Mini Try-On AND Plus Size Sizing Rant

I never know if all y’all who read the blog actually watch the videos when I share them, so I feel compelled to repeat myself in both so you won’t miss One Sparkling Gem that I have to share. Heaven forbid.

So, as I explain in the 10-minute video below, I recently massacred two of my favorite summer dresses (this one – my heart! – and this one) by washing them oh so carefully…delicate cycle, cold water, no dryer. And still, they shrunk. The Grapes of Wrath dress to the point of being unwearable…and the lavender field dress is wearable but is no longer like wearing magical gossamer wings. Now it’s a little snug in the waist and bust and definitely shorter…so I may not be spinning in it in flower fields anymore. I’m so so sad. And that loss of two of my favorites led me, in some desperation, to the internet. I might have “forgotten” to pay a medical bill this month and bought two dresses from Asos instead. Don’t tell anyone. Desperate times call for desperate measures.

As I also explained in the video, I’m always forgetting how to convert my usual US size to UK size…and when the two dresses I wanted were out of my size American, I took a chance on UK sizing. My long-time fave black dress that I’ve worn 3.2 million times is an Asos UK 28 (US 22). But, it’s a swing dress so a little roomier than a “waist-ed” dress. Both these dresses were available in a UK 24 (which is a US 20, which I KNOW is too small for me but I got confused. BUT WAIT.) so I took a gamble.

Dress 1: ASOS Curve ASOS DESIGN Curve Floral Print Gingham Button Through Sundress

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Ugh. Ha. Nope. Just nope. You can see how charming the dress was on the model (shocker) by clicking the link above. Even the colors in the print seemed more subdued on the website than in person.  But the point is the size. Clearly too small. Way too snug in the sleeves, shoulders, bust and waist. UK 24 (US 20). I would have to go up a size or even two to get this to fit nicely.

So then I tried on Dress 2 ASOS Curve ASOS DESIGN Curve casual midi tea dress. Same size – UK 24 (US 20). Same maker “ASOS DESIGN.”

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And it’s GI-NORMOUS. I realize it has that sort of depression-era slouchiness, but this is far beyond that. This was just huge. You can see it more in the video than in the still shot here. Same size as dress above – UK 24 (US 20). I would have to go DOWN a size…or maybe even TWO to get this to fit nicely.

How are people supposed to shop successfully online when sizing is so inconsistent like this?? Using the “size guide” on retail sites is useless because they put one set of measurements – for all their products, across the board! Both these items, when I checked the size guide, gave the same measurements. Clearly…so clearly…they are not even close to the same measurements!

And I get that this situation is difficult for everybody, but for size categories that are so poorly represented in brick-and-mortar stores, it is especially egregious. I am non-plussed!

Big. Sigh.

So. Moving on. Yesterday I called my local Loft store to ask (again) if they were carrying plus sizes in store yet and I learned that while they still do not technically (yet) carry plus sizes in stores, they do accept returns of plus size items at the stores. So she told me that I was welcome to come in and browse the return rack which had about 80 returned plus size items on it. She also told me they will be stocking plus sizes in stores soon (yay) and I’m on a mailing list for an in-store event in August when they will have an array of plus sizes to try and buy.

So, Loft Plus, one step forward (thank you)….ASOS, one step back. I still love you, ASOS, but you’re going to need to work a little harder to keep me.

I did find a few of the returned items to try on at Loft…

Loft Plus Bar Back Sleeveless Swing Dress, size 24-26. I did like this very much. I love the color – I love non-colors and in-between colors. Colors that are hard for people to identify (is it grey? is it green?). It was a slinky swishy rayon-spandex blend and had an interesting back detail…

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But…it would need something over it (can you say BLACK CARDIGAN…AGAIN???) for work and I’m feeling weary of “the black cardigan over this and the black cardigan over that” right now. I’ve got enough of those already. And it’s no replacement for the lavender filed dress, so…..pass.

