Time Flies

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As Thanksgiving weekend passes and we move into December and the Christmas holiday season, I remember being little, maybe 5 or 6, and counting the days til Christmas and bemoaning HOW FAR AWAY IT IS and WON’T CHRISTMAS EVER GET HERE?! It was probably early in December, I remember decorations already being out. Anyway, my mother said “blah blah blah – you know, when you get older, time will go faster.”

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I didn’t think much of that at the time (come on, I was 5), but I never forgot her words…and as I did get older and better able to think more philosophically about things, I gave more thought to the passing of time. And now, at 57, I realize she was correct, time does seem to pass more quickly now. Obviously it doesn’t actually go faster…a year is always 365 days, an hour 60 minutes, etc., but looking back, I feel like I’ve been alive about a minute.

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People ask why this is so. My (highly scientific and educated, ahem) opinion is that it has to do with relativity. The more time has actually passed, the smaller any segment of it seems. When you’re 5, one year is a fifth of your entire lifespan, that’s a big chunk. When you’re 57, a year is only 1/57th of your entire life…that’s a very small sliver, relatively speaking. It’s still 365 days, but it SEEMS smaller (shorter) compared to earlier years.

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But when it all comes down to it…just make good use of the time you have. You rarely have as much as you think. Have some fun. Take a day off. Don’t waste time being aggravated (I’m whispering this one in my own ear). Surprise a loved one with a visit or phone call. Volunteer. Make a difference.

Lecture over!

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I’d been saving this plus size Junarose “botanical print” tunic til fall, even though I got it late summer from plusBKLYN. It just seemed autumny to me and I knew it would be perfect under the olive green duster I didn’t own yet (but obviously do now!). And I was right! I’ve seen it worn as a dress (if you’re a little more daring than I!) and as a tunic…belted and unbelted. It has a cool exposed zipper in the back and loose three-quarter sleeves. I’ve just worn it over black leggings and I meant to change into my black flats after traipsing through the woods looking for the ideal photo spot…but I got so aggravated (what a time waster!) at my new wireless shutter remote (that has since been replaced by one that actually works with my camera) that I forgot to change my shoes. D’oh! Anyway, it’s an ideal transitional piece because it’s super lightwight if it’s warmish but with a cardigan over, it’s just right if it’s coolish.

What I Wore:

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Just Keepin’ It Real

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So, I know I’ve been sharing a lot of casual outfits lately…and especially “jeans’n’sneakers” looks, which is not really my normal MO, but….

a) I think I have worn every cold-weather item in my closet multiple times for the blog, I’ve mixed and matched just about every possible combination I can come up with. Soon I’m going to be wearing things inside and out and upside down just to show things in different ways. I keep a really small wardrobe and I’m still a couple items short of completing a couple different outfits (HOW CAN A PLAIN WHITE SHIRT BE SO HARD TO FIND???). I repeat outfits a lot in my daily life, but it would be pretty boring for you guys to see that on the blog, so…I’m trying to stretch it out as far as I can but we’re getting down to the bare bones. Pretty soon it’s going to be “you can’t see it, but I’m wearing a different bra today,” ha.

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b) When I get items from Gwynnie Bee and they’re not something I would actually wear in my actual life, I don’t share them in an outfit post. My aim with outfit posts is to show what I *actually* wear in my actual life.

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c) My heel really really really hurts! I have plantar fasciitis in my left heel and it is so so painful…that I wear sneakers a LOT more than I usually do just in an effort to keep my feet a little more comfortable. All day long I look forward to getting home and putting on my wonderful orthotic slippers (oh MAN do I sound old!) and getting some relief. Next is a pair of orthotic sneakers. Oh yeah, this is one sexy fashion blog 🙂

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So, the point is, I’m just trying to keep it real. Bear with me. It’ll be spring soon and there’ll be some new looks…and lots of try-on hauls!

These pictures were taken on a cold day in Rockaway Park, Queens. Me and my blogger friend Marcy of Fearlessly Just Me were looking for an interesting spot and I just loved this old “Sea-Port” building. We decided we really need to do a behind-the-scenes vlog because shoot days are pretty hysterical with us changing clothes in the  car, trying to sneak into places, climbing on things for “that perfect shot,” etc.

I love this soft Style&Co sweater. It has an interesting detail of cable stitch along the hemline and allover on the back. Kinda “business in the front, party in the back.” It’s nice and loose fitting so a silk tee or turtleneck fits easily underneath.

And this has been my favorite scarf this winter – it is so so long! Which is very nice on a plus size body (read: fat neck) because there’s actually enough length to wrap it around several times and not just have little stump ends left over like with normal length scarves.

