It’s (ALMOST) Spring!

I know we could still have snow and freezing temperatures in March…but it’s more likely we’ll have some warm breezes and crocuses popping up in the lawn (lookit me, all positive and sh*t!). And with warm breezes on my mind, my thoughts also turn to warm weather outfits – BARE LEGS! NO TIGHTS! Ahh. I don’t mind the cold. I mind dressing for the cold. If you’re heavy (or have ever endured the final months of pregnancy) you know how difficult seemingly simple tasks can become – like reaching your feet to pull on tights or even socks. Tying shoes is a near-death, oxygen-cutting-off experience hardship when there’s so much mid-section bulk. I don’t “not love” myself and my body, but like a well-loved partner, damn if it’s not annoying at times!

In thinking back to last year’s spring and summer wardrobes, I believe they’re pretty well filled out. Of course I’ll want a couple new fun things, but this year will mostly be about accessories. Shoes, bags, jewelry, jackets, scarves. I tend to have One Bag that I carry til it’s falling apart. I never seem to have quite the right shoes to go with every outfit and situation. My jewelry cupboard is so very bare. And while I have a GAZILLION scarves from Chemo Season 2017, they don’t necessarily complement my wardrobe. And so…the online browsing and shopping begins…


I’ve been looking for a soft grey…or taupe…or greyish-taupe slip-on for wearing everyday, every way.  These Keds Women’s Double Decker Slip-On Sneakers in taupe would fill the bill nicely. I always have to make sure a shoe either has arch support built-in or is deep enough that I can fit arch support inserts in and my foot still fits into the shoe. I also have a high instep so I need a shoe that doesn’t come up too high on the foot like a lot of slip-ons do. So if you have “problem feet” like I do, my hunt might help you. Do any of you have brands of shoes you like that are good for painful feet??

I also need a slightly more fancy sneaker or super-comfy flat for summer dresses…in black and also a neutral…

LOVE this shoe! I’m not usually a “branded” lover – you know those items with logos or brand names on them…but I so like the style of this shoe and think it can be worn beautifully with pants or casual dresses, that I’ve been coveting it for months. My concern is my wide foot in that slender shoe…so I’m making sure I have some good alternatives at the ready.

Calvin Klein Women’s Mora Slip-On Sneaker

And of course a regular sneaker for actual walking (as opposed to just walking in and out of work)…

I like this New Balance sneaker that doesn’t actually lace-up so no bending over to tie laces required, woohoo! And that loop at the back for pulling up a caved-in heel (don’t you hate that??) is very nice.

Maybe that’s enough for one post! I’ve been admiring some bags for summer, too…but I’ll save that for another time. Hope you enjoyed window shopping with me…see anything you like??

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Week in Review: Week 107

I love the charming older homes in my area.


I was sick for two days and didn’t get out.


My view from bed.



And then we had more snow!


And had another snow day, which we all love very much.



I’ve been looking for an etagere in just the right size since I moved here back in August, and finally found one on CraigsList. Guess I should have emptied my car out before going to pick it up. Fortunately I had some old computer cables in the back to tie the hatch down as it wouldn’t shut with the etagare legs sticking it. AND, fortunately, it was less than two miles from my house so I didn’t have to drive far after picking it up. It’s very hilly around here and I was afraid all my junk would start spilling out the back as I drove uphill!


In place.


I got a little neatening trim from Morgan at Posh. Now it looks more like an intentional style vs. growing out bald head.


Janey in the packing peanuts.


Shopping for comfortable black flats. I loved these but managed to control myself.


The final contenders.


Ooh, pretty! Should I??


New hair, new shoes, Gwynnie Bee dress – off to a wedding!




And today I slept on and off almost all day! Running errands all day yesterday and being out late last night took it’s toll on me and I could just not stay awake so I kept laying back down “for just 5 minutes” and would wake up hours later…until 4:00 this afternoon!!! Gah! I don’t feel ready to start a new work week yet, but…..that’s life.


