A Bit of a Vent
I’m going to confess up front – I dialed it in a bit with this post. When I got this wine and navy striped cardigan from Gwynnie Bee I knew I wanted to wear it with my blue and white striped oxford shirt that’s been in the “sell” pile for ages (you last saw it two years ago here). I loved the stripe on stripe concept. But the blouse is slightly snugger than I like…and the cardigan is slightly larger than I like…so I’m not really going to wear this outfit anywhere, but I do like it in concept and wanted to show it to you.
Skinny stripes with really wide stripes is an easy pairing. Keep the colors simple. Since the sweater is two colors, I kept the blouse to one color. Combining two multi-color stripes is some advanced level pattern mixing – proceed with caution!
Now for the vent
I’m way behind this week (and it’s only Monday!) because of working our dinner dance event on Saturday. I should have shot at least one of my outfits over the weekend and I did NONE. Then this afternoon I had my 6-month oncology check-up – everything’s fine, but it ran long and I was afraid I wasn’t going to have time to get home, iron the blouse, change, find a shooting location and get the shoot done before I lost the light…so I only spot-wrinkle-fixed and shot on the patio at the apartment, which I’d told myself I wasn’t going to do again until I’d cleaned it up and springified a bit.
So – my bad. I have to say…moving to four posts a week has been a bit of a stretch for me, but I was managing. But now that all the storage stuff is home and I’m trying to get boxes emptied and stuff listed on ebay…that’s putting me over the top. Next week is two more evening work events. So I don’t see things getting easier anytime soon.
I get frustrated when I have ideas…but not the time to implement them properly. And I put a lot of pressure on myself to maintain schedules that I make up for myself. No one is standing over me with a whip saying SHOOT TWO OUTFITS A WEEK! POST FOUR TIMES A WEEK! LIST FIVE THINGS ON EBAY EVERY WEEK! I do this to myself.
On the one hand, keeping a busy, productive routine helps me – the distraction of the work keeps me from obsessing over things and letting the anxiety take over. And there is certainly reward for working hard – the blog grows and succeeds, I get more stuff out of the apartment, I put more money into savings and work on paying down debt. That’s all good. But it’s a fine line to cross over into obsessiveness, which is one of my special gifts.
I love the blog. LOVE IT. Love doing it, reading and responding to comments, love all the blog things. But I’m just feeling very time-pressed right now…and spread a little thin.
SO. I may cut myself a little slack this week (I haven’t quite convinced myself of this yet, but quite honestly, I don’t see the time available this week to do all the things I want to do!) and only post once more after this…and save Month in Review til next week….OR…skip it altogether (OH THE HORROR).
I know you all understand. I know no one is so hanging on my every word that lives will be changed forever for missing a post or two. Ha. Ha ha.
On a bright note, I give you some Janey pictures! I thought they might brighten up an otherwise wrinkled, lame, whiney post 🙂
Okay…if I don’t see you again this week, have a good one!
What I’m Wearing
- All old stuff. Ha.
Nancy
Hahaa, but the cardigan looks pretty good! And the cat too! Haha. Just take your time!
bettyewp
97 days later, thanks, Nancy! I did take a little time off this week…I had one evening at home to myself, no work, then went out with a friend TWO NIGHTS (whoa) and did a little work.
Hopefully next week I’ll be back to normal!
Lin
You do a brilliant job and I love reading your blogs, but, put yourself first and cut a little slack, you’ve got a lot to do with work and your new apartment, I’ll still be reading you, however , infrequent the posts are!
bettyewp
Thanks so much, Lin 🙂
Pauli
Morning, Bettye! Had to comment first thing…before the busyness of the day snatches me up by the seat of my pants….thanks for the permanent wedge, life. Your post resonates SO deeply and I just had to leave this for you. Read it twice; once with one eye closed and again after my coffee (with 1 tsp of instant mixed of for reinforcement😧). First of all, I LOVE all your stripey stripes and think the patio is a great location, btw and seriously. Second, and I think I speak for all your fans and readers, TAKE THE TIME YOU NEED and do it for yourself. You’ve had so much to do and deal with and I sense your tiredness and frustration. Been there, done that. AM there, still doing that. Not one to dispense advice (solicited or no), I just wanted to leave you some words of encouragement. Third….THANK GOD for the outcome of your oncology check-up. As for the rest….feeling the pressure of real and imagined obligations…slow down. Paraphrasing these: “the faster I go, the behinder I get”. And, young lady– how do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time (knife and fork optional). And I tell myself THIS on a daily basis, that considering the alternative, I’ll take it. In fact, It’s almost my mantra and stock reply when someone asks “how are you?”. Will we miss you if you take a break? OF COURSE. Do we get it? Definitely OF COURSE. So go on and take care of your bidnesses and rest up when you can. We’ll be right here when you get back. Sending love, light, prayers, and special reserve juju your way.
bettyewp
I’ve been wanting to respond to you all week, Pauli. This was SUCH a nice message, I really really appreciated it when I read it the morning that post went live.
