Week in Review: Week 294: Part 1: Jane
AKA: The Week That Grabbed Me By the Throat and Slammed Me Down on the Ground a Bunch of Times…and Then Air-Lifted Me to Another World
It’s just too much for one post…and I’m still gathering my thoughts of the past week…so this is Part 1. The “slam me on the ground” part.
MONDAY
So. Little Miss Jane. She’s almost 17…so clearly she’s been showing signs of aging. But she still followed me Every. Where. I Went. She still did The Poop Zoom after using the litter box. She still delighted in playing with crickets and chasing the laser pointer.
But this weekend she took a steep downhill nosedive. From one day to the next she went from being an old cat that I thought would be around at least one more year…to a cat who clearly was in her final days. The speed of the transition was shocking.
So Monday was spent having to make The Decision. Which is always a hard decision. But I’ve always felt I waited a day or two too long with Caleb, so his last day was really rough…and I regret not helping him avoid that.
But she’s not really eating…she hasn’t used the litterbox since Sunday morning. Her breathing is labored. She’s not really curling up and sleeping. Her body temperature is low so she’s cool to the touch.
She’s not herself. It’s just time.
So someone is coming to the house Wednesday morning to…euthanize her…so she doesn’t have to be stressed in her final moments with riding in the car and going to an unfamiliar office. We can just do it in her quiet home, on her spot on my bed next to my pillow…and I can just pet her til she slips away.
This is hard.
TUESDAY
Today was a little easier as the difficult realization of yesterday…and the accompanying decision had been made. Now it’s just last-minute dumping stuff into the suitcase quickly for my trip so then I can just sit and pet the cat.
Jane has always been a sweet, affectionate, problem-free little cat.
She came to us a gift from our Clyde who had decided to move on…but he brought tiny baby Jane to us as a parting gift before he went on his way.
I’d just had to put down the lovely Stephanie Elizabeth at the age of 18…and I said NO MORE CATS. But then one morning there was Clyde lying on the front porch with a tiny grey kitten clambering over him. I said NO MORE CATS and sat down on the porch with them. She immediately climbed up to my shoulder where she burrowed into my neck and fell asleep purring. She pretty much stayed there for the next five years.
And there was One More Cat.
All she ever wanted was to be On Me. Madison and Caleb were the next best things. But I was always The Body of Choice to be on or next to.
WEDNESDAY
And now she’s gone 🙁
A vet (not mine) came from Lap of Love, a really nice company that just does in-home euthanasia. It was important to me that she not have to be stressed out or anxious in her final moments by riding in the car in the cat carrier to the vet’s office. This way Dr. Heather came here early in the day and Janey just got to lay on her spot on the bed while the vet and I talked a bit and Janey got accustomed to a stranger in the house…so she was not alarmed when Dr. Heather walked over to her to give her the first injection. That one’s just a relaxant. I got to just pet and talk to her for a bit before the Dr. came and gave her the other shot…and in a few minutes she was gone.
She assured me I was doing the right thing…that just by Jane’s labored breathing she knew she was at the end and shouldn’t have to go on. So at least there’s that.
In a bit I wrapped her up in her towel she slept on, and put her in a box and took her over to Russell’s, where he has since buried her next to their cat Emma who passed last year. I wish she could have been next to Caleb, but they moved last year and Caleb is at the old house.
When I came back and walked in the door, I said ahnyonghaseo Jane-shi like I always do…and then realized she was not there.
No one was there.
I’ve never been THIS alone. I don’t get LONELY, but this felt odd.
I haven’t been without an animal in my life since I was like 10 years old. I’ve never lived without SOME sort of living thing being with me.
I’m going to end this here…and in Part 2, continue with the “all the walking, none of the sleep…and BTS” portion of the week.
