We All Make Mistakes

Right??

As cheap careful as I am, sometimes I end up making purchases I regret.  I try not to make impulse purchases and I try to stick to my lists of things I truly need in my wardrobe. But…I’m human (sigh) and sometimes I get it wrong. But hopefully I can take some lessons away from my mistakes…and maybe they can help you, too.

So, this blouse I really loved when I first bought it. But when I finally tried wearing it, it just wasn’t good. I tried it on over all my pants and it’s just too short. My “low” belly shows, my rounded thighs show…and while I’m not ashamed of them, it just looks nicer when something skims over them hiding them from view.

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Melrose & Market floral shirt, size 3x

The Lesson: Don’t get so caught up in a color or print or style that you overlook fit.

This next top was an in-person impulse item. The colors and print grabbed me. I liked the bell sleeves. And it was very inexpensive (like $11.99 at Rainbow Shops). So I didn’t pay enough attention to the too-revealing neckline. It’s too much cleavage for work…and the whole top is too frou-frou for going out with friends. So I’ve worn it One Time since I bought it last fall.

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Floral top, no longer available. Comparable here in plus size and here in straight size.

The Lesson: Similar to #1, don’t get so caught up on color and print and price that you buy something you really have no place to wear.

I apologize for my wacky white balance here – the middle picture is actually the correct color. I just did the latest Photoshop update and there was a new color option and “vivid color” looked really nice when viewed in Photoshop, but is way too yellow anywhere else.

Here I bought a dress that’s really the same dress as one I already one. I’ve had the light blue Tencel “nightgown” Old Navy dress (far right) for two years and still love it. Last year I bought the Style & Co light blue Tencel dress when I rented it from Gwynnie Bee and I really liked it. But really, they’re the same dress. Light blue, sleeveless, lightweight Tencel dresses. They’re interchangeable. But because I really like the Old Navy dress better, when I feel like wearing a lightweight light blue dress, I always reach for the Old Navy dress. So the Style & Co dress is really underutilized and I’m not getting my money’s worth out of it. Not that it was a lot, I think it was marked down to $15 but that’s not the point. I don’t like having unnecessary clothes hanging in my closet.

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Dresses no longer available. Similar styles here in plus size and here in straight size.

The Lesson: Don’t keep buying the same thing over and over.

This one is not a purchase, it just arrived in today’s mail from Gwynnie Bee. It’s too small, but besides that, it really is not a good style for me. It’s too much. Of everything. I’m already a lot just on my own. To add multiple colors and patterns and crinkle fabric and bell sleeves and lacey ties…it’s too much. It’s cute on other people, but it just feels like too much for me.

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Vintage America Blues top, size 3x. Comparable here in plus size and here in straight size.

The Lesson: Remember what works well on your body and don’t buy everything you “like.” You can like things without having to own them. Buy things you feel good in. There’s a difference.

So, I’ll continue to try to be mindful when purchasing. Hope my mistakes can help you make less of your own!

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Influencer is Not a Bad Word!

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So, last week, one of my co-workers (I’ll call her C) said to me how much she was enjoying my blog and that it had influenced her to pay more attention to looking good and dressing in more than just casual jeans all the time. I was really moved by this – like wow, I’m really an “influencer,” in the best sense of the word! Not to make the moment about me (ha ha, though that is my special gift!) but it really made me feel good.

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C said she was travelling to visit family out of state and bought some new clothes – dresses – to wear on her trip. Her sister complimented her on how nice she looked and said she should dress that way more often, which I’m sure made C feel really good. And it made me feel good to know she felt good! It was a big warm fuzzy circle of looking good and feeling good!

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And that’s a huge part of why I do this – and I’m sure many other bloggers as well. It’s my way of saying you can make a big impact with how you look and feel (yes, you!) with really not a lot of effort. You just have to Do It!

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I spent many years thinking…I’m too fat, I’m too old, I don’t have any sense of style, boo hoo hoo. But finally I just decided to do it anyway. To make the effort to dress better anyway. Even If I was fat and old and bleh. And you know what? I feel so much better now. I look better. I’m still fat and old, ha ha. But…it’s better. And if *I* can do it, anyone can.

