Week in Review: Week 258
MONDAY
We had all the snow today. It was glorious.
Sadly, Snow Days are a thing of the past, as everyone is now equipped to work from home. I guess now the only Snow Days will be power outages. Power Outage Day. Doesn’t have quite the same poetic ring to it.
TUESDAY
Snow through the night turned today into another work from home day. I guess Work From Home is the next best thing to Snow Day. Mmm…maybe Sick Day is better.
Yep. I’m that weirdo that kinda likes being sick cuz I get to stay in bed as long as needed without the “I really should be_____” guilt. I’m SICK. I can’t be expected to work/blog/edit photos/wash the dishes/answer the phone. It’s an Automatic Free Pass to almost everything.
I won’t lie. I was disappointed that I didn’t get more Free Passes during Cancer Year. I mean, seriously, if you can get Free Passes THEN, when can you??
WEDNESDAY
If Fashion Schlub disappears, this is where I am. Big Hit Entertainment is recruiting new stylists for their company. Big Hit is the entertainment company that manages BTS. Those men need some properly fitting clothes 🙂
CAN YOU IMAGINE?!? I’m screaming inside.
THURSDAY
Well. That was a day. My alarm didn’t go off so I was running very late…then I couldn’t budge my car from its icy spot in the driveway. I had to call an Uber. And pay $44 to go to work. And couldn’t escape the humans at lunchtime cuz no car + snow covering outdoor walking spots. When I finally got home I didn’t get past the living room. Didn’t want computer or phone or snack…but there was some sun so I was able to lie (lay?) on the sofa and read and disconnect from all of it.
FRIDAY
Thought of the day: Procrastination is not about being lazy. Well, sometimes it is, but…for me, it’s often rooted in anxiety. Anxiety about taking the next step. If I do the thing and it’s wrong, what will happen? It will surely be embarrassing or worse, therefore, I will just not do the thing. Even though NOT doing the thing will probably lead to the same result.
I have a work project right now that I am just absolutely STUCK ON. Feet in cement, can’t move forward. Because I can already imagine what the outcome will be when I finish. So I don’t finish.
Stupid, but…that’s why procrastination is not generally a prized behavior.
And that was my day.
SATURDAY
Oh, stayed up til 4:30am watching the last 97 episodes (gross exaggeration for dramatic effect) of a series. Woke up at 7:30am like whoa, really? surely I can lay back down for 5 minutes….woke up again at 12:30pm. Alrighty. Day half shot. Market, deli, lunch, worked on blog posts…and now it’s 8pm and I’m headed to the sofa to start a new series. That was my day.
Living the dream.
SUNDAY
Stupor Bowl Sunday.
Not my favorite day. Don’t recall if I’ve ever shared this story here before. About why Super Bowl is not my jam.
Super Bowl Sunday 1982. I was 21. I went to visit my father in the hospital in the late afternoon. He’d just had a hip replacement a day or two before. His second, as the first had been such a success. We chatted a bit. Conversation between my father and I always a little awkward. He shared he was not feeling that well, that he’d called for his doctor and had gotten no response. But you know, he said, Super Bowl Sunday. Yeah. Super Bowl Sunday.
He was half-watching the pre-game-show, whatever that thing is…and was distracted from our conversation, so I didn’t stay long. “I guess you want to watch your show, I’ll go.”
And I left.
And he died later that night from a blood clot to his lung.
Super Bowl Sunday, no doctor around. Super Bowl Sunday, father distracted. Super Bowl Sunday, I didn’t stay for a longer visit.
Super Bowl Sunday.
joan
I read the article about the BTS stylists. One of the guy’s suits is laughably too big, but that must be some sort of ironic style, no? I mean no one could put someone in a suit that ill-fitting unless it was intentional. But the one with white shoes that are 3 sizes too big just looks silly. If you get that stylist gig, we give you our blessings to leave us.
bettyewp
re Jin’s oversized suit: I don’t know. I mean, the cover of Time magazine? I think you’d want to be un-ironic. And knowing them (ha ha ha yes, i hear myself), they would have taken that opportunity/recognition seriously.
