I said to the cashier, “don’t start ringing it up yet, I can’t find my debit card!” the other cashier starts asking me “WHAT’S YOUR NAME? WHAT’S YOUR NAME?” I was like, huh? “Bettye Rainwater,” and she reaches under the counter and hands me my debit card! It had fallen out of my jacket pocket while I was traipsing around the field and someone had already found it and handed it in! Phew! The lovely day continued.

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7.7 Best Thing: Did absolutely nothing. Worst Thing: Did Absolutely nothing.

7.8 Worst Thing: And by worst thing I really mean Saddest Thing…went to a good friend’s father’s wake. Best Thing: Was blog productive in the afternoon which means more free after-work afternoons

7.9 Worst Thing: Vacation over. Back to work. Barely slept. It’s The Worst Thing Trifecta. Best Thing: Went to beach straightaway after work and it was delightful.

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7.10 Worst Thing: How can I fall behind so quickly? Already behind on week’s blog work so missed out on dinner with friends, boo. Best Thing: They got to go to their favorite Greek restaurant, which I don’t like so much. Best thing for them, that’s okay. I don’t need to be greedy.

7.11 Worst Thing: I forgot to get my free Slurpee! Best Thing: I did my first Uber ride. Was sort of a cheat, as it was for a friend, but still. Other Worst Thing: Had a disturbing vision/brain/who-knows-what occurrence…a friend said maybe it was an ocular migraine. Dunno, but it scared the you-know-what out of me. OTHER Worst Thing: Washed my two favorite summer dresses. Delicate cycle, cold water, no dryer. And they both shrank! One is no longer wearable, boo. The other is wearable but is not the delight it once was. I’m a little devastated. As devastated as one can be when losing an article of clothing. I mean, you know, come on. It’s clothing. Not my child.

7.12 Best Thing: Got my car washed and detailed, so it’s clean for the first time in ages. Worst Thing: The cleaner they used inside the car REEKS. It wasn’t an immediately recognizable cleaner scent, like pine or lemon or “mountain fresh.” I couldn’t place it til I got in the car later after sitting in the sun with the window up…just cleaned public restroom.  Oofah. Like, cheap industrial cleaners just barely masking an unpleasant toilet-y odor below. It was not good. The car didn’t smell prior to the cleaning, it was just dirty. Ugh.

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7.13 Best Thing: Friday. Worst Thing: Car still stinks, can’t pick up rides like this!

7.14 Best Thing: Had photoshoot with great photographer after rescheduling like a million times all spring and summer! Worst Thing: I’m crippled. Walking around for 90-minutes in non-supportive shoes really does a number on my feet and hips. I can wear non-supportive shoes most days to work and that’s fine cuz I’m not normally doing a lot of walking. Other Best Thing: Because I’m crippled I feel justified in lying on the sofa all afternoon reading, when there are really other things I should be doing.

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7.15 Best Thing: #NationalIceCreamDay! Worst Thing: #SundayNightBlues

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7.16 Best Thing: Went to the beach after work for some solo beach zen downtime. Worst Thing: Monday

7.17 Best Thing: Got my ASOS order super fast. Worst Thing: ASOS dresses ridiculously sized.

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7.18 Best Thing: Got a $5 tip on a $5.78 Uber ride! Worst Thing: This week is taking For. Ever.

7.19 Best Thing: First day this week I got to go straight home after work and had no plans! Worst Thing: Effed something up at work and feel like crap.

7.20 Best Thing: FRIDAY!!! Worst Thing: Alarm didn’t go off, overslept and was late to work – first time this has happened since we started using new clock-in app at work and I will be docked 7 minutes pay. Ugh.

7.21 Best Thing: My new COTTON nightgown arrived – woven cotton, not knit – so it is COOOOOOL, baby! What a difference wearing that vs. the cheapy synthetic nightgown I’ve been wearing for almost two years! This will DEFINITELY get 30 wears. This will get three hundred wears! Worst Thing: It was a stunning day – cool, dry, breezy – and I didn’t set foot outside the apartment.