The Best Laid Plans….

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…ha ha, I feel like I’ve written at least 3 posts with this title! I could also call it “The Joke’s On Me: What Happens When You Thought You Bought One Thing, But You Really Bought the Other Thing.”

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So, I was going to call this post “Springifying a Winter Dress.” Some time ago, even before the California trip, I went shopping for a springy scarf to take this wintery dress from drab to fab. I had a really lovely scarf in my cart…pale pinks and buttery yellows and robin’s egg blue…and just enough grey and black to tie in the grey dress and black cardigan (that I was going to style for this post). But at some point I picked up this other scarf and apparently bought IT and not the original one. I brought it home, never took it out of the bag, didn’t want to wear it til after I’d photographed it for the blog cuz, well, I’m a spiller. Sad but true. So imagine my surprise when this weekend I finally pulled it out of the blog to do the pictures…and it was not the lovely pastel scarf I’d thought I bought…but this neutral-toned one with…CACTI on it. No bluebirds of happiness, no pink blossoms. Cacti. I mean, it’s a very nice scarf. It feels delicious. It works very nicely with this other outfit. But nothing is being springified here today, folks.

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Sigh. I’ll have to springify another time.

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But this outfit can speak to Third Pieces and especially the value of pulling at least one printed item into the mix.

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The grey dress and taupe cardigan are fine together. But the pair on their own is a little bland. Add a third piece, a printed third piece, and now you’ve got yourself some interest. I like to tie in the two colors already present in the outfit and introduce one or two more – in this case, sort of an apricotty gold and few touches of a grey blue. These colors that aren’t already present in the base outfit bring in a little more interest, and the scarf (or sweater or bag or whatever) designer has already done the work for you of knowing what colors will work well together. Now you can play off that in other outfits. You know the scarf will also work with grey blue and that soft gold color so you can create other outfits using those colors.

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PS: Big earrings are fun when you have super short hair.

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Speaking of super short hair, it’s growing in like crazy! But it’s at a weird sort of “non-style” length, and I feel like you can get away with that less easily than you can with long hair. So I think I’m going to get it shaped a bit this week…probably take the sides and back down a bit while continuing to let the top and front grow. I really miss bangs. I also need to figure out what products to use for this new hair. AND….what do I do about my definitely brown eyebrows?? They’re very pale but they’re definitely a different tone than my hair. So…what to do?? I’m in uncharted territory.

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What I Wore:

  • Grey dress: Old Navy, old, similar here or here
  • Taupe cardigan, old, similar here or here
  • Silk scarf, similar here or here

Today I’m linking up with Catherine at for her #IWillWearWhatILike link-up party! Check out the other bloggers who link up there and  find some inspo or make a new friend!

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Valentine’s Day Shopping

As I was reminded in the RED VELVET HEART BOX aisle at CVS the other day, Valentine’s Day is not far off. And people can piss and moan all they want about it being a fake holiday, I don’t care. I love *every* holiday. I want to decorate for it and dress for it and plan a special meal for it and send out cards for it and give gifts for it. I just love holidays. I love any day that sets itself off from all the other days that just start to run together…get up go to work buy the groceries walk the dog make the dinner watch tv go to bed lather rinse repeat. I love the SPECIAL days.

SO, I will be needing a Valentine’s Day Outfit. I’ll be away that week (surprise trip ahead, woohoo!) so I have to plan early. Hence, this post. I thought we could do a little window shopping together…maybe you’ll even find something for yourself…it’ll be just like we’re girlfriends at the mall together.

My first stop was at CowCow. Remember The Christmas Dress? That was from CowCow. They have every style of clothing imaginable, in umpteen sizes (including plus sizes up to 5x (which they call xxxxx-large), in every graphic conceivable. So I just knew they’d have some good Valentine’s dresses.