YOU GUYS ARE ALL SO GREAT!!!
Marianne
Agree with everyone else so far: please take your time. We will be here. So happy for you with the outcome of your check!
bettyewp
Thanks, Marianne <3
Heather Taylor
Janey has such beautiful eyes! Tell her I said she’s a pretty baby, oh yes she is.
bettyewp
That’s so sweet, Heather. I will give her your compliment tomorrow, which is her 15th birthday!
Iris
I love your patio and it does not have to look perfect (in your eyes) and I love the pics with Janey. How does she feel about being outside? And, I’m so glad your oncologist appt had positive results. I know they take time – but you must keep up with them.
Grace & Peace,Iris
http://www.IrisOriginalsRamblings.com
bettyewp
She seems to KIND OF like going outside, but she’s a little wary.
Just a scan next week then I don’t have to go back to them for 6 months. Though I *am* going to schedule a full physical with my general dr, I haven’t done that before the C and that was two years ago. I’ve got some minor issues to talk to him about. How are YOU doing??
Iris
The full physical is a good idea.
I’m “doing”. One day at a time, getting old is definitely not for sissies.
Grace & Peace,Iris
http://www.IrisOriginalsRamblings.com
bettyewp
Yeah, I have a short list of weird complaints to talk to the GP about at a physical and I already know what he’ll say. “That doesn’t sound like anything out of the ordinary/our tests are inconclusive/go away.” And I’ll just feel like a whiney baby for expressing concern over things they think are “nothing.” That’s what always happens. How many years do you think I told the GP and the urologist (who I saw frequently cuz of kidney stones) about “bleeding all the time,” and NO ONE EVER QUESTIONED IT. And guess what? It was uterine cancer. NOT NOTHING. I am not a big fan of doctors.
Marceline S Miller
Hooray for good oncology appt!! THE most important thing! Be as kind to yourself as you would be to any of us, please! Like all the others, I’m still reading no matter how often you post!
I like the shirt/sweater combo. It would never occur to me that I could mix stripes like that! That’s why I need people like you! lol
bettyewp
This was just the bloodwork, I go back next week for a CT scan but I’m sure everything’s fine.
But that’s a good way to say that, “Be as kind to yourself as you would be to any of us, please!” I will try to take your advice, thank you.
jodie filogomo
I see nothing wrong with photos on the patio. Really, if you hadn’t told us, we wouldn’t have known. It looks like your in the woods (which you are) and it’s fabulous.
But I can totally relate to this. We are going on so many trips this year, and I keep thinking I should just take time off when we go. Yet I obsess and think I need to have posts going even when I’m gone. EEEEKKK. Why do we do this to ourselves. It’s crazy!!
Relax, take some time to get settled. And I’ll try to do the same (cross my fingers)
XOXO
Jodie
http://www.jtouchofstyle.com
bettyewp
*I* get bored seeing photos at the same place all the time, I don’t want to do that to y’all.
Yeah, when I’m anywhere different, whether near or far, I just ITCH to shoot in the new surroundings. It doesn’t usually seem to work out, but…
Debbie from Illinois
Bettye, we’ll be here…..waiting patiently. 😇 Take care of yourself. I don’t always leave a comment but I always read your posts. Hugs! 🤗
P.S. Love the stripes and Miss Janey too.
bettyewp
Thanks, Debbie 🙂 I’ve had a little time off for myself this week and am feeling ready to get back on track. Sometimes you just need that little bit of time.
Thanks for sticking around!
Samantha Blair
I’m wearing a striped shirt today too Bettye!
We’re style sisters :o)
I hear you when it comes to putting pressure on yourself… I used to do the same and then felt BAD for (inevitably) failing.
Your photos look great … as do your stripes!
XXX
bettyewp
OOh! I feel honored to be a style sister with you, Samantha!