This is Not a Blog Post

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It’s just me telling you sorry, no real blog post this Thursday. I let myself get behind (shocker) on travel prep and now I’m out of time and my flight is crackadawn Saturday and I have a work thing Friday night SO…I did not make time to do pictures and now I don’t have a real blog post for you.

But, I did want to talk about something a little bit. About blogging.

In the past few days, I’ve read such disheartening posts from two bloggers I’m really a fan of – one is a fashion blogger and the other…uhm, a horse blogger? Riding? Not sure what the term is, and anyway, to be clear, I follow her on Instagram not a blog, but that’s just fiddly details. It’s the same thing. They’re sharing on social media. With us. Sometimes it’s just how-to and what to do and look at this horse/dress/jump/haircut, etc. Sometimes they share of themselves. And that is the part that draws me in, that makes me feel like I know them, like I am friends with them. And I’ve spoken about that before.

But now…PEOPLE HAVE HURT MY FRIENDS. Yes, my “I Have Never Met Them In Real Life and Probably Never Will” social media friends, but still. Just like in the “real world,” there are icky people. People who go out of their way to be, at the very least, annoying…and sometimes downright mean, or worse, destructive. On social this may consist of snide comments…people can take words out of context (we know how easy that is to do, say, in a text, without seeing facial expression or hearing tone of voice) and get angry about  something and really run with it to an extreme. Bloggers are sometimes harassed by commenters, reputations can be trashed, etc. Things can get really ugly and hurtful. And then bloggers (aka PEOPLE) want to stop. To stop posting, stop sharing. Stop being our friends. The one young woman this has been happening to is so upset by it all, she’s pulling out of social media. A) She does a service to other riders and horse trainers when she shares her lovely gentle methods and now no one will be learning from her. B) It appears that she makes some degree of income from her Instagram posts and she will lose that, and we all know how life-changing a loss of income can be. She’s really shaken and upset by things people have been saying. She’s a young person and it’s such a shame that she’s having this negative experience when she’s just sharing good things. The other woman is older (not OLD, but an adult). And she’s not leaving social or blogging but…it’s just very upsetting to have people throw mud at you when you’re just trying to share…nice things!!! Ugh. I feel for both of them.  And for all the many people who have experienced things like this.

I feel fortunate that so far I’ve not had any really unpleasant experiences with my blog. I don’t know if it’s just cuz I’m still a “blog baby,” ha ha, or WordPress is really doing its job in keeping spammy comments out of sight. I hope I never do have to deal with these small ugly people…but I know it sort of goes with the territory as your numbers of followers/readers get higher.

And the flip-side of that is how grateful and appreciative  I am of the truly lovely people I have following my blog and commenting. I thank each of you for being kind and patient and understanding and complimentary and all the wonderful things that you are and say.

So, that’s all I have for you today. The next time you’ll hear from me I’ll be in…………

Didn’t think I was gonna spoil the surprise when I was this close, did you??

My Week in Review: Weeks 40-43

Ooh, I’ve been remiss! In my defense: Holiday and Sick. So I’m doing a big Week(s) in Review catch-up here and can then proceed as usual starting next week. Do you guys even *like* Week in Review? I’m coming up on Fashion Schlub’s 1 Year Anniversary and am thinking about switching some things up. I feel like I get more new people liking and commenting on the WiR posts, which I guess is good? I don’t know? I’m just stumbling my way along in Blog-Land. Thoughts?

Gosh, THIS seems forever ago! I’m actually just taking the tree *down* this weekend. Sadface.

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Janey was helping not helping decorate the tree. Funny little crooked-faced cat.

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Janey loves sitting with me at the computer. And the sofa. And bed. And the toilet. You get the picture.

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I’ve been trying to eat more fruit. My reward for eating an orange is a vegan gingerbread cupcake from Batata Cafe in Northport.

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I love old building advertising. I loved painted signs, I think they’re so much more charming than big plastic or polyvinyl (or whatever those canopy type things you see everywhere now) signs.