I had this LOFT PLUS STRIPED SQUARE NECK TEE, size 24/26, in my online shopping cart during the last sale but I just wasn’t sure about the sleeves. I’m okay in sleeveless. But cap sleeves and little tiny ruffle or flutter sleeves, just don’t work for me (note to self). Plus, snugger in the belly than I like. Oddly, Loft dresses fit me well through the hips and belly…but tops are too snug. Pass.

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These next two I can’t find on the website, possibly because they were returns that might have been purchased awhile ago and so may no longer be available online.

This sweet little black and white geometric print was right up my alley, but…again, too tight in the belly. Pass.

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And this, I ADORE. It’s either a heavy silk or Tencel, chartreuse (chartreuse is my JAM!!!) band collar utility jacket. They just had the one in a size 20, so too small…and it was a little pricey. I’ll keep watching the site for a possible return and a price markdown because I would love this for fall and spring.

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So that is my little try-on and mini sizing rant. How do you deal with sizing issues?

Watch the video to see the dresses in action.

Thanks for reading and commenting and all the things!

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It’s a Wrap

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Wrap dresses are one of those items you see all the time on lists of Things You Must Have In Your Wardrobe. In reality, YMMV when it comes to these iconic dresses, but they’re definitely worth a try. A true wrap is very flexible when it comes to sizing and fit as you actually “wrap it” only as snugly as you like. The surplice top can be very flattering…or sometimes a little risque, depending on how low they go (or how adept you are at pinning!), and I have always found the skirt to be slimming. And this is from someone who typically wears non-waist-ed swing/trapeze/sack style dresses. But I like renting wrap dresses from Gwynnie Bee to try for awhile and I’m usually pleased.

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Diane Von Furstenburg created the wrap dress in 1974 (I’m so old I actually remember this and her Time magazine cover in the dress) based on a kimono design. She used stretchy knit fabrics in a ton of different fun prints and sales went through the roof! The design has been continued (and copied) to this day and her brand is as strong as ever today (GO #GIRLBOSS!). This one is So Amazing, but if I were to splurge on an actual DFV wrap, it would be the iconic chain print in this sienna color.

I actually had one back in the day. I would have been 15 or 16 here. I can’t recall if it was actually a DVF or just a knock-off but I remember I Had To Have It, even though it was like a whopping $28. I do remember thinking it made my hips look kind of big. Oh, brother!!! 

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Ha ha, nice keeping your eyes open, Bettye! Nice giant corsage, Boyfriend!

This cute stylized floral wrap dress is by London Times. I got it via Gwynnie Bee so it’s not a keeper, but we had a nice visit. I could have dressed it up with pumps or strappy sandals but I prefer “casual-ing things down,” which I did here with white Keds and a denim jacket. It also would have been well-suited to a cropped cardigan because of the defined waist.

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Have you ever tried a wrap dress? Did you like it?

I’m linking-up today with Shelbee on the EdgeStyle with a Splash and
Nancy’s Fashion Style. Be sure to pay them a visit and peruse through all the bloggers linking up and maybe find a new favorite!

What I’m Wearing:

Special thanks to Robert of Robert Mitchell Photography for the great pictures!

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Old & New Faves

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For years I’ve been hearing about a lavender farm, oh…70 miles east of me on the north fork of Long Island. I just never got myself there…but finally on my vacation last week I learned that my girlfriend had also never been and wanted to go, so Girls Day Out! I now have a new favorite place. I’m actually not a big fan of lavender scent, but being among the blooming plants the scent was Just Perfect. Maybe next time I’ll even plan to coordinate my outfit with the lavender (duh. bad, bad blogger).

It was actually supposed to be a coolish rainy day with thunderstorms and flash floods. But we decided to tempt fate and go anyway.

Here I am in the downpour. If you look very, very closely you can just make out some raindrops in front of the tree green, but…downpour? Not so much.