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And onto today’s outfit. Sorry to be back in the white jeans again (!) two outfit posts in a row but I got this adorable top from Gwynnie Bee and while it would also look nice over black or blue jeans (or even the green jeans on my list!), I thought it would look best over the white jeans.

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I do love this top from Loft Plus. Loft’s new plus size line really has a lot of nice items. I haven’t quite worked out the fit yet on some things. I’ve regained weight in my stomach since last year when I lost some, so a lot of things are being snugger around my belly. I do want to make a plan about that before long. Just so I can find clothes to fit!

Anyway, this top is a very nice lightweight rayon fabric, in a businessy blue and white oxford-like stripe…but then with some feminine embroidery on the chest and amazing bell sleeves. And – do you have any idea how much I love a tab/band collar?? A LOT. I love them a LOT.

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It was just a little cool and windy this day (and the next day – 82 degrees!) so the green Tencel jacket came back out. But it was so nice to finally be able to wear something that felt springy…and not be freezing!!! 

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And…just to make my photographer Who Shall Remain Nameless happy…I will share a photo she took using her own creative director skills….

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Thanks for shooting, PWSRN! You did a great job!

What I’m Wearing

  • Loft Mosaic Striped Bell Sleeve Blouse, size 26. In plus size here, and in regular and petite sizes here.
  • Picket Fence White Gloria Vanderbilt Amanda tapered jeans, size 22W Short. Plus size here.
  • Green Tencel jacket from Ava&Viv/Target, size 3x, no longer available. Similar plus size here and straight size here and here.
  • New Balance Fresh Foam Arishi Lightweight Running Shoe in light grey here

I’m linking up today with:

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Month in Review: April

Wow, I feel like April really flew by! We started the month still in snow and we’re finishing it up with a sunshiny day in the 60s. As this was a very work-busy week for me I don’t have much to share in Week in Review, so I’m going to do Month in Review again like last month and will resume WiR next week, when hopefully I will have something a little more interesting to share!

First I will say THANK YOU to all you lovely people who have been reading and following and commenting on my little blog…thanks to y’all, April was my most viewed month to-date, beating out the previous winner, August 2017, when my head-shaving post (see it here) was so widely shared and viewed. I’ve made such nice connections and friends…and have met some kindred spirits with interests beyond fashion. For someone like me who is naturally pretty introverted and what I call “a bad meeter,” it’s been such a nice way to connect with people without all the usual “in person” social anxieties. But that’s a story for another day (okay, Julia??).

All that said, my most viewed post in April was All Dressed Up & Yadda Yadda Yadda where I wore a colorful dress and sparkly cardigan…for no special reason. Sometimes you just gotta, you know??

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My personal favorite outfit in April was this colorful Russian doll looking peasant top over white jeans…maybe because it felt spring…and the temperatures finally felt the same! How sick is everyone getting of talking and hearing about The Winter That Would Not End?!?

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Favorite Blogger Looks

My top three favorite blogger looks in April were:

Jenna Marie of Sincerely Jenna Marie has the casual-yet-modern look nailed with a basic white tee, faded blue denim and comfy sandals…but it’s the extra touch of the scarf tied on the bag that elevates this to me.

How cozy does Cheryl of Cheryl Shops look in this pretty pretty pink duster-length cardigan?? I love a basic white jeans + tee + cardigan look and this one is just dreamy. Not to mention that round straw tote!

(The last one did not respond in time to my email asking permission to share her photo here so I’m just including the link to the outfit and I hope you’ll go look!)

And the outlier of the bunch for me, this metallic pleated skirt with gorgeous teal blue sweater on Daniella of LellaVictoria. This look is so extra with all the metallics (those boots tho!) and yet so relaxed at the same time. Like, “Oh, do I look amazing?? I hadn’t noticed!”