Hart’s Long Sleeve Skater Dress from CowCow (sizes xs through xxx-large). This is just a fun graphic dress. It’s long-sleeved so you could wear it on its own or under a black or grey cardi or blazer.


Chocolate Pink Hearts Gift Wrap Reversible Skater Dress also from CowCow (size xs through xxx-large). I love pink and brown together! I would totally wear this with my oversized pink chenille cardigan and blush pink slip-on sneakers (that I’m actually still searching for)!


Then I hit where there were TONS of things in their plus size section, but I narrowed it down to a few favorites.

If I was going out to a fancy, romantic dinner, I’d love a dress like this. An easy loose shift style in a feminine color…and the ruffled sleeves are short enough to not fall into my fancy soup.

Tahari Bell Sleeve Ruffle Shift Dress • Tahari • $138

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If I was going out for Galentine’s drinks with my girls, this would be amazing. Over a white tee and under a denim jacket. With those same blush slip-on sneakers I’ve yet to find.

ELVI Nude Sequin Slipdress • $85

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This dress would be perfect if I was making dinner at home for a special guy.

Soprano Tie Front Lace Dress • Soprano • $55

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And if it was a casual rom-com movie night at home with (chocolate drizzled caramel) popcorn, this would be so cozy for curling up on the sofa.

Caslon(R) Chenille Poncho • Caslon • $66.33

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What do you think? I’m not sure what I’ll be doing on Valentine’s Day because, as I said, I’ll be away…so it’s sort of hard to pick what to bring to wear. I think last year I was stuck in a snowstorm in Maine!

Which do you like??

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Resolutions + Plus Size Try-on Haul Video

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I’m still working on my resolutions for the new year. I’m not usually a hard-and-fast resolution sorta gal; I usually pick a fun thing I want to challenge myself to do more of – like drink more or wear more jewelry, ha ha. But after 2017 I do sort of feel like I need to get some things in order. I need to get PREPARED. That’s one of the resolutions, but I’m still fine-tuning (that seems to be a recurrent theme of the new year also) it and most of them…but the one I’m certain of is…to pamper myself.

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To have flowers in the house, go for mani-pedis and foot massages and get my hair done when I have hair again. Have a facial. Not just pampering, but being kind and gentle with myself. Last year was a hard year. It was painful and exhausting and took a lot out of me. I need to feed myself and care for myself and build my mind and heart back up. Get a comfortable sofa so I can relax and read and enjoy looking out the window. Ask friends for help when things are too hard. Eat good food. Be Good to my body. Nourish it, stretch it, exercise it. Rest it. If I need to sleep all day once in a while, do that without feeling guilty. Make my home more pleasing. Empty the corners of boxes and piles of stuff. Create lovely vignettes to enjoy when I come home. Live in silence when I want, live in music when I want. Just be good to myself.
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I’m still working out the technicalities on this one, but one year (I think 2011) I did “Do Something New Every Week,” and that was really a good one but it was more Big Picture things, like “do a 5k,” “get reiki.” etc. I think this year I might do a “Try Something New Every Day” resolution. I know that sounds imposing but they can be Very Small Things: go to a new bagel shop, turn down a different street when driving home, make a new recipe, try on a pair of shoes you wouldn’t normally try. It’s just the point of keeping your mind open to new and untried things rather than being comfortable and settled in routine.
That’s it for resolutions for now…and onto something NEW and exciting that got its start in 2017 but just went live in 2018 – and that is that my new blog-friend Nancy of Nancy’s Fashion Style shared Fashion Schlub as one of her “Styled By…” posts! I’ve been reading such nice comments from her regular readers, I’m so grateful to her! Be sure to take a look at her blog – she has such an adventurous and fun fashion sense – I think you’ll really enjoy her blog – AND she’s a sweetheart, to boot!


And this week’s weekly vlog is a plus size winter try-on haul showing clothes from Old Navy, Woman Within and Charlotte Russe. Take a look and let me know what you think – I think my videoing and editing skills are getting a little better!

