Weeks in Review: Week 113-115

It has been a pretty inactive month, and not worth posting individual weeks…so I’ll do a catch-up here of the few things that have been going on. It continues to be a…difficult time right now…even beyond the loss of Caleb. Ever go through a period when no place feels like a safe, comforting space? It’s not good. Yesterday I totally hid out from everyone and everything…I watched 4 hours of royal wedding, 2 hours of the end of New Girl, then movie after movie after movie, and just let other stories fill my head. For an entire day. I needed that. I feel more human today. I’ve left the building (for food), sorted through medical bills (they are endless), and am working on upcoming blog things. I just needed to wallow around the bottom for a bit. Now I think I’m ready to come up for air. Here I go.

Just a big iron rooster.


The trees were bare, bare, bare…then overnight they turned green.


I’m so grateful for one nice day that last week…and that Caleb was feeling strong enough that we sat outside in the yard together for a bit. That was the last good day 😦  Please note the grey freckles on his muzzle. They’ll have relevance later.


I’d started a 30-day challenge of posting an Outfit of the Day every day…but I fell right off that wagon when Caleb left me. I was about to start a Will Anyone Notice If I Wear the Same Pair of Jeans Every Day for a Year experiment, but…I think I’ve worked through that.


I sent my baby cupcakes for her 27th birthday. I used this place Georgetown Cupcakes that had amazing flavors and reasonable prices, and seem to ship anywhere (in the US) and quickly.


I went to a Garden Conservancy Open Days tour of a private garden here on the Island. It was just the sort of quiet, lovely activity I needed. I might share more photos in a separate post if anyone is interested.

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Friends were good that first week about getting me out for company. We were able to sit outside here in town and have a nice dinner.


I photographed our annual 5K fundraiser run. It is always a rainy day but usually manages to hold off just long enough for the run to go off and prizes awarded.

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My daughter sent me flowers and chocolates for Mother’s Day.


My niece, nephew and great-niece sent me this locket to put a picture of Caleb in so I can wear him close to my heart. So thoughtful.


I FINALLY got a new pair of sunglasses. I bought a pair of Ralph Lauren sunnies in NINETEEN EIGHTY-FIVE that I have loved and worn ever since then…until last summer when I put them in my purse without their case, and an emery board scratched the lenses all up! Sadface. These are not the sunglasses of my dreams but my eyes have seemed even more sensitive to the sun lately so I had to get something. I don’t recall the brand but they’re from Target. Guess I could have taken the sticker off before taking the picture off, eh? I’m very noncommital to purchases. There are still tags on things I’ve worn half a dozen times! Not exactly sure what that’s about.


I got Janey these catnip-laced paper bags. She was not that impressed.


And my talented sister painted this picture of Caleb for me! She even painted in his little muzzle freckles 🙂 I cried and cried when I opened it. My boy.


One more full work week then a 3-day weekend, then a 4-day work week. That’s good. I need some uncommitted time.

What have you been up to now that it has finally turned to spring?



A Tribute to Moms

I’m a mom. I know how hard it is. I HAD a mom. I know how hard I was on HER. Being a mom is H-A-R-D. It’s also a gift. I just wanted to post a tribute to moms everywhere – past and present – human moms, animal moms, “next door neighbor” moms – all the people who “mother” other people whether they’re related by blood or obligation or not.

THANK YOU to all the moms out there – for caring and driving and tolerating and wiping and buying and hugging…and loving. Happy Mother’s Day.

Here are some pictures of my mother and me…and of me and my daughter.

baby from shelley
Mommy 1922

D mommy daddywedding

D mommy

D mommy 1956

D mommy cigarette

mommy red dress
I still have this dress and the matching cape…and the lucite purse

D blr baby 2

D bettye mommy

mommy wendy bettye mitchell field

mommy me feb 1965

D mommy me

bettye katie 5.5.91
And the next generation…

bettye and katie 1991 california

kate first day school



And me and my fur-baby 🙂

me + caleb bushwick by paul newlandIMG_1059

(Otherwise it was an uneventful, slightly queasy, non-visual week…I’ll just lump the few bits into next week’s Week in Review).

