Weeks in Review: 68-74

Week by week it doesn’t feel like I do much…in fact, I’m doing a whole lot of Not Much. But when I looked back at the past 6 weeks since I last posted a Week in Review…yeah, there’s some stuff. So I’ll share.

I finished radiation. 28 treatments. That really felt like an accomplishment. I hope to never be back for more.

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I got my appetite back.

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I was so sure this baseball tee dress was going to be a win. But it wasn’t. I thought it would be cottony but it was more polyestery. And too long.

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This floral silk Lucky Brand top from Gwynnie Bee was a win.

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Nope.

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Got my blood clot filter taken out.

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I left on a jet plane. I did come back again.

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Florida! I stayed overnight with my daughter in her cute Tampa apartment.

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Cool bathroom where we had brunch.

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Katie found Tommy.

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I found the ocean. I floated and bobbed for hours. A manatee swam right past us!

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There was a beautiful sunset every night.

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My fambly ❤

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My grand-niece Annabelle is the sweetest.

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My boy was happy I finally came home.

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I got a present!

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And started real chemo.

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Meet Bruce: IV site gone wrong. One of several unpleasant issues. 9 days out from Treatment #1 I’m back to feeling almost normal. Just tired.

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Caleb got some new meds and feels good.

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Janey had a bath.

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And today I will be…PACKING…because my exciting news is I’M MOVING!!! More details and pictures to come….

She’s Alive!!!

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Yep, I’m alive! The last couple of weeks have been spent preparing for a trip, going away, and now getting caught up on life after being away. I had a little mini family reunion with my sister and brother-in-law, and their daughter (my niece), her husband and their beautiful one-year old daughter Annabelle…and my daughter was able to join us for a few nights, as well as my bro-in-law’s sister and her partner.

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We stayed in a nice condo right on the beach in Indian Shores, Florida, which was very nice and vacationy…and HOT. I don’t know how people live there intentionally. But it was good for a vacation, being right on the beach. We sat our chairs right in the water and just enjoyed relaxing and catching up with one another. I caught up on a LOT of sleep, I was still worn out from radiation, but I finally feel all caught up this week and feel Really Good for the first time in months. Just in time to return to chemo tomorrow and start all over again. But at least I had a little reprieve and created some good memories…like when a giant manatee glided right past my sister and I when we were out in the water…practically within touching distance! That was amazing.

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It’s so important to get a Real Break now and then…getting outside your normal realm, away from responsibilities, work, phone calls, even social media. Sometimes you don’t realize how…AARRGGHH…you are with life in general, until you’re able to step away and have a break. Even if you can’t go on a trip, you can take a day to go somewhere new and explore a bit, see different things, and come back with some new memories and maybe a clearer perspective.

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Speaking of stepping outside your normal realm, how cute is this dress? It’s the dress I got at Plus Bklyn (see post here ) cuz I wanted one new, fun, summery thing to take with me on vacation. This is so light and breezy and easy to wear, I just love it. And I’m not generally a hat girl but my niece gave me this hat in Florida because my scalp kept burning. In the end, the hat was not for me while sitting in the hot sun, and instead I took a washcloth, wet it in the ocean, and lay that on top of my head. Now THAT was a fashion statement, indeed. My apologies that I have no photographic evidence of this event but it was brilliant. Kept my head cool and un-burnt.

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Back to the dress by Junarose, it’s not my usual look, loosey goosey with a large print…but now I think it’s my favorite dress of the summer and I’ll be wearing it a LOT.

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And I love these big boho earrings. They’re very dramatic and have a lot of movement. And the boys like that, you know 🙂

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I made a new friend. I had Doritos.

What’s your favorite outfit this summer??

What I Wore:

  • Junarose Krissa Junglee Printed Dress, size 22
  • Earrings from Maurice’s (old)
  • Victoria Diva hat from Wallaroo Hat Company

Free’n’Easy

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I. Love. This. Kimono. To me it represents freedom, peace, joy, beauty…EASE. Things that have been sort of missing from my life lately. I’ve been so exhausted from treatments that my only time outdoors is pretty much walking from the car to wherever I’m going…and back again later on. I’ve missed beautiful spring evenings and beach sunsets.

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But this day I managed to spin a couple times…and walk in the grass barefoot…and feel a little easy and free.

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Fashion can do that for you. It can transport you, make you feel like a different person or like you’re living a different kind of life. And right now I need some of that.

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Do you have something special you wear when you want to feel better?

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And the good news is, I finished radiation last week…and I’m starting to feel a little more human again. Not SO exhausted all the time. Staying up past 7pm, ha.

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So here’s to feeling free’n’easy…whether in spirit or style.

What I’m Wearing:

  • Johnny Was embroidered kimono via Gwynnie Bee, 3x
  • Charlotte Russe skinny jeans, size 24
  • J Jill linen blend tee, size 24

What Did I Buy?! Plus BKLYN

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Me, owner Alexis Krase and Marcy Cruz

It’s my last week of radiation – yay. It’s a good thing, too, cuz at this point I am beaten down. Life is pretty much work, treatment, home to lay down. But this past weekend I dragged myself up and out, picked up my buddy Marcy, and headed into Brooklyn to a new plus size boutique I’ve been seeing all over social media called Plus Bklyn.

Plus Bklyn is a funky little shop at 455 Graham Ave., Williamsburg, that caters to trendy ladies from size 14-26. Owner Alexis Krase and colleague Ivy were so charming and hospitable when we visited. We tried on bunches of fun things – there were dresses, tops, bathing suits, sunglasses, bags, jewelry and so much more!