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I am wearing my super duper favorite dress by Junarose that I got last spring from plus BKLYN. I’m never quite sure if it’s a leafy print or feathers…but it’s in a lovely colorway of faded aqua, pale pink, soft sulfer yellow, and a darker greyish purple. The fabric is so lightweight…you hardly even feel it on you, it just sorts floats along with you. And for cotton it has a nice drape, it’s not fluffy or poofy or stiff and crisp. Sadly, it is long gone from stores but if I were to try to replace it (impossible, but), I might go with something like this…

Lucky Brand Plus Printed Flutter-Sleeve Dress

I realize it doesn’t look the same, but it shares some of the best elements of my Junarose dress: muted colors, loose drapey fit, shortish flutter sleeves. It has the same sort of ease to it.


Or this one…

NIC+ZOE Plus Nights In Mojave Abstract-Print Dress

Same here – at first glance you wouldn’t think this similar to my dress at all – but the busy print hides lumps and bumps like my dress, the easy fit through the body makes it comfortable for moving or sitting, the long flutter sleeve doesn’t need a sweater over to cover bare shoulders at work, and the print is sort of different. It’s a lightweight rayon vs. cotton but the attributes are the same – it’s light and nicely drapey.


That’s how you “replace” a favorite item. Don’t try and match it perfectly, you may never find anything exactly like it again. But consider what your favorite elements are and try to find those, even though the actual item may look totally different.

Now, I plan to wear this dress til it falls off my body in tattered shreds, so you can expect to see it on the blog at least once a year (like here from last year).

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I wore my comfy trainers cuz I knew we’d be walking a lot, my turquoise drop earrings from a handcrafted fair in Brooklyn years ago, and carried my hooded jacket in case of flash floods. Ahem.

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Thanks to my photographer friend Who Shall Remain Nameless (you remember her from here and here, among others).

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What I Wore This Week

finally managed to remember to take a photo of my outfit of the day every day this week! Woohoo, Star Blogger right here! Ha. I like to keep the bar pretty low for myself at times so I can feel good about even my more meager accomplishments. Self Care Tip #21.

Anyway…

Sunday 6.24.18

A mainly stay-at-home day. I only got dressed because I ran out to pick up breakfast, but I kept it pretty casual and comfy. Not even any make-up. These items are all pretty old. I’m not actually a big fan of this color combo – it’s a little militaristic and dull, but…whatevs. Only the deli folk saw me in it. I could easily elevate it with a black tee and black slides.

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Army green tee from Asos, no longer available, similar here and here in plus sizes…and here and here in straight sizes. Khaki linen blend pants from Jessica London, no longer available, similar here. Footbed slides by Mephisto (LITERALLY 20 years old), no longer available, similar here

Monday 6.25.18

Back to work…but it’s camp week and a little more casual than usual, so this sleeveless boho top from Andree by Unit was perfect. Lightweight rayon, flowy fit – all good. In the picture on Gwynnie Bee I thought the embroidery was red and navy so I thought I might hang onto it for the 4th of July next week, but it was actually red and black, so back it goes after one wear. After reading Jodie Filogomo’s blog post about wearing red, white and blue, I realize I have no outfit right now in that color scheme! My mother is rolling over in her grave.

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Boho top by Andree by Unit, size 24, not available. Similar here and here in plus size and here and here in straight sizes. Gloria Vanderbilt Amanda jeans, size 22W short.

Tuesday 6.26.18

I know this doesn’t look very summery, but the ac in my office is fierce. You need to dress defensively to get through the day. I always have a sweater of some sort to go over whatever else I’m wearing, just in case.

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Green lace-up tunic top by Bobeau, no longer available. Similar here and here in plus sizes and here and here in straight sizes. Black duster cardigan from Old Navy, 3x. Black leggings from Walmart. Cognac espadrilles by Aldo.

Wednesday 6.27.18

One of my summer favorites, the Grapes of Wrath dress. It’s very light and easy breezy.

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Indigo and white rayon dress by Junarose, size 22. No longer available, and to be honest, I can’t find anything like it! Navy cardigan from H&M, size 24, no longer available. Similar here

Thursday 6.28.18

Another “didn’t give it a lot of thought” day. Figures the week I finally manage to take an ootd every day was camp week at work, which is more casual than usual and I run around taking a million pictures so I dress for comfort and for being on my feet a lot. Still, I had to put on clothes, so OOTD! And next week I’m on (wait for it…)  VACATION!!!!  so there will be lots of leggings, bathing suits and nightgowns, ha. I might skip next week as far as ootd and not subject you to that! I promise the next time I do a “what I wore this week” I’ll make it a more interesting week!

