Mini Try-On AND Plus Size Sizing Rant

I never know if all y’all who read the blog actually watch the videos when I share them, so I feel compelled to repeat myself in both so you won’t miss One Sparkling Gem that I have to share. Heaven forbid.

So, as I explain in the 10-minute video below, I recently massacred two of my favorite summer dresses (this one – my heart! – and this one) by washing them oh so carefully…delicate cycle, cold water, no dryer. And still, they shrunk. The Grapes of Wrath dress to the point of being unwearable…and the lavender field dress is wearable but is no longer like wearing magical gossamer wings. Now it’s a little snug in the waist and bust and definitely shorter…so I may not be spinning in it in flower fields anymore. I’m so so sad. And that loss of two of my favorites led me, in some desperation, to the internet. I might have “forgotten” to pay a medical bill this month and bought two dresses from Asos instead. Don’t tell anyone. Desperate times call for desperate measures.

As I also explained in the video, I’m always forgetting how to convert my usual US size to UK size…and when the two dresses I wanted were out of my size American, I took a chance on UK sizing. My long-time fave black dress that I’ve worn 3.2 million times is an Asos UK 28 (US 22). But, it’s a swing dress so a little roomier than a “waist-ed” dress. Both these dresses were available in a UK 24 (which is a US 20, which I KNOW is too small for me but I got confused. BUT WAIT.) so I took a gamble.

Dress 1: ASOS Curve ASOS DESIGN Curve Floral Print Gingham Button Through Sundress

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Ugh. Ha. Nope. Just nope. You can see how charming the dress was on the model (shocker) by clicking the link above. Even the colors in the print seemed more subdued on the website than in person.  But the point is the size. Clearly too small. Way too snug in the sleeves, shoulders, bust and waist. UK 24 (US 20). I would have to go up a size or even two to get this to fit nicely.

So then I tried on Dress 2 ASOS Curve ASOS DESIGN Curve casual midi tea dress. Same size – UK 24 (US 20). Same maker “ASOS DESIGN.”

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And it’s GI-NORMOUS. I realize it has that sort of depression-era slouchiness, but this is far beyond that. This was just huge. You can see it more in the video than in the still shot here. Same size as dress above – UK 24 (US 20). I would have to go DOWN a size…or maybe even TWO to get this to fit nicely.

How are people supposed to shop successfully online when sizing is so inconsistent like this?? Using the “size guide” on retail sites is useless because they put one set of measurements – for all their products, across the board! Both these items, when I checked the size guide, gave the same measurements. Clearly…so clearly…they are not even close to the same measurements!

And I get that this situation is difficult for everybody, but for size categories that are so poorly represented in brick-and-mortar stores, it is especially egregious. I am non-plussed!

Big. Sigh.

So. Moving on. Yesterday I called my local Loft store to ask (again) if they were carrying plus sizes in store yet and I learned that while they still do not technically (yet) carry plus sizes in stores, they do accept returns of plus size items at the stores. So she told me that I was welcome to come in and browse the return rack which had about 80 returned plus size items on it. She also told me they will be stocking plus sizes in stores soon (yay) and I’m on a mailing list for an in-store event in August when they will have an array of plus sizes to try and buy.

So, Loft Plus, one step forward (thank you)….ASOS, one step back. I still love you, ASOS, but you’re going to need to work a little harder to keep me.

I did find a few of the returned items to try on at Loft…

Loft Plus Bar Back Sleeveless Swing Dress, size 24-26. I did like this very much. I love the color – I love non-colors and in-between colors. Colors that are hard for people to identify (is it grey? is it green?). It was a slinky swishy rayon-spandex blend and had an interesting back detail…

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But…it would need something over it (can you say BLACK CARDIGAN…AGAIN???) for work and I’m feeling weary of “the black cardigan over this and the black cardigan over that” right now. I’ve got enough of those already. And it’s no replacement for the lavender filed dress, so…..pass.

I had this LOFT PLUS STRIPED SQUARE NECK TEE, size 24/26, in my online shopping cart during the last sale but I just wasn’t sure about the sleeves. I’m okay in sleeveless. But cap sleeves and little tiny ruffle or flutter sleeves, just don’t work for me (note to self). Plus, snugger in the belly than I like. Oddly, Loft dresses fit me well through the hips and belly…but tops are too snug. Pass.

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These next two I can’t find on the website, possibly because they were returns that might have been purchased awhile ago and so may no longer be available online.

This sweet little black and white geometric print was right up my alley, but…again, too tight in the belly. Pass.

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And this, I ADORE. It’s either a heavy silk or Tencel, chartreuse (chartreuse is my JAM!!!) band collar utility jacket. They just had the one in a size 20, so too small…and it was a little pricey. I’ll keep watching the site for a possible return and a price markdown because I would love this for fall and spring.

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So that is my little try-on and mini sizing rant. How do you deal with sizing issues?

Watch the video to see the dresses in action.

Thanks for reading and commenting and all the things!

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It’s Almost December!

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So! I have been toying with the idea of doing another 30-day challenge in January – which is challenging myself to wear a different outfit every day in January, but now I’m thinking that, instead, maybe I’ll do Vlogmas (vlogging every day in December leading up to Christmas)! I’m SO not prepared for that, but I’m a big believer in just jumping in first and figuring it out later…and vlogging Every Single Day will help me get up-to-speed on All Things Vloggy pretty darn quick!