7.22 Best Thing: It was a good blend of productive and relaxing. Got some blog work done and did two Uber rides, but also went to the park and watched a movie. Worst Thing: #SundayBlues

7.23 Worst Thing: Went to storage by myself (hate going by myself, it’s creepy and hard) and couldn’t even find what I went there for. Best Thing: The unit was emptier than I remembered. Maybe I can get it emptied out by the end of the year!

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7.24 Best Thing: Got to see my two girlfriends who I haven’t seen in awhile because life. Was good to catch up. Worst Thing: I’m very very tired. So tired.

7.25 Best Thing: I got to come home after work and do absolutely nothing. No Worst Thing about that.

7.26 Worst Thing: My computer is in a coma! I don’t know if it can come back from this!!! Best Thing: I was almost done with the Friday blog, just had to add a couple things and schedule it, which I managed to do from my phone, so I’m not thrown off schedule. Yet.

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7.27  Best Thing: Got some awesome pictures at work today. I now do a Week in Review blog post at work like I do here. It seems pretty popular! Worst Thing: I tried a couple workarounds for my computer situation and none of them worked. I’m gonna have to take it somewhere and throw money at them to Please Fix It!!!

7.28 Worst Thing: Had to work all day on a Saturday and it was The Hottest Day in the History of the Planet. Best Thing: Someone suggested one more thing to try with my computer and it worked!!! I’m back in business and will take the $$$ I was going to spend on repair or new purchase and invest in a 1-year subscription to Carbonite, so everything will automatically back-up to the cloud and someday when the pc dies for real, I won’t have to panic about my files.

7.29 Best Thing I spent the entire day on the working-again computer! Worst Thing:  Heard some bad news about a friend.

7.30 Worst Thing: Monday. Best Thing: Above-mentioned friend is okay.

7.31 Best Thing: Went to the movies with an old friend. Worst Thing: Got funky stomach right after movie and had to dash off before we could really chat.

And that was the Best and Worst of July! I’m undecided if I’m going to keep this up. Thoughts??

I’m linking up with Jodie at Jodie’s Touch of Style.

Month in Review: July 2018

I will not say “Oh my gosh, it’s AUGUST ALREADY?!?” I will not. Let’s just get right into it.

Most Popular Blog Posts

#1 Olive You Long Time: #30WearCampaign

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Bobeau plus size olive green lace-up tunic, size 3x. Old. Comparable here and here in plus size and here and here in straight size. Old Navy black duster length cardigan, size 2x. Out of stock (gasp!). Comparable here and here in plus size and here and here in straight size. Black Faded Glory knit leggings, size 3x. Out of stock. Comparable here and here in plus size. Aldo cognac espadrilles

#2 It’s a Wrap

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London Times Ruffled Faux Wrap Dress (Plus Size), size 3x. Plus size denim jacket, old. Comparable here and here in plus size and here and here in straight size. White Keds Champions canvas sneakers. A New Day sunnies from Target. Hat, unidentified (was a gift with no identifying label inside). Comparable here and here. Necklace, vintage

#3 Old & New Faves

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Dress (my favorite ever ever) by Junarose. Old. Nothing just like it out there. I know. I’ve looked. Please send ME links to anything you think might be a good replacement!

My Favorite Blogger Outfits

I think what caught my eye here first was the color of her top (which is actually a swimsuit!). I know the website says it’s mustard, but on my monitor it reads slightly green-tinged, like a muted chartreuse (one of my favorite colors! remember this jacket I tried on at Loft??). Either way, it’s lovely. And with the natural button down skirt…and dark brown belt…YUM! I’ve followed Erin from CaliVintage on and off for years, since we were both vintage clothing sellers on ebay (her successful, me not so much, ha!) but she had such a great style even back then, that I’ve continued to admire even today.  Def take a look at her blog, she has such an easy way about her – both in her clothing and her home decor.

