Oh, Deer!

Sorry, couldn’t help myself.

I feel like I say that a lot:-)

Anyway, we did a quick photo shoot last night before dinner at a nearby marina…and there are deer there, too! This pic is not my favorite of me, but…DEER.

fashion schlub plus size bettye rainwater 8.22.16 1 resized

My girlfriend Debbie has been staying with me for a little while, she’s between homes at the moment while deciding whether to return to Long Island after many many years…or to upstate New York after an absence of just a few months. Upstate seems to have many more items on the “pro” list, and yet…

fashion schlub plus size bettye rainwater 8.22.16 3 resized

Long Island has beaches and marinas and parks and convenient shopping and roadways and it’s close to the city…and DEER. It’s a tough call. I’ve been pretty anti-Long Island for a long time because it’s not where I *really* want to be (Brooklyn), but…I have to say, after Brooklyn, it’s probably my second choice of places to live at this point in my life.

fashion schlub plus size bettye rainwater 8.22.16 4 resized

Do you *love* where you live? Or is it just The Place You Ended Up…because that’s where your parents raised you or you or your spouse got a job or it’s where you could afford?

fashion schlub plus size bettye rainwater 8.22.16 2 resized

Anyway…this is an easy-to-wear dress, perfect for an easy evening out with a friend. Super stretchy, loose swingy skirt. Kinda felt like a nightgown! I’m drawn to clothing that feels or looks like sleepwear. I’m my mother’s daughter.

fashion schlub plus size bettye rainwater 8.22.16 5 resized

She’s so lovely!

fashion schlub plus size bettye rainwater 8.22.16 6 resized

This dress is the Robbie Bee Multi Chevron Print Dress In Blue (size 3x) and I got it through my Gwynnie Bee subscription.

You can get a 30-day Free Trial with Gwynnie Bee by following the link below.

SummerEssentials_B_336x280A

There are affiliate links in this post, which means if you buy or join something as a result of clicking the link I get a little cash reward…at no cost to you.

The photographer du jour was my longtime friend and artist Debbie Bollman. She does amazing, animal, sport and landscape paintings. Take a look! Thanks, Debbie!

My Week in Review: Week 23

Whirl. Wind. This week has been a whirlwind. Not bad, just BIZZY. I have a houseguest. And her dog. And was finishing up some projects at work. And starting on new ones. And some other things. And thinking about OTHER other things. So my brain has been on overdrive. I need a little veg out time soon to re-charge. One more week til vacation. Then…NOTHING. I want a whole lot of NOTHING on vacation:-) Sleeping late. Napping in the afternoon. Reading in the air conditioning. Sitting on the beach listening to the surf. Yup. That’s The Plan.

But here’s some of this past week…

IMG_2524

The dogs liked the beach.

IMG_2560

Inspirational greeting card sky.

IMG_2581

The hushed pine forest.

IMG_2583

Photo shoot in 9million degrees.

IMG_2586

Watermelon gazpacho. Yum. Made by someone other than me. Even yummier.

IMG_2597

Nautical spirit day at work. Have you seen my missing white sneaker?

IMG_2694

Dusk at the beach.

IMG_2702

Puppy-sitting at work.

IMG_2713

$12 Long Island Iced Tea. They’re STRONG. Yay.

IMG_2715

Floating lanterns at a beach wedding we happened upon.

IMG_2719

Photobooth at Sibling Day work. I’ll have some cajun fries with that, please.

IMG_2765

HORSE!!!

IMG_2763

I went to this laser light show in the 70s and again last night. I believe I have filled my lifetime quota.

 

The Perfect Date Dress

Want to go out with me? Cuz I have the perfect date dress!

fashion schlub plus size bettye rainwater 8.14.16 2 resized

What makes a good date dress? Anything that makes you feel flirty and pretty! It should be easy to wear and comfortable. No one wants to be worried about parts slipping out or having to suck your tummy in. It’s nice if it looks a *little* more special than something you’d wear to work or out with girlfriends. And I think a little bit of va-va-voom never hurts -it makes *you* feel a little sexy…and HIM feel excited and proud to be out with you. A bit of a neckline plunge, or some snugness at your hips showing off your curves, or a hemline that shows off your legs – pick one and have fun!