I’m looking forward to maybe a big snow later this week! Ooh, and a super secret work trip…but I’ll share that when the time comes…

What I’m Wearing:

From the Fitting Room: Avenue

It’s all this shirt’s fault. I’d had no intention of clothes shopping so soon after Christmas…but Avenue is right next to the doctor’s office and this shirt was hanging in the window and it looked like something I could combine with several other pieces in my wardrobe, so…I drove away. Ha. Tricked ya!

Went home, had some lunch. Could Not Stop Thinking About the Shirt. Drove BACK to Avenue. Found the shirt inside…and as long as I was going into the fitting room anyway I grabbed a couple other things on the way.

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In the end, the plaid blouse did not pass muster. It was too…flimsy. It was a lightweight rayon and didn’t have enough body to stand up under a cardigan, which is what I wanted it for. So back it went.

BUT…I *have* been needing a couple more athleisure type tops to wear over leggings and sneakers, and this soft supple sweatshirt w cute asymmetric layered bottom filled the bill. It came home with me.

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AND…two very nice lightweight long-sleeved tees – a light grey and a cream (cream not shown)…also made their way into my bag…

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And THIS, waterfall thermal knit hoodie, very soft, very fluid, easy to wear…also came home with me. It looks nice over either of the long-sleeved tees.

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So, for once a SUCCESSFUL try-on…and just when I’d been sort of down on Avenue. Sorry, old friend. You can still be my resource for leggings and sporty tops.

What I’m Wearing:

Comfort Clothes

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So, a few weeks back I shared a more casual outfit here on the blog, and realized I’ve really only ever posted “work” clothes – or what I’ve always thought of as “good clothes” or “outfits. ” My mother always had this mindset of keeping “good things” good. There was the closet of the “good” beach towels that I was not allowed to use all summer, even though I went to the beach probably 5 days a week and had only one towel (a towel I still
have to this day, only last summer *indulging* myself in a new one for public use. Yes, after like 40 years. Got your money’s worth on that one, Mommy!). We took the good beach towels with us to Ocean City, Maryland every Labor Day week and THEN we each had a different beach towel to go with every different bathing suit. But when we got back home after our week of fun in the sun, the good towels got laundered, folded, and locked back up in The Good Beach Towel Closet. There were also Good Dish Towels. The living room was pretty much reserved for “good company,” meaning not MY friends. There were Good Notepads that were saved for writing SPECIAL notes. Etcetera. You get the picture. And while I’ve spent a lifetime trying to NOT be my mother, some things are just so ingrained from an early age that you don’t easily notice that you’re doing the same things she did.

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And “good clothes” are one of those things for me. You buy something new, you really like it, clothes cost a ridiculous amount of money these days, you want to keep it nice, pristine, you want to save it for a special occasion. But. While I don’t advocate mucking stalls (sorry, horsey background) in your new clothes, REALLY, when you think about it, you get a much higher return on your investment the MORE you wear them!

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And even here on the blog, when thinking of outfits to share, I kept thinking of “good clothes.” But really I should share ALL the clothes – the good, the bad, the sometimes a little ugly, ha. And that’s exactly what we’ve got here today.

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My FAVORITE outfit for “doing fun things that include a lot of walking” is leggings and sneakers. And top. Obvi. But you get the picture. Leggings are the most comfortable things in the world. I’m past the stage of “are they pants?” and onto “who cares?” They’re easy to walk and sit in, they’re never too wrinkled, they don’t get baggy butt…they’re the perfect leg-covering item. Especially when you’re plus-sized, jeans are not always the most comfortable item to wear for a long day of driving and walking and eating.

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So this day we were strolling on the Brooklyn Promenade…took some skyline and bridge pictures, had a late lunch, just a nice easy day. I wore my favorite Avenue leggings, my cloudlike Adidas sneakers, lightweight knit blue Tahari sweater, crazy soft scarf from ASOS and for the first time, a faux leather moto jacket I bought at the end of last winter at Sears of all places! It’s not the moto jacket of my dreams but it was CHEAP and I wanted to test run this style to see if I really liked it before I spent more money on a nicer version. And I DO like it! It’s a perfect lightweight jacket for those not so cold days. It’s really supple and doesn’t feel all thick and stiff so it’s nice for driving in, too.

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The big black bag is a Target purse I’ve converted into a camera bag. I can easily keep my camera body and two lenses in it, with spare batteries and memory cards. It’s so much easier carrying all that in a cross-body bag than in my bulky shoulder strap camera bag.

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For you non-New Yorkers – that’s the view of downtown Manhattan directly across from the promenade. Pretty nice!

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What are *your* comfort clothes??

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My friend Linda was my photographer once again.