Favorite Books

I did not do as much reading in April as I had been – my day job and blog work have been leaving me exhausted by 9pm most nights and if I try to read at that point I fall asleep within minutes. So I only read the one, but it was really really good. I gave it 5 stars on Goodreads and I give Very Few 5-star ratings.

It’s the emotional story of a Jewish family living in Poland during World War II, how they each have different experiences over the span of a decade. I don’t want to tell the ending, but it was a very moving, well-told story that I highly recommend – based on the experiences of the author’s own family.

We Were the Lucky Ones

Hopefully I will have more time for reading in May!

Favorite Movies

I *did* make time to go to a couple movies in April. I am subscribed to MoviePass, an app where for a sum below the price of going to ONE movie, you can go to a different movie EVERY DAY (this is not a sponsored post, I just really like the app). My favorite was “Outside In” with Edie Falco and Jay DuPlass. It was a quiet story about nice people – as a young adult he had taken the rap for a shooting and spent 20 years in prison. One of his high school teachers maintained a correspondence with him all that time and really advocated for his early parole. Once released his new life is difficult and their friendship is challenged. And that’s all I’ll say. But it’s well-acted, nice story. (click image for trailer)

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Favorite Products

A favorite product I bought this month, and this is a little embarrassing (!), but I can get stinky feet (probably cuz I don’t wear socks. i hate socks.) and I’ve tried all kinds of sprays and powders over the years and nothing has ever done a really great, long-lasting job, BUT…after reading a ton of reviews on the internet, I finally invested a whopping $12.95 on a shoe deodorizer/foot odor eliminator from Amazon. I spray it in my sneakers 1-2 times a week and it has greatly improved the situation. If I really stick my nose into the shoe, I can still slightly smell the foot odor…but the scent of the spray really masks the foot smell from a reasonable distance away (most people would not be sticking their noses into your shoes). And then the whole apartment has this nice lemon verbena/mint/eucalyptus scent that is both refreshing and energizing. Oh, I also sprayed it on my car seats when Caleb had a bit of a messy accident back there (don’t judge, he’s an old man) and the poop smell was gone the next day!

Lumi Outdoors Extra Strength Odor Eliminator

Monthly Mash-Up

I’ve been enjoying an app called 1 Second Every Day where you post a picture or video to it daily (or catch up whenever you want, it doesn’t judge) and at the end of the month (or week or year or whatever time frame you select) it “mashes” them together as one-second clips that are savable and sharable. I’ve been posting them on Instagram but they fit into the Month in Review theme here, so…

And that is all there is for April! Week in Review will be back next Monday….

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Springtime Plus Size Try-on Haul

So, spring shopping has begun. Well, spring trying-on and buying-and-returning has begun. I only need (want) a couple new clothing items to round out my warm weather wardrobe:

  • cropped/ankle length white jeans
  • a couple pairs of colored pants that aren’t jeans
  • some tops that are a little nicer than just tee shirts – like button downs and tunics
  • 1-2 lightweight knit sweaters
  • a dress. I don’t NEED another summer dress but I saw this dress in the Ellos catalog and I can’t get it out of my head. I need to at least try it on.

Boy, when I make it into a list it seems like more than I was thinking. But in reality I know I’ll never find all these things to fit, so…the list will narrow as I go along.

Last weekend I stopped into my local Avenue store and tried on a few things. I was pretty firm with my black and white palette. I feel like I start out every season with black and white, then just add in a few colors later on.

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These were supposed to be ankle length but I’m short and my legs are short, so. And the cuff wasn’t sewn-in or anything so it was just going to come right down and then the pants are too long. I’ve tried cuffing jeans and I’m just not good at that sort of thing. They’re crooked, they don’t stay up, etc. I need the manufacturer to do it for me and put in a couple nice stitches!

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Avenue White Washed Rolled Ankle Jean size 22

Since the ankle length was too long, I tried on the capris thinking they might just go to my ankle. But they’re just weird. They’re not as neat as a true skinny jean would be but they’re too tight for a straight leg…and the bottom had like a kick flare. Which is not flattering on my short thick legs.