All photography by me.

What the Holidays Mean to Me


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Well, almost.

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I don’t care what holiday you celebrate or what religion you are, I think the end of the year is a good time to reflect on the year past and maybe, just maybe, how we can do better, be better,  in the year ahead. How we can be more kind and more loving. How we can be more caring and thoughtful to the needs of others.

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It’s a time to make a point of checking in with family and friends you maybe haven’t seen or heard from in awhile. Shouldn’t we be doing that all the time? Sure. But. Life. I always feel like holidays are reminders to do the things we might forget the rest of the time – Let People Know You Love and Care About Them.

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The holidays are also an excuse to celebrate. Eat a little too much. Have a cocktail. Stay out late. Meet up with friends. Do the things we’re “too busy” for so much of the time.

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Be a little frivolous. Give gifts. Wear a fun dress! I like to do that! Last week was the Staff Holiday Party at work with an Ugly Christmas Sweater theme…and I took it one step further and got this vintage Christmas wrapping paper looking dress from Cow Cow.

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Cow Cow makes a gajillion different customizable items and have a kazillion different ready-made prints and patterns on every theme imaginable. And many items go up to plus size 5xl. That’s what I got and it’s actually a little large, I could have gotten a 4xl and it wouldn’t have been slipping off my one shoulder. It’s also mad affordable.

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You can find them on their own website and on Amazon. I think there’s more variety on their website but items are cheaper on Amazon, and especially if you have Amazon Prime you won’t pay shipping. Just be forewarned, if you want something specific in a holiday theme be sure to order well before the holiday because shipping takes much longer, although for $20 they can expedite shipping and you can get your wacky Christmas dress to you in time for your holiday staff party!

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This is not my favorite picture of me, but…but…there’s a……..

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Here’s a closer look at the amazing dress in all its glory…

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…and closer….

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…and closer….

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…and closer!!!

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Hope you’re taking some time this holiday season to reflect and breathe and visit with loved ones.

What I’m Wearing:

Today I’m linking up with Elegantly Dressed and Stylish for the Turning Heads Linkup. Jess looks To. Die. For. in a military-inspired blazer. I’m also linking-up with The Saturday Share Link-up on Not Dressed as Lamb and there are many other lovely ladies there to check out as well!

Trying Before Buying

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I’m still mucking around with the wireless shutter remote. I think that thing hates me almost as much as my sewing machine. But I’ll keep going til I either Get It…or it “accidentally” gets stepped on and crushed into the asphalt.

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Fortunately not everything is as frustrating as photography! Renting plus sized clothing from Gwynnie Bee is *super* easy. I’ve been using the service for almost three years now and I’ve learned so much about what looks good on me, what I’m consistently comfortable in, even what my “fashion personality” is!

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By having the luxury of being able to try and wear many different styles before buying (or returning!) you really get a feel for what items work best for you. Trying on an item in a dressing room for a few minutes, or even bringing it home to try on with your own clothes, is just not the same as wearing an item out in the world, in and out of the car, to work, out to dinner, etc. Many things look good in the mirror when you’re primping and posing…but as soon as you start moving around in your real life, all sorts of issues can pop up! The notorious “bust gap” when you sit…or dresses that ride up Just a Little Too Much when you walk or slide into a car…or that fabric that seemed fine for two minutes in the dressing room, after 2 hours is itching your neck like crazy…etc.

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You can try Gwynnie Bee plus size rental service for one month FREE, just click the text link at the bottom of this post. I pay for the “one item out at a time” plan and typically get 4-5 different items in a month if I wear an item once and return it the next day. I don’t own a lot of clothes, so having one extra item every week really helps keep my wardrobe fresh and interesting! Give it a try for a month – you’ve got nothing to lose…and a bunch of clothing items to try!

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What I’m Wearing

This is not a sponsored post, I am not being paid to write this. I am a happy customer…and if you join up after doing the one-month free trial using my coupon code, I will make a small commission. 