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Meh. I so loved the other book of hers I read, Secrets of a Charmed Life…I was disappointed by this one.

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The last day of work before vacation is lovely. We’re all so productive and get just tons of work done.

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I drank a toast to the start of vacation. Alright. I drank a *couple* toasts.

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Exmas Eve with my baby.

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Christmas Day. We exchanged gifts at my apartment then went to dinner at our favorite Chinese restaurant and drove around looking at Christmas lights. It was a nice low-key day. I like a low-key holiday.

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My boy.

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We drank a toast to the holiday. Alright. We drank *several* toasts to the holiday.

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I LOVED The Light Between Oceans by M.L. Stedman. Do recommend.

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Ha ha. Christmas had too many toasts and threw up in their front yard.

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I spread my friendship wings (ha ha, someone dear to me used that phrase once when I was making a new friend and it has just always stayed in my heart and head) and made a new friend when we photographed one another for our respective blogs – Marcy of Fearlessly Just Me. You can see some photographs I did of her here.

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That day we shot was cold and super windy and we were out in it all day and I got SICK. This is what sick looks like.

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I’m trying to tackle some small projects in the apartment this winter. This is one of the cubbies staring me in the face when I sit at the computer and I was tired of it. The top pic is the before, the bottom is after. Ahh. But where did I put those chocolate chips??

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Which brings us to today and it is snowing out so I’m staying in with some work, some projects and some reading. But not enough snacks. Unless I can find those chocolate chips.

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Phew! All caught up! Holidays are over, tree is coming down, now the long cold blah winter begins. Will have to make effort to spice things up! Who’s with me??

My Favorite Bloggers

Just one letter away from Vloggers, but…

Plus Size

  • Fat Girl Flow – Yup, Carissa is also a favorite blogger. She’s a favorite everything. Body positivity, yup. Fashion hauls, yup. Shopping recommendations, AMEN.
  • This is Ashley Rose – Ashley Rose is LOVELY. She has a classic casual style that is so appealing.
  • Plus Size Princess – Yes, she was also on my favorite vloggers list. She’s. That. Good.
  • Suits, Heels & Curves – She’s adorable and showcases a lot of work-type outfits.
  • Curves, Curls, & Coffee – A relatively new blog, she is UH-DORABLE. Reading her posts about her life and boyfriend and acting, etc, just makes me smile. You like to smile? Check out her blog.

Straight Size

  • Fashion Fairy Dust – I can’t even. The layering QUEEN. She has the most amazing PIECES. She takes incredible SELFIES. She tells wonderful STORIES. I want to live next door to her and be her best FRIEND.
  • Fake Fabulous – She’s no fake. She’s just fabulous. She can put together an outfit like nobody’s business.

Style/BeautyLifestyle/Family

  • The Small Things Blog – hair tips, makeup recommendations, adorable family.
  • Bleubird – THE most adorable family. Like EVER. I have followed this gal, James (could you die? even her name is adorable), for like 10 years since her days as a vintage clothing seller on ebay. At the same time I was. She was one of the sellers I looked up to and tried to emulate. But Just Couldn’t Quite Do It. sadface. Anyway, I feel like I’ve watched the evolution of her family, ups and downs, growth, changes, moves, new businesses, etc. She just has that way, that everything she does is lovely.

Good Writing

  • Hearts Everywhere – this is a new favorite, I just enjoy reading her views and her writing style. Give her a go.

Photography

  • Shutterbean – she really falls into the Photography/Lifestyle category, but it’s really her photography that made me fall in love with her blog, so I’m keeping her here. My favorite feature is “My Everyday Life,” her week in a series of photographs. Her week in a series of photographs is always so much lovelier than MY week in a series of photographs. I’m a little jelly.

I know there’s more but I’m growing weary. I do hope that if there are any blogs here you’ve never looked at, that you give them a try. I didn’t even GO to the decorating blogs. Seriously. I have work tomorrow.