fashion schlub plus size bettye rainwater 8.14.16 5 resized

fashion schlub plus size bettye rainwater 8.14.16  4 resized

This dress fills the bill for me with the bodice, the plunging v neckline and even the wide straps. It has sort of a “Marilyn Monroe standing over the heating grate” vibe to me. But then the skirt is pleated and full, very prim and proper – I like the contrast.

fashion schlub plus size bettye rainwater 8.14.16 3 resizedfashion schlub plus size bettye rainwater 8.14.16 7 resizedAnd it’s twirly and swingy. Those are high priorities for me. fashion schlub plus size bettye rainwater 8.14.16 1 resized

I’m wearing a new bracelet I actually bought for myself (GASP). It was from a cute little “reclaimed and vintage” shop in Northport Village. I didn’t get the jewelry-maker’s card but the name of the shop is True Blue Village. They had home decor and gifts and really interesting handmade jewelry. I already know the piece I’m going to get next – maybe a birthday present to myself.

fashion schlub plus size bettye rainwater 8.14.16 6 resizedfashion schlub plus size bettye rainwater 8.14.16 8 resizedfashion schlub plus size bettye rainwater 8.14.16 9 resized

This darling dress is the Sangria Blue Dipped Flower Dress and I got it through my Gwynnie Bee subscription.

You can get a 30-day Free Trial with Gwynnie Bee by following the link below.

SummerEssentials_B_336x280A

There are affiliate links in this post, which means if you buy or join something as a result of clicking the link I get a little cash reward…at no cost to you.

The photographer du jour was my longtime friend and artist Debbie Bollman. She does amazing, animal, sport and landscape paintings. Take a look! Thanks, Debbie!

 

My Week in Review: Week 22

I write with the scent of a marble pound cake baking in the oven. I haven’t baked in a LONNNG time, but I’m seeing an old friend today and this is a peace offering. So I’ve been up since dawn. I’m looking forward to tomorrow when I have (so far!) No. Plans.

Last week I had a nice beach day with a friend. I like getting there before Anybody Else so I can pick The Perfect Spot and then the other 1000 people have to work around ME.

IMG_2362

I bought a bag. Cute right? It’s just like a fun weekend bag.

IMG_2378

This was on the impulse buy shelf along the check-out line at TJ Maxx. I managed to control myself and left it there.

IMG_2383

This week’s dress from Gwynnie Bee. Not a good fit. Sent it back, unworn. NEXT!!!

IMG_2384

I was getting ready for house-guests so had to make a trip to the ugh laundromat. This lil fella went along for the ride.

IMG_2390

Company’s here! This is Nora, 9-month-old Border Collie. You’ll be seeing a lot of her:-)

IMG_2411

Made it to the end of the week and this was my reward. Ahhh.

IMG_2455

Thyme-garlic roasted mushrooms and asparagus. And a blackberry mojito. Goodnight.

IMG_2462

How was YOUR week??

 

Plus Size Bag Lady

I am actually NOT a “bag” lady. I’m in awe of women who change their bags out daily to coordinate with their outfits, switching necessities back and forth. To be perfectly honest, I’m way too lazy for that! But I’d like to be a little more “accessory-coordinated,” and have some *fun* bags. Uhm. Purses. Fun purses.

I tend to find one bag that works for me and use it til it’s falling apart. I have so many “must haves” that it’s difficult to find something appropriate.

  • Must at least have the option of being cross body. I have sort of sloping shoulders I guess and bags on my shoulder just slip off and I need to have my hands free cuz I’m always carrying a million things in and out of the car.
  • Not leather but attractive.
  • Affordable.
  • Easy to get in and out of.
  • Durable. I don’t want to have to be so careful and worry about scuffing it.
  • I need to like the way it looks!
  • It should be proportionate to my frame. I love a teeny tiny purse, really a “wallet on a leash,” but I think that looks silly on my body.
  • The first bag I buy must be a season-appropriate neutral.

So yesterday, with no forethought or planning (GASP), I perused the pocketbooks at TJ Maxx. I tried to not overthink it and just grab anything that ticked all my boxes.

And here they are:


They’re very different but would all suit my needs for a fall/winter bag.