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Avenue Washed Capri Jean in White size 22

So I went up a size and it was no better.

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Avenue Washed Capri Jean in White size 24

I tried a pair of wide-leg pants in a black and white geometric…but my legs are so thick that “wide leg” fits me like a tapered cut! If the waist wasn’t pulled up all the way to my bra I might have bought them!

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Avenue Dot Relaxed Pull-on Pant size 22

Then, always the search for white tee/tank/tunic SOMETHING WHITE. Sigh. This should not be so hard.

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Avenue Reversible Tank size 22/24

And, just because it was white and on sale…I tried this ruffly blouse on. It wasn’t bad but I don’t really have a need for that, so…back it went. Back it all went.

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Avenue Choker Cascading Ruffle Neck Blouse size 22/24

I’d been excited to try a couple things from Loft’s new plus size collection. The items were nice but the fit was just a little off. I will definitely try something else from there because I really like the styles and when they go on sale the prices are not unreasonable.

Loft Items:

Not much luck on this first go-round!

What do you have on your spring wish list??

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The Best Laid Plans….

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…ha ha, I feel like I’ve written at least 3 posts with this title! I could also call it “The Joke’s On Me: What Happens When You Thought You Bought One Thing, But You Really Bought the Other Thing.”

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So, I was going to call this post “Springifying a Winter Dress.” Some time ago, even before the California trip, I went shopping for a springy scarf to take this wintery dress from drab to fab. I had a really lovely scarf in my cart…pale pinks and buttery yellows and robin’s egg blue…and just enough grey and black to tie in the grey dress and black cardigan (that I was going to style for this post). But at some point I picked up this other scarf and apparently bought IT and not the original one. I brought it home, never took it out of the bag, didn’t want to wear it til after I’d photographed it for the blog cuz, well, I’m a spiller. Sad but true. So imagine my surprise when this weekend I finally pulled it out of the blog to do the pictures…and it was not the lovely pastel scarf I’d thought I bought…but this neutral-toned one with…CACTI on it. No bluebirds of happiness, no pink blossoms. Cacti. I mean, it’s a very nice scarf. It feels delicious. It works very nicely with this other outfit. But nothing is being springified here today, folks.

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Sigh. I’ll have to springify another time.

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But this outfit can speak to Third Pieces and especially the value of pulling at least one printed item into the mix.

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The grey dress and taupe cardigan are fine together. But the pair on their own is a little bland. Add a third piece, a printed third piece, and now you’ve got yourself some interest. I like to tie in the two colors already present in the outfit and introduce one or two more – in this case, sort of an apricotty gold and few touches of a grey blue. These colors that aren’t already present in the base outfit bring in a little more interest, and the scarf (or sweater or bag or whatever) designer has already done the work for you of knowing what colors will work well together. Now you can play off that in other outfits. You know the scarf will also work with grey blue and that soft gold color so you can create other outfits using those colors.

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PS: Big earrings are fun when you have super short hair.

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Speaking of super short hair, it’s growing in like crazy! But it’s at a weird sort of “non-style” length, and I feel like you can get away with that less easily than you can with long hair. So I think I’m going to get it shaped a bit this week…probably take the sides and back down a bit while continuing to let the top and front grow. I really miss bangs. I also need to figure out what products to use for this new hair. AND….what do I do about my definitely brown eyebrows?? They’re very pale but they’re definitely a different tone than my hair. So…what to do?? I’m in uncharted territory.

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What I Wore:

  • Grey dress: Old Navy, old, similar here or here
  • Taupe cardigan, old, similar here or here
  • Silk scarf, similar here or here

Today I’m linking up with Catherine at http://www.notdressedaslamb.com for her #IWillWearWhatILike link-up party! Check out the other bloggers who link up there and  find some inspo or make a new friend!

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Styling Four Plus Size Looks from One Blazer!

