Valentine’s Day Shopping

As I was reminded in the RED VELVET HEART BOX aisle at CVS the other day, Valentine’s Day is not far off. And people can piss and moan all they want about it being a fake holiday, I don’t care. I love *every* holiday. I want to decorate for it and dress for it and plan a special meal for it and send out cards for it and give gifts for it. I just love holidays. I love any day that sets itself off from all the other days that just start to run together…get up go to work buy the groceries walk the dog make the dinner watch tv go to bed lather rinse repeat. I love the SPECIAL days.

SO, I will be needing a Valentine’s Day Outfit. I’ll be away that week (surprise trip ahead, woohoo!) so I have to plan early. Hence, this post. I thought we could do a little window shopping together…maybe you’ll even find something for yourself…it’ll be just like we’re girlfriends at the mall together.

My first stop was at CowCow. Remember The Christmas Dress? That was from CowCow. They have every style of clothing imaginable, in umpteen sizes (including plus sizes up to 5x (which they call xxxxx-large), in every graphic conceivable. So I just knew they’d have some good Valentine’s dresses.

Hart’s Long Sleeve Skater Dress from CowCow (sizes xs through xxx-large). This is just a fun graphic dress. It’s long-sleeved so you could wear it on its own or under a black or grey cardi or blazer.


Chocolate Pink Hearts Gift Wrap Reversible Skater Dress also from CowCow (size xs through xxx-large). I love pink and brown together! I would totally wear this with my oversized pink chenille cardigan and blush pink slip-on sneakers (that I’m actually still searching for)!


Then I hit where there were TONS of things in their plus size section, but I narrowed it down to a few favorites.

If I was going out to a fancy, romantic dinner, I’d love a dress like this. An easy loose shift style in a feminine color…and the ruffled sleeves are short enough to not fall into my fancy soup.

Tahari Bell Sleeve Ruffle Shift Dress • Tahari • $138

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If I was going out for Galentine’s drinks with my girls, this would be amazing. Over a white tee and under a denim jacket. With those same blush slip-on sneakers I’ve yet to find.

ELVI Nude Sequin Slipdress • $85

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This dress would be perfect if I was making dinner at home for a special guy.

Soprano Tie Front Lace Dress • Soprano • $55

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And if it was a casual rom-com movie night at home with (chocolate drizzled caramel) popcorn, this would be so cozy for curling up on the sofa.

Caslon(R) Chenille Poncho • Caslon • $66.33

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What do you think? I’m not sure what I’ll be doing on Valentine’s Day because, as I said, I’ll be away…so it’s sort of hard to pick what to bring to wear. I think last year I was stuck in a snowstorm in Maine!

Which do you like??

Just so you know, some of the links above are affiliate links, which means if you click on or buy something, I will make a small commission.


IS Imitation the Sincerest Form of Flattery??

So, a couple weeks back, Julia at When the Girls Rule posted a photo on her Instagram of this look…


…and I commented that I liked it so much that I was going to steal it (and she said she was waiting to see it). And I did!

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I didn’t have a wine scarf or a gold bag…but I DID have a gold scarf, so I improvised there. But otherwise, I was able to pretty well replicate the look that I liked so much on her, with clothes from my own closet, with my own spin. I was inspired by her outfit.

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I think sometimes in fashion (and blogging…and photography…and really any creative endeavor) there is a fine line between inspiration and imitation. If I’d gone out and bought the same dress and bag and scarf and created an exact duplicate of her outfit, that’s imitation…and these days I don’t know that most people are all that flattered by that (imitation may not be the sincerest form of flattery) imitation. In fact, in most applications, direct imitation is a form of copyright infringement! It would be pretty hard to prove anyone guilty of that in retail fashion, I mean, all the stores sell all the same things, eventually you’re going to have some pretty similar outfits out there, purely coincidentally….but you get the point.

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While it’s nice to look to others for inspiration (and to copy someone for fun, as I did here), it’s best to use your own creativity–don’t just copy someone else’s look, create your own! Do you!!!

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This is a favorite easy-to-wear dress from Old Navy, in it’s second winter with me. It goes with a lot of other items in my closet. The black duster cardigan is also from Old Navy, but this current season and still available – it’s a fine knit, so very lightweight. With pockets!

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The scarf and crossbody bag are from TJ Maxx, last season. The over-the-knee boots are from Avenue, two winters ago. I’m really getting my money’s worth out of all these things!

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I wore my new Gorjana G Ring hoop earrings from Nordstrom. I have been coveting these exact earrings for a lonnng time – well over a year, maybe even two. I first saw them on Joanna Gaines on Fixer Upper and loved the movement the hoops had – you know how hoops are usually sort of still and fixed in place on your ear? Because these hoops are hanging on the S-hook thingie that goes through your ear, there’s a lot of movement and I really like that. I never ever buy myself nice jewelry but I’ve been watching these for a long time and they finally went on sale on Black Friday and I snatched those babies right up!

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I shot with a new photographer this day, I’m really happy with the pictures – what do you think?

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Also, I’m still doing Vlogmas every day on my YouTube channel. I realized today from trying to film “the interesting parts of my day,” that most days do not have interesting parts! Not this time of year, anyway. In spring summer fall I get out a lot more and it would be much more fun to watch. Today the big excitement was scraping ice off the windshield, Caleb making new friends at the park, and new packages in the mail. But…hey, I’m giving it a shot. Stick around, maybe something good will happen eventually!

Photography by Robert Mitchell Photography.

ANNND…I’m linking up with the #IWillWearWhatILike linkup on Not Dressed as Lamb. Definitely take a look at the other bloggers sharing things – you might might find a new favorite!

Fresh Florals

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In the 80s (as a 20-something) I wore A Lot of Florals…it was the era of Laura Ashley and overscale floral dresses with hairbows and pastel flats…this eventually turned into 90s grunge and ditsy (read: tiny) floral prints over boots and sneakers with tattered denim…and then I was a MOM and everything was just STRETCHY. And I felt sort of “over” florals. They felt dated and too stuck in my mind as being part of that MOM look.

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But now I’m trying to add some florals back into the wardrobe mix, in a more modern way. I think a non-repeat pattern is important…and I also like a lot of white space in the design. These are not hard and fast rules of course…they’re just more like guidelines I’m following as I try to put a little “pretty” into my wardrobe. I also like to set them against something patterned – a stripe or dot or geometric – and/or pair them with something not so “girly.” Like jeans opposed to a skirt. I’m not a girly girl.

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This is a Bobeau floral top. I think Bobeau is a Nordstrom house brand. I like their items, I currently have a few. The quality is very nice and the price point is reasonable. I’m not getting a dress for $7.99 like at Rainbow, but…it’s still in my price range to have several items. Check them out (no I am not affiliated with them in any way, I just like recommending things I sincerely like).

I don’t even give “sleeveless” a thought anymore, after a LIFETIME of refusing to go sleeveless in public…but I do need a cardigan or kimono in my chilly air conditioned office.

Are there any types of things you used to wear a lot…that at a certain point you got sick of and omitted entirely from your wardrobe?

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