GWYNNIE BEE: Why buy it when you can GB it? Free shipping. Free exchanges. Free 30-day wardrobe rental.

The weekly vlog is up on my YouTube channel. This week is In the Dressing Room at Target. I try a couple things outside my “usual.”

Using Base Layers to Build Your Wardrobe

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This week’s video is all about using a couple simple base layers to build your wardrobe.

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I did a little “fashion math,” and realized that once you start using base layers + third item, you will start increasing the number of outfits you have in your wardrobe, exponentially.

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For example, a black tunic and leggings as the base layer + 5 different “third pieces,” whether a cardigan, vest, kimono or blazer, creates 7 different outfits. If you add another base layer – say a black turtleneck and black jeans or slacks + the same 5 different third pieces, you now have another 7 outfits, just by adding 2 additional items. Add a white tee and a pair of denim to the mix as another base layer, and those 2 items add ANOTHER 7 outfits…and so on.

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It’s kind of brilliant when you think about it. Rather than just buying things willy-nilly…”oh, I like this so I’ll buy it,” ask yourself the question, does it go well over one of your base layers. If it does, then that’s a wise purchase.

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Of course, you’re always going to want to have some “wild cards” in your wardrobe to spice things up a bit, like this black floral print. But I try to limit the number of outliers I purchase and stick to “things that will go with many other things.” That way I can make the most outfits.

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I explain it more fully in the video and you’ll see the theory in action, as I make many different outfits from just a few items.

What I Wore:

* Pink chenille cardigan from Charlotte Russe, size 3x
* Black floral top by American Rag from Gwynnie Bee, size 3x
* Black skinny jeans from Charlotte Russe, no longer in stock, size 22


2017 Plus Size Fall Haul #1 (with video!)

I finally bit the bullet and purchased some new plus size fall wardrobe items online…and I thought I’d share with you my thoughts about the items I got.

I purchased items from online shopping sites: Full Beauty/Woman Within/Jessica London, Forever 21, Asos, Thred-Up, Rainbow Shops, Gwynnie Bee and Old Navy. These are all in size 2x or 3x. It wasn’t such a successful shop and most of the items have already been returned…and as soon as I get all my refunds I’ll give it another try.

I rant a bit about spending money on “basics,” when they’re really so simple and invisible…and about brands using inconsistent sizing.

I apologize for it being SO so long. I considered cutting it in half and doing a Part 1 and Part 2, but….let’s just move on with it, shall we?

I spent almost the entire day last Saturday recording this fall haul; this vlog stuff has a steep learning curve! It took me so long, by the last couple of outfits the video is so dark you can barely see the color of the items I’m wearing! I also committed the cardinal sin of videoing, which is filming in portrait orientation (instead of landscape) – GAH! I’m having some video/photography challenges in the new apartment still, so bear with me while I get my space and lighting figured out!

If you have any questions about the items, please comment here or in the comments section underneath the video.

What Did I Buy?! Plus BKLYN

Me, owner Alexis Krase and Marcy Cruz

It’s my last week of radiation – yay. It’s a good thing, too, cuz at this point I am beaten down. Life is pretty much work, treatment, home to lay down. But this past weekend I dragged myself up and out, picked up my buddy Marcy, and headed into Brooklyn to a new plus size boutique I’ve been seeing all over social media called Plus Bklyn.

Plus Bklyn is a funky little shop at 455 Graham Ave., Williamsburg, that caters to trendy ladies from size 14-26. Owner Alexis Krase and colleague Ivy were so charming and hospitable when we visited. We tried on bunches of fun things – there were dresses, tops, bathing suits, sunglasses, bags, jewelry and so much more!

So let’s play What Did I Buy?!

Junarose, size 24
Junarose, size 22
Magical Unicorn dress, size 24

What do y’all think?

It’s so nice to have a new in-person plus-size shopping destination, I’ll definitely be back!