I have been dying to add a longline blazer to my wardrobe since I started following Lizzie Hadfield of Shot from the Street a couple years ago…and now I also drool over the outfits of Emma Hill for the same reason. They’ve both got this super cool, minimal, slightly-masculine-tailoring-but-in-a-very-chic-way thing down. They make it look effortless. Us mere mortals have to work at it a bit more…and on a round plus size body, that lean minimal look never looks quite right. But I just keep plugging away and one of these days I’ll get it! In the meantime I’m coming up with some outfits I’m pretty happy with – and this Karen Kane soft structure blazer has starred in several of them.

First I created an office look, with a black and white polka dot blouse and black cropped trousers with black loafers. I don’t know what was up with my face!

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Blouse: Who What Wear from Target, old / Trousers: Old Navy Harper trousers

Adding the Third Piece of the blazer pulled the outfit together and made it more office appropriate. And, yay, face back to normal!

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The second look is very casual, maybe weekending with the girls or running errands.

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Top: Rainbow Shops/Jeans: Charlotte Russe/Trainers: Adidas

Take it up a notch with blazer and scarf!

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The third look is a little more artsy, starting with a solid black base layer…(ooh, there’s That Face again!).

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Tunic: Joan Vass Plus/Black Denim: Charlotte Russe/Booties: Avenue (old)/Turquoise Necklace: Vintage

Dress it up a bit with the blazer over top!

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And lastly, another very casual look, but this time in pastels and white (GASP! WHITE JEANS IN FEBRUARY?!? WHAT IS SHE THINKING?? I’m thinking I can wear white denim whenever the heck I want).

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Pink Top: Old Navy / White Denim: Gloria Vanderbilt Amanda plus size / Trainers: Adidas

And a blazer makes it a little less casual and a little more polished…even though it’s still basically an outfit with jeans and trainers!

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Do you have one piece that can complete many different outfits?

There’s a little video if you want to see all the outfits in action (and hear me blather on about one thing or another). If you watch and like the video I’d really appreciate if you’d give it a thumbs up on YouTube.

I’m linking up today with Emma at Style Splash and her Style With a Smile Link-up! Make sure you check out her blog and the other lovelies linking up there this week! I’ve made many new bloggy friends through link-ups…you might, too!

Week in Review: Week 105

All the feels from my glorious trip to California are being buried underneath time, mundane tasks and the ugliness of Long Island in February. Life goes on and we have to live the one we’re in. I’ve been a little reclusive so there aren’t a lot of pictures but sometimes that’s what I have to do to get through.

It’s staying light a little longer and we had some mild days this week so Caleb and I did some short walks and saw some sunsets.

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More bald eagles are returning to Long Island every year and now there are two nesting in the town next to me. I went with some friends to try and photograph them (from a distance) and the best shot I got was of goose butts.

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And a serene view in the other direction.

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One quick flashback to California. Katie and my great-niece Annabelle playing on Venice Beach. The real Golden Girls.

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My sister and brother-in-law. She’s having a tough time right now. Hopefully it will be behind her soon.

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Staying true to my “pamper myself” resolution, I finally used a groupon for a mani-pedi I bought over a year ago (ha ha). And I almost wish I hadn’t. I’d had such a good experience in CA with my niece, that this paled in comparison.

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Plus, this happened 😦  Had to redo myself the next day and I’m just not that good at doing nails.

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I’m trying to keep something blooming in the apartment at all times…

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Saturday’s outfit of the day. I’m really loving my white jeans. For the summer I want a cropped pair, but these are fine for winter, though I would like a pair of light grey sneakers to wear with them vs. these black ones – it’s such a harsh contrast. And white sneakers with the white jeans looked too nursey.

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I’ve lived in NY for 49 years and until today, had never been to the Metropolitan Museum of Art! Shocking! Today we saw the William Eggleston Los Alamos exhibit  I really like the photography of the 60s and 70s in the early days of color photography and I just like the landscape of that era – the cars, clothing, storefronts, etc…so I really enjoyed this exhibit.

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We also saw and enjoyed the David Hockney exhibit. I’d only been familiar with his swimming pool paintings, but there were a lot of other things there today. It’s good to see things you’re unfamiliar with and to see an artist’s progression of work.