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American Rag floral peasant top, no longer available. Comparable here and here in plus sizes and here and here in straight sizes. Gloria Vanderbilt Amanda jeans, size 22w short…and really really old Mephisto slides

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All Dressed Up & Yadda Yadda Yadda

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While this would be a great date dress, I just wore it on a visit to The Vanderbilt Mansion on the north shore of Long Island. The day was still a little chilly but the sky and water were so so blue, my friend and I couldn’t resist taking a walk around the grounds and visiting some of the historic indoor sites as well (where, sadly, no photography was allowed).

Could that water BE more blue???

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In 1910 William K. Vanderbilt II (a regular Richie Rich) bought 20 acres on a wooded hill above Northport Bay and commissioned a New York City architecture firm, Warren & Wetmore, to build him a summer house (that’s some summer house!). These are the same two architects who designed the Grand Central Terminal in New York City for William’s great-grandfather Cornelius Vanderbilt in in the early 1900s. Over the next 26 years the architects expanded the house into a stunning Spanish-Revival style mansion Vanderbilt called Eagle’s Nest. Over the years, Vanderbilt purchased more land and expanded the estate to 43 acres. One of Long Island’s few remaining Gold Coast mansions, it is listed on the National Register of Historic Places.

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I love Spanish style architecture. The tile roofs, arched windows and doorways, the wrought ironwork. This place has all of that! I think my rainbow-hued dress complements the style of the estate, don’t you?

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I’m not sure if this is a boat house or possibly a caretaker’s cottage.

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I’m wearing my sparkly black cardigan. The one that, every year, just barely makes it back from the chopping block of my closet clean-out and is hung back up “just in case.” I’m glad it was there in this case. I’d thought I would wear a fine knit black duster with this dress, but the dress is a little shorter than my other dresses and when I put the  long-line duster over it, it looked like a bathrobe! This shorter dress needed the shorter length cardigan. I guess the sparkly cardigan will stay another year.

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The dress is a faux-wrap style with a tulip skirt and elbow-length flutter sleeves. Stretchy and drapey at the same time.

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I made a short video showing the dress without the cardigan over it if you wanted a better look.

What I Wore:

  • Catherine by Catherine Malandrino plus size dress, size 3x. Via GwynnieBee and in a straight size here
  • Black flats, Taryn by Taryn Rose
  • Black sequin cardigan, old. Comparable here: plus size here and here; straight size here and here
  • Vintage pendant necklace

I’m linking up with Shelbee of Shelbee on the Edge and her #SpreadTheKindness link-up party and also Catherine of Not Dressed As Lamb and her #IWillWearWhatILike link-upThere are lots of wonderful bloggers linking up there so take a look and maybe you’ll make a new friend!

Thanks to Karen for taking these pictures and trudging up hill and down dale with me after running a 5k earlier that morning! You rock!

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Week in Review: Week 107

I love the charming older homes in my area.

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I was sick for two days and didn’t get out.

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My view from bed.

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And then we had more snow!

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And had another snow day, which we all love very much.

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I’ve been looking for an etagere in just the right size since I moved here back in August, and finally found one on CraigsList. Guess I should have emptied my car out before going to pick it up. Fortunately I had some old computer cables in the back to tie the hatch down as it wouldn’t shut with the etagare legs sticking it. AND, fortunately, it was less than two miles from my house so I didn’t have to drive far after picking it up. It’s very hilly around here and I was afraid all my junk would start spilling out the back as I drove uphill!

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In place.

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I got a little neatening trim from Morgan at Posh. Now it looks more like an intentional style vs. growing out bald head.

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Janey in the packing peanuts.

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Shopping for comfortable black flats. I loved these but managed to control myself.

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The final contenders.

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Ooh, pretty! Should I??

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New hair, new shoes, Gwynnie Bee dress – off to a wedding!

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Awww!!!