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I’ve got wrap dresses on the brain this month! Jessica of Jeans & a Teacup is someone I’ve only recently started following, but this outfit grabbed my attention right away. I always love this kelly green color when I see it on other people but it’s a color I can’t recall ever having in my own wardrobe. I love this gingko leaf print…and her bamboo-handled purse…with the camel tan polka dotted scarf tied to the handle! I’ve been seeing that trend around a bit and just recently tried it myself. For me it’s functional as I mop my sweaty self up with an absorbent cotton bandana!

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Unfortunately, I did not get photo permission from the last blogger – I wasn’t able to email her directly, I could only message her through the contact form on her page, so…maybe she didn’t get the notification. But I still wanted you to see the outfit -> Hello Fashion Blog. It’s that color again – it gets me every time! I want to call this turmeric, like the spice. But it’s so warm and vibrant at the same time! And I love the whole outfit – the juxtaposition of the “fancy-ish” fortuny pleated skirt with the casualness of the super faded denim jacket. And those gorgeous slides! And hat! And sunnies! Yup. Loving it all.

Favorite Links

Just some things I saw around the web this month that I wanted to share, cuz.

Sisters on the Fly I’ve been thinking about a lot about non-traditional housing and these trailers are so darling.

Amazing Doggie Souls Missing my boy…

Now I Want to Step on a Cake Kooky food photos.

Favorite Movie

I love a quiet movie. It’s lovely – the relationship of the father and daughter – but also hard. I don’t want to give the plot away. But if you like stories about the intricacies of emotions and relationships, you might like this.

Favorite Book

An American Marriage by Tayari Jones is a STORY! The language and dialogue was written so beautifully. The basic premise is that just one year into marriage, a young husband is sentenced to 12 years of prison for a crime he did not commit. The story follows the couple and their families and the challenges faced by the man when he gets out. Don’t want to say anymore about that, but I highly recommend it.

Favorite Product

I keep wanting to do a favorite product review…but I got nuthin!

And that was July! It seems like so long ago I was at that lavender field! We’re halfway through summer…hope y’all are enjoying it.

And here’s my July mashup from 1 Second Everyday

Bettye xoxo

She Works Hard for the Money

I frequently see posts about the pros and cons of using your blog as a source of income. I recently read this post on Nancy’s Fashion Style on that very topic and it prompted me to respond. I know I wrote briefly about this once before but I’ve wanted to go into a little more detail about my experience.

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As for “blogging for money,” all throughout my life I’ve had hobbies that turned into businesses – and I think that’s the best kind of “business” to have! When I was younger I was a horse lover turned riding instructor. Then I fell in love with graphic design and started a newsletter about gardening (another hobby!) which got me a job as a desktop publisher, creating newsletters for nonprofits. The love of gardening turned into a floral design business. My love of thrifting and treasure hunting turned into an ebay store, and then following my love of clothing, morphed into an online vintage clothing shop. I started more serious photography when I was shooting the vintage clothing on live models and then people started asking me to photograph them and their families and events and I had a photography business.

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Now all these things – graphic design, photography, writing, fashion – have come together gloriously as My Little Blog 🙂 And while I haven’t yet, I hope to someday get an income from it so that when I semi-retire I won’t need to spend my days collecting runaway shopping carts at the Piggly Wiggly.

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How lovely it is to make income from doing something you love to do! I’ve blogged for many years on other topics (photography, vintage clothing, lovely inspiration, my home(s), even a long-distance mother/daughter blog a la 3191 Miles Apart). For free. Just because I loved doing it. And I love creating Fashion Schlub. But I’m at a point in my life where I need to be considering additional income sources so that I can retire before I die. And since I LOVE doing this and there are ways to use it for income, why not? 