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It could be awful..for me AND you, ha! But I think I’m going to give it a go…if I can’t do it, I can’t do it…but I’ll certainly give it the old college try. They’ll be short, maybe 5-10 minutes a day, more or less. So…I know you’re excited, ha ha! If you want to witness this, just subscribe to my Fashion Schlub YouTube channel.

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That aside, this is another day of tripod/remote shutter selfies. On this day, a man walked his dog up to where I was shooting and proceeded to ask questions about what I was doing, including “would you like to take a picture with Miss Wiggles?” Uh, OF COURSE!!!

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Then a town worker truck pulled up, and they knew one another, so THAT guy got out of the truck and started asking me questions about what I was doing…and then they both stood there watching me. AWKWARD. Suffice it to say I didn’t get too many pictures that day. And they’re really not doing this outfit justice, because I LOVE this potato sacky dress from ASOS Curve (their plus size section) and faux leather jacket by Chelsea & Theodore via Gwynnie Bee…and I loved them together. But I didn’t get to check my car window reflection between shots so my wig was wacky and the jacket was askew and my tights are dirty. But that’s real life, so. There ya go.

Speaking of Real Life, I’ve just uploaded another video, “Switching Out My Plus Size Wardrobe from Summer to Winter: Part 2,” wherein I get all my cold weather clothes out of storage, cull through them to decide what stays and what goes, and add the “stayers” into my closet. It’s scintillating stuff, be sure to watch.

What I Wore:

* Asos Navy Ripple Stitch Dress, size 22
* Chelsea & Theodore Taupe Drape Front Faux Leather Jacket, via Gwynnie Bee, size 2x

Today I’m linking up with A Labour of Life and her Labour of Fashion link-up party!

Your Mama Ain’t Always Right

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I. Love. This. Dress. I love it almost as much as the invisible black dress I’ve worn 12,657,921 times since I bought it from ASOS last March. Guess where I bought this dress from? ASOS! ASOS Curve, to be exact. They have such a great selection of plus size clothing. I was asked the other day what plus size brands are my favorite, and I have to say if I had to purchase from only one brand forevermore…it would be ASOS (this is not a sponsored post! I just love them that much).

It looks kinda like a sack, you say? HELL YEAH IT DOES!!! That’s exactly what I love about it. It just skims away from my body, there’s nothing to shift or tug or adjust. It’s like wearing your nightgown out in public. And we all know that’s my Fashion Holy Grail 🙂

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In spite of it being sack-like, I think it falls nicely in the category of “minimal.” It has very simple, clean lines…the only detail being the ribbing on the body (the sleeves are smooth), which seems a little spage-agey to me. It reminds me of the Robot’s arms&legs from Lost in Space.

My mother used to say you couldn’t mix black and navy. I happen to think black and navy is very chic. Mama ain’t always right.

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What did I tell you?? There’s always one…

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We shot this in the West End of Long Beach, a charming beachy community. It turns out there’s a story behind this be-flagged box in the street. A resident of the street turned the car-blocking (it’s a narrow one-way street) planter into a memorial when he discovered that a neighbor’s daughter was killed in the 9/11 terrorist attacks on the World Trade Center. He painted the planter, added the flag pole and flags and put a protected September 11 remembrance flag on the base. He regularly updates the memorial with plants or flowers and decorations appropriate to season or holiday.

My friend Marcy of Fearlessly Just Me took these photos. We’ve been taking turns photographing one another for our respective blogs.

What fashion advice do *you* ignore?

What I Wore:

  • Asos Curve Ripple Stitch navy knit dress, size 26
  • Black faux leather moto jacket by Bongo, via Sears, 3x
  • Black footless fleece-lined tights from Maurice’s, 3x
  • Faux black leather booties from Avenue

 

It’s Beginning to Look a Lot Like…

On Thanksgiving, the child and I went into the city for a visit to the Byrant Park Winter Village, a charming, bustling pop-up shopping/dining area that happens every year at this time. Delightful shops and eateries, good people watching (a favorite activity of mine!), and I thought a good spot for a photo shoot! It was certainly scenic, but so many people milling about made photos Very Challenging. I’m giving us an E for Effort.

Let’s just look at the pictures, shall we??

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What I’m Wearing

 

I Love a Uniform: Part One

I’m writing this post in lieu of listing my 10 favorite songs on Pandora. You’re welcome.

Every season I have a couple outfits that are like my default outfits. When I just want to be comfy and not have to think about anything, I throw these outfits on. They’re the kind of outfits that if I had to pick One Outfit to Wear For the Rest of My Life…this would be it.

Right now my “weekday” uniforms are these two sort of ath-leisure looks. An easy stretchy lightweight swing dress, in both cases, with a soft blue chambray shirt over top and white sneakers at the bottom. No thought needed.

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I have two other weekend uniforms, but that’s for another post.

Do you find any outfit(s) that you find yourself reaching for time and time again even though there’s a whole closetful of other items?

What I’m Wearing

  • Black Asos Curve swing dress
  • Navy striped swing dress from Rainbow (out of stock)
  • Blue chambray button-down from Charlotte Russe (out of stock)

Alright, ONE song. This one is heartbreaking and is therefore my favorite. Don’t Mind Me I’m Only Dying Slow by Jackie Greene. This last stanza crushes me:

And I met a gambler who did nothing but lose all day
He had love in his hands but he let her slip away
And all he ever wanted was to give her a win
But all she ever really wanted was him.