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This one reminds me of the days I come home from work and just lay on my bed, not napping or reading…just laying there awake.

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And of course walking from place to place in the museum you see other things that catch your interest…

An impressionist painting that just looked so appealing. I don’t know why there are so many butts in this post! It was not intentional. This just looked like a nice time, splashing about in the water.

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This cool black and white graphic wall was a great backdrop for photos.

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This pearl lily-of-the-valley arrangement reminded me of my mother. She always had little porcelain and jade flower arrangements in the living room. Of course, hers came from the cheap asian import shop and this one was worth a gajillion dollars.

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I love this verdigris bow window we saw walking back to the car.

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And this wildcat print dress in a shop window.

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And now it’s Sunday night. I just had a big salad for dinner and think I’ll lay down and read for a bit before calling it a night. Tomorrow is back to work for a full 5-day week. Why is that a thing?? I have a nothing in particular to look forward to right now, besides the weekends. The next work vacation isn’t for 5 weeks and I’m only taking a few days off. So I need to come up with something else. Does anyone else do that? Live from one “thing to look forward to to another” rather than just living for the moment?

Happy Valentines/Anniversary to Me!

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So, not only is today Valentine’s Day, it’s also Fashion Schlub’s two year anniversary! Though it still feels pretty new to me as the first nine months of last year were pretty much a loss with all that cancer nonsense. Thank goodness THAT is behind me!!!

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I really enjoy doing the blog. I get frustrated when I can’t make it be exactly the way I want it, when the pictures are not the quality I envision, etc. But as much as I enjoy doing it, there will be a time soon when I want to start monetizing it. I know followers can be divided on how they feel about bloggers making money from their blogs, and I that’s why I wanted to talk to you about this now.

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I would never endorse or recommend anything I would not use myself or do not like. I have had brands approach me in the past year, but none of them were for products that I thought made sense for my readers. There was a company selling like really over-the-top,  Southern-belle-esque prom-type dresses. And while the contact person thought their company and I were A Great Fit…uhm…huh?? There was a shoe company with really stylized shoes – very high heels, very trendy…and not only would not wear them, I can’t really imagine any of my readers wearing them either. So, pass. There was a fitness leggings company that approached me, and I did like their leggings and would have liked to try them out, but the email came last year while I was in the hospital and I just missed the opportunity.

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The point is, if you see me sharing links to items in a post, you can be assured that I would wear or use that item…I would never recommend something to you just for the money.

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So, yeah. I would love to think that the blog (and offshoot opportunities) will someday make enough money to supplement my retirement income and I won’t have to work forever and forever! Doesn’t that sound lovely??

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And now for something a little more fun – this Valentiney red kimono from Johnny Was via Gwynnie Bee. It’s the perfect Valentine’s red with just a nod towards wine. I wore it to the arboretum a few weeks back over a black base layer of Faded Glory leggings and a Joan Vass tunic – both plus-sized. And my Payless black flats that I Will Never Ever Ever Wear Again because they cripple me in a matter of minutes.

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It was a perfect day in the Camellia House at Planting Fields Arboretum in Oyster Bay, NY. Freezing outside and just the right amount of cool inside the greenhouse. My girlfriend and I did pictures then sat on a bench and just talked and talked. Until we got hungry and then we moved on, ha.

fs valentines 2I’m in California for Valentine’s Day, with my daughter and extended family. It’s good. So good I don’t want to go back home. But I never want to go back back home after spending time in California.

So, Happy Anniversary to Fashion Schlub…Happy Valentine’s Day to all y’all…and xoxo to my friends and family.

Thanks, Mochi, for the beautiful pictures!!!

Fun at Home

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I have an aunt that used to (maybe she still does, but I haven’t seen her in a long time) refer to certain items in her wardrobe as “fun at home” clothes. Things like swishy palazzo pants and lightweight drapey cardigan/kimonos. She sort of had the Eileen Fisher vibe before there was “Eileen Fisher.” When we would go shopping (often at the dearly departed Loehmann’s ) she would pick up things off the rack and hand them to me and I’d be like uh, no, where would I wear THAT? And she would respond, “fun at home!” Ha. Now everytime I see drapey clothes, loose swingy items, I think of my aunt and her Fun at Home clothing credo.