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I do see blogs that are like one big ad, and no, those are not much fun to read. They’re just like watching commercials on TV – who likes to do that?? But I don’t mind at all reading a blog I like and them telling me what clothes they wear or what products they use, if they do it in a non-selly way. I don’t mind seeing and clicking on affiliate links in a blog or reading a sponsored post…as long as I feel the blogger is sincere in their feelings for the product.

I know I’ve said this before – I would only recommend an item on the blog that I truly feel is good or that I would use or have used. I’ve gotten so many reach-outs that make absolutely no sense for my blog…and I have turned them all down. So know that when I do work with a brand it will be because I truly like the brand/item and feel good about sharing it with you.

lot of time and effort (and expense) go into producing a quality blog. Why would someone resent a blogger making money from it?

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So yes – I intend for this eventually to be an income-producing blog. I don’t expect the quality or character to change. I think it would only get better!

About six months ago I started sharing affiliate links – primarily so that readers can find items like the ones I show in the posts. If that exact item is no longer available, I try to find the closest possible match, or at least that shares some of the best qualities of the original item, just as though I were shopping for a duplicate item myself. I like to share several links for each item so they can be found at higher and lower price points, and in plus and straight sizes. I make, literally, pennies each time someone clicks on an affiliate link…and I won’t even get the money paid to me til it reaches $100….and I’m not even a quarter of the way there! So at the rate things are going now, I’m looking forward to getting a nice hundred-dollar check in about another two years! PAR-TAY!!! 

It was a hard decision for me to add the banner ads at the side and bottom of my posts because I have no control over what the ads are for or what they look like. And again, bloggers make very little money from them and, like the pay-per-click affiliate links, you have to reach a minimum dollar amount before you get a pay-out. I hope they’re not horribly offensive. If there’s just a few on other blogs, I barely notice them…I hope that is your experience here, too. I certainly haven’t noticed any decrease in views this month as a result, which is promising. But please let me know how you feel about them.

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All that said (!!!) let’s get to the outfit! I started the month in a kimono and I’m ending it one, too. It was another super hot day just like before, so I was hoping this easy-breezy kimono would be just the right thing, but…nope. Ha. See?? I’m being honest! It’s a Gwynnie Bee item, so not a keeper, but I’d thought it was more of a light chiffon-y fabric that air would pass through easily, helping to keep me cool. But it was actually modal (a rayon blend that feels more like a stretchy cotton knit). I’ve had modal dresses – winter dresses – and leggings, and it was a lovely fabric for them. But this just felt HOT. It was a fun print and shape, but it was a “one and done” item for me and has already been returned. I’m wearing it over an old, slightly too small (couldn’t find my usual grey tee!), Just My Size tank top and white Gloria Vanderbilt Amanda jeans that you’ve seen many times this year.

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The End (ha ha).

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What I’m Wearing:

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Week in Review: Week 125

Well, I fished my wish this week for sure. I complained last week was too full…and this week was a big goose egg of nothingness!

I went to storage. By myself. I hate going there by myself. A) It’s creepy.

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B) It’s hard to navigate alone. Things are stacked high and deep and the towers are a little precarious. I was looking for a box of photo albums to find a particular picture (for the post on white dresses). I was excited to see the white box right smack in the center of the photo labeled “PHOTO ALBUMS,” but after rearranging everything to get it out, the photo was missing from the album. I’ve moved So Much over the past 10 years I no longer have a sense of where many of my belongings are. Some have been packed and unseen since I sold my house in 2009. Sorry, storage always makes me oddly emotional.

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I had just spotted an antique car show at the park in town…and then I got an Uber ride request. By the time I got back they were leaving and only got a few pics.

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A cute lil house with a daylilly walkway.

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We lost our Madison (aka The Puffy Cat) two years ago this week.

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Monkey Money! The child is headed to Costa Rica with her sister and cousins.

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Ruh-roh.