So let’s play What Did I Buy?!

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Junarose, size 24
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Junarose, size 22
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Magical Unicorn dress, size 24

What do y’all think?

It’s so nice to have a new in-person plus-size shopping destination, I’ll definitely be back!

Week in Review: Weeks 64-67

Wow, I’ve essentially lost the month of May. May was the bulk of my radiation treatments – I still have seven left to go so they’re reaching a little into June as well, but hopefully I’ll be able to reclaim some of June for myself. I’ve been too tired to do much of anything, but here’s what I’ve been up to for the past few weeks.

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I photographed our 5k Jack’s Run for Autism up in Port Washington. It was like The Windiest Day EVER. We couldn’t hang signs or put out balloons to mark the course or anything. But the runners didn’t seem to mind. Those athletic types don’t let *anything* stop them. Respect.

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And then I went for my first chemo treatment. Scary. They kept referring to it as an “all day treatment.” SCARY. But in reality, it was a lot of prep, counseling, two hours of IV hydration and anti-nausea meds before and another two hours after…and the actual chemo was only one hour. But it *was* a long day of not really knowing what to expect so I had my bag well-stocked with activities, snacks, water, super soft kitty blanket, book, etc.

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I was anxious all day waiting to feel awful…but that really never happened. I felt *queasy* for the next week or so but never really nauseous. I will be repeating this procedure on Monday. Hopeful for same outcome.

Ugh. This dress. Not good. It went back to Gwynnie Bee immediately. You win some, you lose some.

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I brought some lilacs in from outside our office door. They smelled so so so so good. And I haven’t killed my succulent terrarium plants yet! Yay Me!

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Caleb is such a sneaky-peeker.

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I found a rock on the beach that looks like a heart. Or a butt. You choose.

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Ahhhhh. I need more of these.

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Don’t work too hard, Caleb.

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Sunrise outside my door.

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How fun is this beachy cake? I just looked, I did not touch.

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A family from the school brought me this card. They’re having their own struggles and yet they took their time to do this for me. HUGS TO YOU.

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My kooky kid.

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Her kooky mom.

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Sunrise out my girlfriend’s door.

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I dog-sat last weekend. They’re a tough pair to handle. Not.

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We had lots of lovely porch time.

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Some things never change.

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Ruh-roh. I killed one of the succulents. It rotted away. I think I overwatered. I put a turtle in its place. That will be harder to kill.

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Here is a pic of me at 10. It was part of a video I just saw for the first time, so I apologize for poor quality due to screen grab. I guess my father filmed this back in 1970? Isn’t it weird to see pictures of yourself from the past (well, duh, all pictures are from the past but you know what I mean) that you have No Recollection of? You know it’s you cuz you can SEE you, but. I have no memory of this day or this dress or even my father having a movie camera! And this is funny, in 1970 girls were not yet allowed to wear pants to school. But we were wearing dresses this short (you can’t see the groovy white Jan Brady knee socks I had on but they’re there). How did THAT make sense??

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For some reason this “I Am the Champion” muscle man bicep pose was my go-to photo pose around that age. Who knows. That’s my sister, cheery in yellow.

And there you have it. This month was a LOT of laying around, staying close to home. Hopefully I’ll be able to venture out a little more this month. Fingers crossed!

On another note, I have STILL not switched out my winter clothes for summer! It’s been just cool enough that I haven’t needed to. Maybe this weekend. I kind of think that was the same last sentence from my LAST Week in Review post!

xoxo Bettye

Keeping It Simple

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I’ve been keeping my life very simple lately. Work, treatment, home. That’s pretty much every day. Sometimes during the day I THINK I will go home and accomplish One Thing – wash the dishes or sweep the floor, etc. But no. By the time I get there I’m so shot that I get almost immediately into my nightgown and head to the sofa. I’m not even reading or watching tv, I’m just…resting.

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So this kind of outfit is my mainstay right now. A simple base with something over top. Easy peasy.

This dress is so easy to wear. It’s a rayon spandex blend that’s stretchy and swingy and feels like silky cotton. The blouse is Tencel which is a drapey lightweight denimy material. Both fabrics are very comfortable to wear.

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Fashion doesn’t always have to be fussy or fancy. It can be easy and relaxed and comfortable…and that is totally my jam these days.

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I’m kind of liking my life like this. I feel like the beginning of the year started with so much drama that I’m enjoying this simple time. Kind of weird, right? I never feel good anymore, I’m always exhausted, but overall, life feels good. Count on me to be contrary 🙂

What I’m Wearing

Photos by Marcy of Fearlessly Just Me – thanks, Marce! Make sure you check out her blog cuz she is a  BOSS!!!

A Tribute to Moms

I’m a mom. I know how hard it is. I HAD a mom. I know how hard I was on HER. Being a mom is H-A-R-D. It’s also a gift. I just wanted to post a tribute to moms everywhere – past and present – human moms, animal moms, “next door neighbor” moms – all the people who “mother” other people whether they’re related by blood or obligation or not.

THANK YOU to all the moms out there – for caring and driving and tolerating and wiping and buying and hugging…and loving. Happy Mother’s Day.

Here are some pictures of my mother and me…and of me and my daughter.

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Mommy 1922

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D mommy

D mommy 1956

D mommy cigarette

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I still have this dress and the matching cape…and the lucite purse

D blr baby 2

D bettye mommy

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And the next generation…

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kate first day school

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And me and my fur-baby 🙂

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(Otherwise it was an uneventful, slightly queasy, non-visual week…I’ll just lump the few bits into next week’s Week in Review).

Happy Mother’s Day xoxo