I’mma just leave some pictures of sweet Jane right here…
RIP Miss Jane ~ March 5, 2005 – November 24, 2021
xoxo
Judi
So sorry to hear of Janey’s departure, though we can always hope her furry friends met her on the other side and that she’ll live in your heart forever. She seemed so special, so I’m sure she will. Take good care, Bettye.
bettyewp
Thank you, Judi. She was always a sweet kitty, loved by many xoxo
Laurie E
I was sad to read your news about Miss Jane. Your photos are a beautiful tribute to her. My thoughts are with you at this difficult time.
bettyewp
Thanks, Laurie. I’m always grateful for all the pictures I’ve had of my animals. They remind me of the wonderful time I had with them.
xoxo
Penny
Oh Bettye, I am so very, very sorry – it’s awful. I’ve had 3 cats and a dog and each time….. What a beautiful cat though and I loved the one with the dog as that’s how my dog was with our last cat. So sweet. You take care now x
bettyewp
She was a love. She was always a teeny tiny thing. Long and lean. We called her The Stick Cat. Katie loved to hold her up under her forearms and let her long slinky body dangle…and she looked like a long stick.
And she did love Caleb. He could care less about the cats. They’d snuggle up to him and he’d look at me like, “I will endure this nonsense because I love YOU.”
Definitely letting myself take it a little easy week. Thanks, Penny xoxo
julia
I’m so sorry for your loss. You gave her a wonderful home and a peaceful departure. She knew she was loved every day and that is a hallmark of a good life. I hope you are able to adjust with minimal pain and sadness. Take care friend.
bettyewp
Thanks, Julia. She was a sweet companion. Certainly the sharp edge of loss was softened by the distraction of the week away. But. Now I keep looking for her in her spots and she is not there. Or I go down to sit on the sofa and count 3…2…1…as I always did cuz that’s about how long it would take her to realize I was ON THE SOFA and she would come sit on me.
And there is a stab of sadness to walk in the door…and realize there’s no one to say hello to.
KATHLEEN SADLER
sorry to hear about jane. krs
bettyewp
Aww, Kath, thank you <3 Hope you're doing well.
Lisa Elliott
I am so sorry for the loss of your furry friend. I’m reading your post at my desk in the office . . .should have waited until I got home because I’m crying with you.
bettyewp
Oh no no!
Ohhh…the office desk crying, I know it well. The first day, last Monday…when I had to accept what was going on…and make that decision…that was the hardest day for me…and involved lots of at-work crying. Once the decision was made and I felt I was doing the best thing for her, it gave me some relief and on Tuesday I was calmer and managed to have a work day free of tears. Thankfully my boss told me not to come in that last day with her…cuz…yeah. That was a tough day.
Thanks for your empathy, Lisa xoxo
jodie filogomo
It’s the hardest thing ever. Sending you the hugest virtual hug. They just make our life so much better.
bettyewp
Thanks, Jodie. I know you understand. And thanks for the hug xoxo
Marian
Bettye – Really sorry to hear about Jane. The story of how she came to you is incredibly sweet. You were a great cat Mom. Sparing both of you the experience of the vet’s office was wise and compassionate. I’m glad you had each other for 17 years but sorry that you’ve had to say good-bye.
You have a rare talent/skill of photographically capturing the soul of pet. You could make a fortune doing pet portraits
Shirley Horst
So sorry you had to let your lovely kitty go! Pets are a special part of our lives that it is hard to let them go. May you be blessed with the beautiful memories of your wonderful feline!
Nancy
So, so sorry that your friend is gone….
Iris Smale
WOW, lots of great pictures. I’m so very sorry but you know you did the right thing. What a wonderful thing to be able to have the vet come to your house where Janey was in her own comfortable space. It’s never easy but you have wonderful memories.
Iris
Christine
I’m so sorry for your loss. You did the best thing for her. It’s just the worst when their time is up and we have to say goodbye.
bettyewp
That IS the hardest thing.
Karen
I’m so sorry, Bettye. She was a beauty of a cat and a precious companion. A gift. Your poor heart. xo karen
bettyewp
Thank you so much, Karen.
Michelle
What beautiful words for a beautiful companion. So sorry for this loss. The photos capture all of the love you shared. xoxo
bettyewp
Thanks, friend xoxo
Jaynn
So so sad for you… Janey no longer hurts, or struggles to breathe… but now you do and for that, I am so so sad… It is all worth it of course, but… yeah… adding hugs and tears to the pile…
Andrea
I’m so sorry. What a beautiful photo tribute for a sweet companion.