Happy Mother’s Day xoxo

My Week in Review: Week 9


After about 40 days and 40 nights of cold grey rainy days here on Long Island, we *finally* had a break in the weather! And Caleb and I ran right over to the local preserve to take advantage of the nice day for a peaceful stroll.


Sign? What sign? There’s a sign? I don’t see no stinkin’ sign. We’re Goin’ In.


Every year some new “natural art” shows up. I have no idea who does it but I love that it’s there.


Caleb took shelter for a little break.


All the things were blooming. It smelled so sweet in the woods.


Sunday was Mother’s Day and I finally got my scanner hooked up and went through a box of old slides looking for pictures of my mother. She passed away 26 years ago…which is almost half my life ago. I love seeing these pictures of her from before I was born….because by the time I came along she was not such a happy person. I’m glad to see that she was at one time.


I FOUND THE HOLY GRAIL!!! Jeans! That fit! And aren’t too long! And weren’t even expensive! That was a loooongggg search, my friends…but I finally had success at Charlotte Russe online…the stores only carry up to a size 22 and I needed a 24. And the secret about these is that they’re actually the cropped length, so only a 24″ inseam…which is PERFECT for me with my short legs! I quick ordered them in 2 other colors as well. PHEW. So glad THAT hunt is over! And this is a thrifted top by Sunny Leigh.


Tuesday I had a photo shoot, you can see the post here. Funny story (two, actually) about the shoot. We were taking pictures at a park&ride, which doesn’t sound very nice, but it was actually very nicely suited to a photo shoot – there was a nice grassy area w trees, and you could park right up close which is nice when you have 3 changes of clothing and all your camera stuff, etc. So, I was changing right in the parking lot – we sort of made a little dressing room by opening the two doors of our cars which were parked side-by-side, and then Amy stood more or less in front of me as I whipped my shirt off and pulled another quickly on. Listen, if someone is really getting their jollies from seeing a flash of ME in my bra, then…You’re Welcome. So, I’ve just changed into Outfit #2 and I’m bending over, head down, zipping up my black booties…and out of the corner of my eye I see a truck pull up and hear a man’s authoritative voice say, “WHAT ARE YOU DOING, LADIES.” Guh. As I’m turning around I’m trying to conjure up my best, “Just move along, dude” voice…but when I look up…I see it’s my ex-husband!!! Ha. Crazy small world, amiright?? He had been golfing with a buddy that day, and they had met up and left one of their cars in the lot all day and were just now returning at the end of their day. But, ha.


Funny story #2…with all the changing and the mess in my car of all the outfits and the distraction of the ex-husband interruption, I managed to accidentally leave my relatively new black flats at the park&ride…a fact I did not realize until the next morning when I was getting dressed. Oops. Fortunately I had a class in the morning to the west and pass right by the park&ride on my drive back to work in the afternoon, so was able to swing into the lot to check…and lo and behold – there were my shoes still on the ground!

If there’s a moral to that story I don’t really know what it is. I’m not a fast learner.


That afternoon some friends and I met up at a little beach for a sunset shoot and an outfit-of-the-day. Penguin dress by Alice + Isabel from Gwynnie Bee.


Ooh. Ahhh.


This is my favorite way to dress. Taking an easy, loose-fitting dress, like this swing dress from Rainbow, and making it even *more* casual with white sneakers and something easy thrown over top. The best part, I got this dress for $15.99…and right now it’s marked down to $9.59!!!


Thursday was just a quick walk with my boy then home to catch up on several day’s worth of work work work work work work work.


Here’s my Outfit of the Evening….


To go listen to a new local band, Drastic Measures. The lead singer is our graphic designer at work and it’s always great to see someone you know following their dream.

So that was MY week! What have *you* been up to??