Week in Review: Week 89

This past week gives a little preview of the cold season to come with fewer outdoor activities. Between some colder temps, a 2-day power outage, and a big work event…I didn’t do much this week.

I finished up last week’s challenge to take a black-and-white photo of my life every day.


Sometimes I think he’s dead. And my heart stops.


I swiped this pic from my niece. It’s my adorable GRAND-niece in her Halloween pj’s. I can’t even.


Trick-or-treater sighting.


The troublesome tree.


Had dinner with friends one night. My food was horrible but Carvel made up for it. Some people have never heard of Cookie Puss. Have you?


Saturday night’s work event.


And now it’s another rainy Sunday, which I’m grateful for as I don’t feel obligated to go out and do anything on a dreary rainy day. And it’s going to get dark extra early this afternoon…and forevermore. Did you remember to set your clocks back??



Playing Dress Up

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The Cat in the Hat with Jen 1 & Jen 2

Clothes are fun in that you can dress up as whatever you want. Want to be the center of attention? Wear something that people can’t miss – bright colors, sequins, extreme lengths, etc. Want to disappear in the crowd? Wear monochromatic, bland tones. Want to command respect? Wear a well-fitted suit. Want to make people laugh? Start an argument? Attract the opposite sex? There are outfits for all those things.

But when your clothing options are limited by size–and that can be either end of the spectrum, large or small (I hear ya, Iris!)–sometimes your clothes can make you feel “not like you.” Mostly I have a way I *want* to look, but the available clothing in my size can keep me from looking that way. This is really the one thing that motivates me to try and slim down a bit. Not for my health, but cuz I want to look the way I want to look! It’s so so frustrating to look online at straight sizeĀ clothing (and I don’t really do that intentionally, but I follow mostly straight size fashion bloggers) and think, I love THIS, I want to look like THAT…THAT THING would be perfect with many things I already own, but when I look in the plus size section, nope. It doesn’t exist. Not even a reasonable facsimile. And I end up with things that are not REALLY what I wanted, or in a size that’s MOSTLY right, but not quite perfect, cuz hey, I have to wear SOMETHING. And so I’m often out in the world feeling not EXACTLY like who I want to portray, who I want to BE.

Maybe some of you straight-sizers feel the same way, but you have 10,487,362 more options than us plus-sizers do and MAN, THAT JUST AIN’T RIGHT.

I may sound like a broken record on this topic, but it is brought to my attention ALMOST EVERY DAY OF MY LIFE when I get dressed. And it’s SO much better than it used to be, really. But we still don’t have anywhere near the options that other sizes do.

Designers, fashion retailers, manufacturers, buyers – LISTEN UP! We want the same options that everyone else has. That is not an unreasonable request. If you make it and sell it, we will buy it. We’re STARVED for it.

I don’t WANT to play dress up. I don’t want to look like a pink-kitten-sweatshirt-wearin- granny…or a lookin-like-i-was-painted-into-this-dress-hoochie-mama. I want to look like ME. And I’m not the only one. So, more options, please!

Okay, that’s all. For Now.

PS – how cute are my darling co-workers as Jen 1 and Jen 2? And they’re not just adorable – they are smart and open-minded and kind. They are the future. And if they are the future?? The world might just be a better place.

New Beginnings

Well, this weekend I moved into the new place! That was H-A-R-D, between not feeling well while packing, having chemo two days before moving, etc. Fortunately I had a lot of support on moving day and we got’er done in record time. Unpacking is another story, but at least everything I own is in one place again. More or less šŸ™‚

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I’ve felt a little disoriented all weekend – sleeping in a new place, not knowing where my things are (I mean, they’re all in boxes, but WHICH boxes?!), feeling more tired than usual. It’s making everything feel a little surreal.

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Everyone keeps asking “aren’t you excited for your new beginning?” And I AM, I just can’t really FEEL it yet, if that makes sense. I have to come out of this disorienting fog and exhaustion first – new beginnings are great, but they’re also hard. Big changes and all that. Change is exciting but exhausting.

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My honorary niece, Gracie The Warrior Princess.

My daughter is coming over shortly with some groceries (and a garbage can!) and to help me get a little unpacked, so I can locate things like underwear and a pot to make soup in. I’ll feel better once I REALLY know where things are, not just “here somewhere.”

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This was the first time I wore this dress – and THAT was an easy “new beginning.” Another loose and easy-fitting dress, which was a blessing at this time. It’s a Style&Co dress via Gwynnie Bee, in a 3x. Lightweight blue Tencel, my favorite dress fabric, with a subtle white bandana print – you can see the print best in the last photo. On my head I’m wearing a vintage silk scarf that belonged to my mother. And my favorite Superga velcro sneakers.

I found the Halloween decorations, I’m so relieved!

AND we did this little photo shoot at the new apartment! There’s a little new apartment tour at the end of this blog post, which is WAY less embarrassing than the old apartment post from last week – be sure to watch and “like” on YouTube!

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I *know* this is a good new beginning for me and as soon as I feel better I will jump up and down and shout HUZZAH! Well, maybe I’ll stand up and say Huzzah. But I will definitely FEEL like jumping up and down.

And let me know if you want to see further apartment adventures along with the outfit posts…I’m going to be videoing anyway so I can easily share if you’re interested.

Hope you’re all enjoying your week!

Bettye xoxo

My Week in Review: Week 34

Okay, THIS was a quiet week. I knew it was going to be a short/hard weekend for me so I took it easy during the week.

Caleb and I are being pretty good about walking 2-3 times a week between half-a-mile and a mile. It’s getting easier to get out the door…but with today’s time change it will be more challenging. If I don’t have interesting/pretty/varied scenery for my walks I get bored REALLY fast and don’t feel inspired to get out. So…we shall see.

It’s good for him as well. He lost so much muscle tone with his most recent bout of lyme disease that he’s been a wobbly mess šŸ˜¦ Ā Hopefully the walking will help him get stronger.


In preparation for Halloween, my daughter and I did a spookyish photo shoot. It wasn’t quite what we aimed for but I still think it’s a cool pic.


Halloween 2016! The front office dressed as Alice in Wonderland – how cute are they as Alice and The White Rabbit? Can you guess who I am??


Annnnnnd, it’s November! Time to take down the October bulletin board and start fresh with pics and things from the month ahead.


It’s been getting harder and harder to see the sunsets…but at least we got to walk under this pretty sky one evening.


Yay! I’ve been wanting to read this book The Curated Closet by Anuschka Rees ever since it was published…and I finally ordered it with some Amazon gift cards. It’s certainly lovely…and I hope there’s some helpful tips…cuz my wardrobe and closet are a hot mess!


And then it was Friday and I slept. Ha.

The end. Can you believe it’s November already? And we’ve set the clocks back and sunset was 4:42pm today? Ugh.

Now REALLY The End.