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I always have fun at home. I really am an introvert and need a lot of time to myself and enjoy being alone at home. For a long time I thought there was something wrong with me. But there’s not. I just really enjoy my own company, ha!

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When I was young, my favorite days were when I’d get home from school and my mother’s car was not in the driveway. That meant she was out shopping and I would get the spare key out of the old q-tip box in the garage (remember when the boxes had the slide-out tray like this?) and let myself in…and just REVEL in the solitude. Sigh. Of course, I also loved when I’d walk in the front door when she was home to the smell of homemade chocolate pudding. She made real pudding with corn starch and cocoa and milk…and cooking it all on the stove created an insanely inviting chocolatey aroma…oh.

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Do you enjoy being alone? Or do you prefer company? Isn’t it interesting how we’re all so different…and yet we’re all okay just the way we are?

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And how fun is this kimono? Rich navy blue burn-out velvet floral with crazy crocheted fringe bottom. Can be dressed up or down…on this day I chose “down” over a simple base layer of skinny jeans and a black tunic.

And had a little “fun at home” on my own.

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What I’m Wearing

  • SKIES ARE BLUE Velvet Kimono With Tassel Detail In Navy Print via Gwynnie Bee, 2x
  • Black jersey knit tunic by Joan Vass, size 3x
  • Charlotte Russe Refuge cropped skinny jeans, size 24
  • Adidas Cloudform sneakers

Today I’m linking up with Debbie from Fashion Fairy Dust and her Ageless Style Link-up Party…and also Jess and her Turning Heads Link-up. If you’re not familiar with them be sure to check them out!

 

How to Pack for a Warmer Climate

I’M GOING AWAY! ON VACATION! TO SOMEPLACE WARM!

Not that there’s anything wrong with the cold, but it *will* be nice for one week to be in mild temps so I can do stuff without bundling up or my face hurting. But it can be a BEAR to figure out what to bring to a warmer climate when you live in a cold one. So I made a little video about how I whittled down from Many Items to Fewer, More Practical, Items. It’s practically a little baby capsule wardrobe.

It can be especially challenging when there are multiple people involved and you don’t know what everyone is going to want to do, so you sort of have to prepare for every possible contingency…WITHOUT having your suitcase go over weight (50lbs in this case).

And since I just did a video and no still shots from my wardrobe brainstorming (thinking pretty highly of my methods right about now), I will share a few pics that I never shared from last fall, of a cute’n’cozy sweater from Gwynnie Bee.

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This is *not* something I’ll be packing to go away. It’s by Rachel Roy, who does a really nice plus size line. One of my favorite summer dresses is from her, you can see it here.

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I loved that this cardigan was exactly the same length as the dress below it. It’s like they were made for one another. But it would have been equally cute over blue wash or black denim.

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Look at all the pretty colors that are in it! I’m just wearing a solid black base layer underneath – black dress, black tights, black booties – but the outfit looks very colorful just because of this one item. The beauty of the base layer.

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Ha ha, funny story. For some reason, I don’t remember now why, I took the sweater off part way through shooting, oh I think I wanted some pictures with it just over my shoulders, which looks cool when I see other people do it but when I do it it just looks like I have no arms. But when I put it back on I turned the shawl collar to the inside so it looks like there’s no collar…and I love a nice shawl collar cardigan. I’m such a derp.

Okay, so it wasn’t that funny.

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Look, no collar. D’oh.

And now our time together has come to an end. Almost.  Take a look at the video. Tell me if you think I’m not taking enough stuff. I did just order a pair of white jeans that I hope will fit so they can go with me. I think they’ll “warm weather-ify” all my black and grey tops. Do you find you usually end up with too much on trips…or not enough? Or the right amount but just of the wrong things…???