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And today I slept on and off almost all day! Running errands all day yesterday and being out late last night took it’s toll on me and I could just not stay awake so I kept laying back down “for just 5 minutes” and would wake up hours later…until 4:00 this afternoon!!! Gah! I don’t feel ready to start a new work week yet, but…..that’s life.

 

Valentine’s Day Shopping

As I was reminded in the RED VELVET HEART BOX aisle at CVS the other day, Valentine’s Day is not far off. And people can piss and moan all they want about it being a fake holiday, I don’t care. I love *every* holiday. I want to decorate for it and dress for it and plan a special meal for it and send out cards for it and give gifts for it. I just love holidays. I love any day that sets itself off from all the other days that just start to run together…get up go to work buy the groceries walk the dog make the dinner watch tv go to bed lather rinse repeat. I love the SPECIAL days.

SO, I will be needing a Valentine’s Day Outfit. I’ll be away that week (surprise trip ahead, woohoo!) so I have to plan early. Hence, this post. I thought we could do a little window shopping together…maybe you’ll even find something for yourself…it’ll be just like we’re girlfriends at the mall together.

My first stop was at CowCow. Remember The Christmas Dress? That was from CowCow. They have every style of clothing imaginable, in umpteen sizes (including plus sizes up to 5x (which they call xxxxx-large), in every graphic conceivable. So I just knew they’d have some good Valentine’s dresses.

Hart’s Long Sleeve Skater Dress from CowCow (sizes xs through xxx-large). This is just a fun graphic dress. It’s long-sleeved so you could wear it on its own or under a black or grey cardi or blazer.

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Chocolate Pink Hearts Gift Wrap Reversible Skater Dress also from CowCow (size xs through xxx-large). I love pink and brown together! I would totally wear this with my oversized pink chenille cardigan and blush pink slip-on sneakers (that I’m actually still searching for)!

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Then I hit Nordstrom.com where there were TONS of things in their plus size section, but I narrowed it down to a few favorites.

If I was going out to a fancy, romantic dinner, I’d love a dress like this. An easy loose shift style in a feminine color…and the ruffled sleeves are short enough to not fall into my fancy soup.

Tahari Bell Sleeve Ruffle Shift Dress • Tahari • $138

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If I was going out for Galentine’s drinks with my girls, this would be amazing. Over a white tee and under a denim jacket. With those same blush slip-on sneakers I’ve yet to find.

ELVI Nude Sequin Slipdress • $85

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This dress would be perfect if I was making dinner at home for a special guy.

Soprano Tie Front Lace Dress • Soprano • $55

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And if it was a casual rom-com movie night at home with (chocolate drizzled caramel) popcorn, this would be so cozy for curling up on the sofa.

Caslon(R) Chenille Poncho • Caslon • $66.33

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What do you think? I’m not sure what I’ll be doing on Valentine’s Day because, as I said, I’ll be away…so it’s sort of hard to pick what to bring to wear. I think last year I was stuck in a snowstorm in Maine!

Which do you like??

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My 10 Favorite Outfits of 2017

AKA It Was Too Cold Last Week to Get a New Outfit Photographed (if I’m being honest) So Let Me Recycle Some from Last Year. In my defense there WAS a snow bombogenesis cyclone, or whatever they ended up calling it. Translation: there was a lot of snow, a LOT of wind, and temperatures in the single digits all week. I thought I would be able to make some new outfits out of the items from last week’s winter haul, but in reality I sent everything back except one thing – that’s a conversation for another day. So, blah blah blah, I have nothing new to post this week. But I do like taking a look back over the past year and revisiting my outfits, sharing with you what worked or didn’t work for me. So. That’s what I’m gonna do!

#10 – Old Navy striped dress with Charlotte Russe tencel button-down and my beloved Superga velcro sneakers. I love an easy outfit. I love stripes. I love this tencel blouse over just about anything. Win win win.

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#9 – Hey look, the tencel button-down again! This time with a grey long sleeved tee from Avenue and this amazing Lucky Brand cardigan (rented from Gwynnie Bee), over Charlotte Russe cropped skinny jeans. I love the concept of layering, and it looks so great on slim straight bodies. I have a hard time making it work right, or look right to me, on ME. Still, this was a good attempt.