But the shoes! And I’ve seen that several times. I’m frankly always surprised at the shoes they wear for dancing. I mean, they just look like regular shoes. Those men are ATHLETES up there on the stage! They need better shoes! Ha, gimme that gig!
Thanks for your blessing, Joan 🙂
jodie filogomo
I have that same kind of guilt when my dad was fighting pancreatic cancer. (and if you know pancreatic cancer…there is no success rate). I didn’t go with my ex to help with a home project and my dad asked where I was. Not that I didn’t ever see him or spend time with my dad, but just that fact I didn’t go that time and he asked for me, sits heavy on my heart.
I think we all have those things in our psyche. Which is one reason why I go down and puzzle with the neighbor when she texts because she may not be here long.
XOOX
Jodie
http://www.jtouchofstyle.com
bettyewp
I’m sorry 🙁 These guilts can really weigh heavily on us.
But they’re also a reminder that we never know when life will end (or as I like to say, “I might die today”), so…try to live each day in a way you won’t regret in the future.
xoxo
Rhonda
Snow days are a good excuse to give ourselves permission to just kick back and relax…enjoy….chill…without feeling like we should be doing SOMETHING! I’m trying to move past the guilt of just taking it easy, and I find that each year that passes, I have less energy to DO SOMETHING! ( I’m 63 and feeling it some days!) So, I do what needs to be done (minimally if I can get away with it 😂) and try to do what pleases me more often….cuz each year goes by faster and faster! Guilt may once again creep in, once COVID has eased up, but it’s a good excuse now, for me to NOT do something….yeah, I could get used to be a hermit for awhile….
My sympathies to you on your dad’s passing. It’s hard enough, but when it happens to coincide with an ordinarily happy day, it really rocks your world and puts a sad, somber note on that occasion forevermore. I lost my dad 14 years ago, on New Year’s Day. It’s not a day I celebrate so much, anymore.❤️
bettyewp
Ohh…a New Year’s day loss is REALLY hard. I’m so sorry 🙁
I can certainly empathize with having less energy to DO THINGS as I get older. But I’m sort of at odds with myself with that – as my body has less energy, my BRAIN/HEART are going a mile a minute, making plans and to-do lists and setting goals and…phew. USUALLY the body wins out, ha ha, but as long as my brain/heart don’t give up altogether, I guess that’s good. Like I’m still alive (mental reference to Monty Python’s “but I’m not dead yet!” scene), you know?
Marian
I’m sorry you lost your father at such a young age and that you’ve carried guilt in addition to sadness all these years. While one cannot live a life without some regrets, you are wise to carry his memory with the inspiration to live every moment to its fullest. Perhaps that has influenced your becoming a photographer and blogger. You are savoring and capturing and sharing so many moments and emotions.
You nailed it on procrastination. What you said is one of the things often taught at time management classes. Procrastination is either fear or ignorance (not knowing how to do the task). Once you acknowledge that, you can often ask for help. The other time management tip is Kiss the Frog. Tackle the worst thing weighing you down early in the day when you have peak energy.
bettyewp
My father was an avid hobby photographer…a fact I never paid that much attention to when I was younger, except for the delight at our annual slideshows on the living room wall. And while I always HAD a camera (a little Kodak Instamatic that I LOVED and used for years) I never considered myself a photographer. I was just the one who always took the pictures. It wasn’t til much later when I was really “into” photography, that the realization that we had this common hit me…even though I didn’t know it while he was still alive. That would have been a nice shared interest. Oh well.
Ha ha Kiss the Frog. I try that sometimes…but sometimes even having fresh morning energy can’t spur me into action 🙂
Ashley
It’s totally understandable how you feel about Super Bowl Sunday- that’s a hard loss that is obviously going to make a mark.
I totally agree on procrastination- it’s definitely sometimes about anxiety and not laziness. I do this, too!
Hoping you have a better week this week!
-Ashley
Le Stylo Rouge
bettyewp
LAST WEEK BEFORE VACATION! How can that not be better?!?
Iris
Love your snow pictures. It’s sad that you have sad memories – but I can definitely relate – maybe we all can. Mine’s related to Thanksgiving. Anyway, love your snow pictures.
Grace & Peace, Iris
http://www.IrisOriginalsRamblings.com