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BARELY HANGING ON BY A THREAD WITH NO COMPUTER FOR THREE DAYS.

We had our second annual Brew-B-Q fundraiser on Saturday so I worked all day. And It Was Hotter Than It Has Ever Been in the History of the World. And 99% humidity. Crazy times.

My daughter is in Costa Rica living la vida loca. She’ll probably be mad at me for posting this pic BUT she probably does not read my blog, so…Living La Dangerous Loca.

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Someone gave me a work-around to try with my computer and it worked, woohoo! I have to use it now every time I start it up so I still think there’s an issue, but for now – I’m back on. And I’m going to invest in a subscription to Carbonite so every file I create and save will be automatically backed up to The Cloud…so if it happens again I don’t have to be SO panicked as I can retrieve my files and work on a different computer somewhere else til I get sorted out at home.

The obligatory Janey picture. The window could use a washing!

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Wow, we’re reaching all new depths of uninterestingness here. The coming week should be a little better 🙂

Hope you’re all surviving this insane heat…or whatever weather you’re having where you are. Thinking good thoughts for the week ahead.

White Plus Size Dresses for Summer

I recently had a little convo on someone’s blog about my love for summery white dresses in my youth…

(Ugh, my computer is flashing obnoxious messages at me – I’d written this post in advance and had intended to put pictures of my two favorite white dresses from my youth right here….but now I can’t access the computer at all and I’m just finishing this up and scheduling it from my phone, so the pictures are not happening.)

It’s been a long time, though, as I just felt a white dress wasn’t right for my size or shape. White has so many rules around it…”darker colors are more slimming,” light colors jump out at you, seeming larger, versus dark colors which tend to recede…BUT…I’m starting to feel the pull, in spite of those things. Maybe it was Anna’s white dress + black moto jacket look that pulled me back over to the bright side.

So I’ve started looking around online to see if I could find something that might feel right…something easy, not too precious…that I could wear to work with a little cardi and white sneakers or out in the evening dressed up with a pretty sandal.

White dresses can be a little challenging to get just right, so here are a couple guidelines for buying and styling:

  • We’ve discussed quality of fabric before, especially for summer…and I think fabric quality is even more important with white. Check to make sure it’s either lined…or heavy enough material that it’s not see through (unless that’s the look you’re going for). Again, unless you’re going for That Look, keep your ‘wares neutral-toned so they’re not visible under the dress. People sometimes think white is the best color for undergarments under white clothing, but what you see then is the contrast against white bra and skin-toned skin. If your bra is skin-toned, there’s no contrast line and it’s creates a more invisible undergarment look.
  • Like a black dress, a white dress is like a blank canvas and almost anything goes! Black, naturals, neutrals, pastels, hot colors, cool colors…there are limitless ways to style a white dress. Not just as far as bags and shoes, but also jewelry, scarves, jackets, belts.

Here are some white summer dresses I’m liking, that aren’t too fancy/dressy or bodycon (read: tight-fitting):

Women’s Plus Size Eyelet Wrap Dress Ivory from Target

Sharagano Sleeveless Lace Shift Dress (Plus Size) Nordstrom Rack

Calvin Klein Plus Size Cotton Eyelet Trapeze Dress Macy*s

Ny Collection Plus Size Crochet-Trim A-Line Dress Macy*s

White Linen Scoop Neck Dress Zulilly

Inset Crochet A-Line Dress Avenue 

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A LWD (Little White Dress) can be just as classic as the LBD. I personally would love to wear it with natural colored accessories…or orange!  How fun for summer, right?? My only concern is SPILLING. I’m the worst. When I eat out I eat like a baby, keeping a napkin hovering under my fork in case I spill. And I still get food on myself! Am I the only one with this problem? I swear I’m going to design an adult bib to take out with me. Why are people only given bibs with lobster? Other things are messy…and stain more than lobster and butter!

Sigh.

Do you love a white dress as much as I do??

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