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#8 – This time I’m repeating the Charlotte Russe skinny jeans…now with a white linen blend tee from J. Jill and a dreamy Johnny Was kimono rented via Gwynnie Bee. This kimono was so so pretty.

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#7 – Hey, guess what I’m wearing again? The Charlotte Russe skinny jeans and the linen blend tee from J. Jill. This time with a lightweight cardigan from Torrid. And my Supergas. First day wearing them. And I fell on a hill and almost rolled into the pond in them!

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#6 – Ah, the much-loved (and much-worn!) magic black (or maybe it’s black magic!) swing dress from Asos…with the much sought-after denim jacket from JC Penneys, a borrowed leopard scarf, my Gorjana hoop earrings from Nordstrom, with lined footless tights from Maurice’s and black booties from Avenue. Super comfy and can go just about anywhere.

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#5 – Another Old Navy jersey knit dress with the ochre chenille cardigan from Target that I am UB-SESSED with. The color is amazing, it’s super soft and cozy…and the length is perfect for dresses or pants. Same tights and boots as above.  Vintage Echo scarf that belonged to my mother. Thanks, Mommy!

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#4 – A super cute botanical print top by Junarose from PlusBKLYN under olive green fleece cardigan from Rainbow, black leggings by Faded Glory from Walmart, with my comfiest sneakers from Adidas.

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#3 – Uh-huh. I wore a dress that looks like vintage Christmas wrapping paper. I’m a real bad-ass. Come on – how cute is it?? The dress is from Cow Cow, the black cardi is Old Navy…tights and booties same as above.

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#2 – Nothing dramatic here, but a solid pulled together look that I’ll wear a gazillion times. Old Navy striped jersey knit dress (yes, I have a lot of them!), Old Navy cardigan, golden mustard scarf from TJ Maxx, otk boots from Avenue.

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And my #1 Favorite Outfit of 2017 is this amazing bird print dress by Junarose, from PlusBKLYN. I know this isn’t much of an “outfit,” it’s just a stand-alone dress. But that’s what makes it So Perfect!

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I’m sure you noticed there’s a lot of repetition among my favorite outfits. I’m grateful to have so many pieces I like enough to wear repeatedly! I feel like I’ve chosen well when something gets a lot of wear.

I’m not putting links to the items cuz they’re all old and out of stock (well, the two Junarose items might still be available on the PlusBKLYN site – they were still there the last time I browsed there). But they’re mostly such basic items, each of the mentioned sites probably has something extremely similar.

Thanks for taking the little walk down memory lane with me!

xoxo

Resolutions + Plus Size Try-on Haul Video

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I’m still working on my resolutions for the new year. I’m not usually a hard-and-fast resolution sorta gal; I usually pick a fun thing I want to challenge myself to do more of – like drink more or wear more jewelry, ha ha. But after 2017 I do sort of feel like I need to get some things in order. I need to get PREPARED. That’s one of the resolutions, but I’m still fine-tuning (that seems to be a recurrent theme of the new year also) it and most of them…but the one I’m certain of is…to pamper myself.