I brought home two to look at with some fall outfits. What are your thoughts? If I could only keep one, which one should stay and why??

Are you a one-bag woman or do you switch out multiples depending on your outfit?

Weightlessness

woman-918780_1920
Source: Pixabay

My favorite place to be is in the water. I especially love the ocean. I love the coolness of the water, the anonymity of it – even when there are thousands of people at beach, you’re just a faceless head bobbing in the waves. What I most love is the weightlessness of being in water.

It seems like “duh,” but it’s very “heavy” to be overweight. The pressure of the weight of your body on your legs and feet when standing, on your back and butt when sitting, and on your hips and ribs when laying down…is exhausting. Heavy. You get sore. You get tired. It is exhausting and heavy to just BE.

Being in the water is such a respite. You’re weightless. You float. You bob. There is no pressure on any part of your body. It’s cool. It’s silken. You’re LIGHT.

Even my mind relaxes as I float out just beyond the surf. I can let things go – weighty issues, heavy things weighing on my mind…and just…be…light.

It’s always a cruel shock to come out of the water, lifted by waves and carried to the shore, feet touching ground and you start walking again, supporting your own weight…and you feel heavier than before…bathing suit and hair heavy with water, struggling against the earth’s pull to keep walking forward, back to your little spot on the sand.

And I sit in my chair and wait for the next time I can be light in the water.

My Week in Review: Week 21 (I think)

I’m glad THAT week is over! Another week of So Much Busy I Barely Had Time to Take Pictures.

FullSizeRender
Asos Curve Sleeveless Swing Dress, 22 / Forever 21 Kimono, Large (straight size)

Work is busy right now as we’re preparing for an upcoming fund raiser in November. I’m working on the invitation and the website for that and it’s a lot of back and forth from other members of the development team. I’m ready to wrap these projects up and catch up on some other loose ends before VACATION in 2 more weeks (3 more weeks? I forget).

I got the birth announcement about my beautiful great-niece Annabelle Rose. I have a little gift for her here if I can ever remember to mail it!!!

IMG_2264

I just made it to a sunset with friends…

IMG_2268

Tuesday I had the photo shoot for the “one dress three ways” blog post and I thought it might be fun to start incorporating some video. WHOA. Seeing myself in video is a MUCH bigger shock than seeing myself in a still photograph. Who knew one person could have that much jiggle?? Wow. That was greatly disturbing to me. Which means…I have to keep doing it. Sigh. So here is my first little video, it’s just a nothing 8-second clip. I know nothing about video. Yet. I clearly know nothing about WALKING cuz I look like a…I don’t know what. But here goes.

I’m usually okay with having my picture taken but sometimes Enough is Enough!

fashion schlub plus size 8.3.16 10 resized

Moving on. THEN I had jury duty (I said doodee) for two days. Well, not DUTY, but was there for two days of juror selection. I have ALWAYS wanted to be a juror. This is my second time of being at least called to the selection process, but after two full days and waiting and answering questions, I was excused. Sadface. I won’t lie, It was nice being somewhere different for two days. I like ANY day that has something that sets it apart from the other 20,000 days I’ve been on this earth.

IMG_2274

Anyway, there’s signs all around the courthouse saying NO PICTURES but I found some nifty spots in town during the lunch recess to find some pretty things.

While waiting at court I finished the book I’ve been reading and really enjoying, “The Horse Dancer” by JoJo Moyes (she wrote “Me Before You,” if you’ve seen the movie this summer). Note: don’t read books that make you cry in public places. Cuz then you start sniffling in a large echoey room with a bunch of strangers and it’s very uncomfortable. But I highly recommend this book…and I don’t do that too often.

IMG_2281

I got back to work Friday just in time to take a little field trip to a golf course and I GOT TO DRIVE A GOLF CART! Small pleasures, my friends, small pleasures. It was loads of fun and it was so nice to just be out in the open with the wind in my face. I think that was the highlight of my week.

13722069_288253874880156_545418130_n(1)

And I am not making a political comment in any way whatsoever, but….

IMG_2356

What was the highlight of YOUR week??

I hope you’ll comment and share your thoughts, I really like to get to know the people that are reading the blog. And be sure to follow if you like it! Thanks!