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To have flowers in the house, go for mani-pedis and foot massages and get my hair done when I have hair again. Have a facial. Not just pampering, but being kind and gentle with myself. Last year was a hard year. It was painful and exhausting and took a lot out of me. I need to feed myself and care for myself and build my mind and heart back up. Get a comfortable sofa so I can relax and read and enjoy looking out the window. Ask friends for help when things are too hard. Eat good food. Be Good to my body. Nourish it, stretch it, exercise it. Rest it. If I need to sleep all day once in a while, do that without feeling guilty. Make my home more pleasing. Empty the corners of boxes and piles of stuff. Create lovely vignettes to enjoy when I come home. Live in silence when I want, live in music when I want. Just be good to myself.
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I’m still working out the technicalities on this one, but one year (I think 2011) I did “Do Something New Every Week,” and that was really a good one but it was more Big Picture things, like “do a 5k,” “get reiki.” etc. I think this year I might do a “Try Something New Every Day” resolution. I know that sounds imposing but they can be Very Small Things: go to a new bagel shop, turn down a different street when driving home, make a new recipe, try on a pair of shoes you wouldn’t normally try. It’s just the point of keeping your mind open to new and untried things rather than being comfortable and settled in routine.
That’s it for resolutions for now…and onto something NEW and exciting that got its start in 2017 but just went live in 2018 – and that is that my new blog-friend Nancy of Nancy’s Fashion Style shared Fashion Schlub as one of her “Styled By…” posts! I’ve been reading such nice comments from her regular readers, I’m so grateful to her! Be sure to take a look at her blog – she has such an adventurous and fun fashion sense – I think you’ll really enjoy her blog – AND she’s a sweetheart, to boot!

 

And this week’s weekly vlog is a plus size winter try-on haul showing clothes from Old Navy, Woman Within and Charlotte Russe. Take a look and let me know what you think – I think my videoing and editing skills are getting a little better!

All photography by me.

A Little New Year’s Fine Tuning

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First post of 2018. Well, yesterday’s Week in Review was first but that was supposed to go up over the weekend, I’m just running on delay right now…this is the first intentional post of 2018.

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And still, before I speak to resolutions/goals/etc for the new year, I want to talk about something that hit me last week. While this blog is newish (ha ha, almost 2 years old and it still feels new to me), I’ve been blogging for quite a long time. There were blogs about the town where I lived, a blog about the house I lived in, which morphed into the first Brooklyn apartment (the blog, not the house); a blog about the Brooklyn neighborhood I lived in; a blog about my vintage clothing business on ebay,  which turned into a personal photography/thoughts/feelings/hopes/dreams sort of blog. There was an updated professional photography blog. There was one I did with my daughter when she was living far away from me (I can’t put my finger on a link to that one right now). Suffice it to say there have been many blogs. But my personal favorite is Once I Saw a Dragonfly, which is the “hopes dreams feelings” one.

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I’d sort of forgotten about it and came across it last week while looking for something else. And I started reading the old posts. And I couldn’t stop til I’d read them all. They didn’t feel to me like something I had written, but I found them charming and touching. And I long to create something that lovely again.

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So, while Fashion Schlub will of course remain fashion based, I plan to share more of myself in that way I was once able to in Once I Saw a Dragonfly. I hope this is alright with you. It really won’t be that different than it is now…and maybe that time has passed and my voice is just different now. I will also share more of my personal photography, sometimes within an outfit post, sometimes in a separate post if something seems worthy. I used to so love photography…but some of the passion faded when I started doing it professionally and *my* vision was no longer the priority. I hope to find my vision again.

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Because here’s the thing about blogs, for me: my favorite ones are not necessarily about one topic or another. I might wind up up on a new blog because of the topic: fashion, photography, cooking, gardening, whatever. But I’ll keep coming back because of the writer’s voice. Because something in their words or experiences resonates with me. Because they invite me into their life. Because they end up feeling like a friend. Because they DO become a friend.

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That’s the sort of blog I want Fashion Schlub to be. A place where friends come.

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Okay, enough mushy stuff! The new year has me feeling very sentimental and emotional.

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About the outfit! Once again, the magic invisible dress. The much sought-after denim jacket – FINALLY!!! A loaner leopard scarf from a friend (Hi, Mochi!). My cozy lined footless tights combined with a pair of thin silk sock liners (it seemed really cold the day we shot this – now that temps have been below 20 for over a week, that day seems positively balmy!). A super easy, comfy outfit that can be worn to work, on a date, or on a girls’ night. A perfect look to start the new year in.

What I Wore:

  • Black sleeveless Asos Curve dress, size 22. Old, similar here.
  • Plus size denim jacket, size 3x. Sold out, similar here.

I’m linking-up with Emma Peach’s Style with a Smile link up. Be sure to visit and check out her amazing black lace New Year’s Eve dress (WOWZA!!!) as well as the other lovelies who are linked up there!