Week in Review: Week 59

It is a sunny but still windy and cool day here on Long Island. I have a day filled with running errands, cleaning out my disgusting car, taking the dog (and me) somewhere for a walk and change of scenery, then a quiet evening with a movie and early to bed. The best news this week, I doubt I’ve ever mentioned my ^&%#! insomnia here, but it’s been EVEN worse since the surgery – as though things have shifted around and when I lay down something presses on my bladder and makes the worst ache if I do not wake up immediately to get up and pee. And getting in and out of bed is still enough of a process that it wakes me up even more, UGH. But the GOOD NEWS part is that just two nights ago I was actually able to lay for a little bit on my side again! I’m a side sleeper, but I’ve only been able to be on my back since the surgery 3½ weeks ago, so WHAT a relief to finally have a little bit of normalcy and comfort. In Medical-Land, so many things seem to take so much longer to return to normal than you think they should. So Yay.

I went back to work this week for a full week. My wonderful officemates Tori and Jen had decorated my desk with balloons and banners and there was a little “nest” of goodies on my desk – they are just the sweetest. I’m so fortunate to get to spend my work days with them.

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While I’m not feeling especially energetic, I’m powering through and trying to walk every other day. My baby step regimen is:

Week 1: Walk 5 minutes out and 5 minutes back for a total of 10 minutes

Week 2: Walk 6 minutes out and 6 minutes back for a total of 12 minutes

Week 3: Walk 7 minutes out and 7 minutes back for a total of 14 minutes

You get the picture. Monday will start Week 3. I’m very slowly working up to walks of 20 then 30 minutes. I may back-slide during chemo, I’ll just have to wait and see how I feel then. But at least it’s a schedule that I’m adhering to. And I am walking S-L-O-O-O-W. My heel still hurts and that keeps me slowed down as well. Caleb likes the walks when we’re somewhere he can be offlead and sniff around at his leisure. In his old age he’s gone pretty deaf so I can’t let him offlead when we’re anywhere near anything, like a road or people or other dogs, cuz he just doesn’t hear me calling him. And I think there’s a little senility as he just sort of wanders off and then loses track of where I am. Because it doesn’t seem to occur to him to turn his head to the right or left to look for me. It’s sad to watch someone you love get old.

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A dear friend did this cross-stitch for me, “What Cancer Cannot Do.” That was a lovely surprise to get in the mail this week.

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Caleb: Master of His Domain. He needs a good bath and haircut. But he loves the big tuffet that his Uncle Russell got for him.

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And just to keep this at least a LITTLE fashiony…here is a try-on of an outfit I ordered from Old Navy…that sadly will be going back. Old Navy plus size sizing is so all-over-the-place. Sometimes things are ginormous on me and sometimes they’re way too snug. These are really soft rayon blush cropped pants in a 3x and I couldn’t even zip them up. Part of that could be a little vestigial swelling still left around my abdomen and hips, though they’re feeling pretty normal again. And the top was also snug around the same area, while too loose in the bust. I’m really short on warm weather outfits and the flurry of ordering and returning continues until I hit on a couple wins.

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My niece sent me this book by Sarah Addison Allen – has anyone read it?

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This is a pic my daughter just sent me from while she was here and walked down a bit of beach to see the sunset. It’s just a nice memory of being with her and being OUTSIDE after being cooped up in the hospital for so long.

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So, in other news, I have had both the radiation and chemo consults with my “original” team – the doctors associated with my surgeon’s office. On Monday I have a consult scheduled with Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center to see what, if anything, they would do differently…and then I have to make the decision of who to go with so we can get this show on the road. It’s hard to make the decision because I can already see that I will not necessarily be comparing apples to apples. So wish me luck!

And Great News – I’m actually doing a photoshoot tomorrow! Yippee. Will feel good to be “blog productive” again. So you can look forward to a springy outfit post later this week.

Thanks for all your comments, emails, and kind words – I really appreciate them.

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Week in Review: Week 44

This week was work work work cough cough cough. I’m just feeling a lot of negative input from around my life and the people close to me. A lot of illness, sadness, loss. I really need to find a little bright spot in the week ahead.

This was the night I said goodbye to my daughter…as she is returning to Florida to live. Caleb and I went over to see her one last time. I know she’ll be back soon to visit…but it is just not the same.

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If you follow me on Instagram you’ll have seen this – a Throwback Thursday to my Very First Outfit of the Day post back in September 2015.

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Karen Kane swing dress, 3x; Kohl’s Apt 9 cardigan, 3x; Old Navy flipflops

Getting ready for a photo shoot that didn’t happen.

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Most every night this week I came straight home from work and got on the sofa with a book. I didn’t even feel like being on the computer. And I ALWAYS feel like being on the computer. So I was very happy when a friend was able to go into Brooklyn with me yesterday to see the Marilyn Minter “Dirty Pretty” exhibit at Brooklyn Museum. Very interesting.

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We sat and watched this film several times through, it was mesmerizing, this is just about 30 seconds of it. It was the size of the wall, so maybe…14′ high by like 20′ across.

And this one also…

We looked at some other exhibits but as soon as we realized it was snowing we hightailed it out because driving in snow is one of my least favorite things to do! This was as soon as we left the museum…but it took over 2 hours to get home and by that time the roads were not good 😦

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And now I’m on day two of a three day weekend and then it’s back to work…and some sad things. So…I’ve got my eyes open for a “nice” opportunity because I could really use that this week.

Hope you all have some joy this week ahead.

My Week in Review: Weeks 40-43

Ooh, I’ve been remiss! In my defense: Holiday and Sick. So I’m doing a big Week(s) in Review catch-up here and can then proceed as usual starting next week. Do you guys even *like* Week in Review? I’m coming up on Fashion Schlub’s 1 Year Anniversary and am thinking about switching some things up. I feel like I get more new people liking and commenting on the WiR posts, which I guess is good? I don’t know? I’m just stumbling my way along in Blog-Land. Thoughts?

Gosh, THIS seems forever ago! I’m actually just taking the tree *down* this weekend. Sadface.

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Janey was helping not helping decorate the tree. Funny little crooked-faced cat.

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Janey loves sitting with me at the computer. And the sofa. And bed. And the toilet. You get the picture.

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I’ve been trying to eat more fruit. My reward for eating an orange is a vegan gingerbread cupcake from Batata Cafe in Northport.

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I love old building advertising. I loved painted signs, I think they’re so much more charming than big plastic or polyvinyl (or whatever those canopy type things you see everywhere now) signs.

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Meh. I so loved the other book of hers I read, Secrets of a Charmed Life…I was disappointed by this one.

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The last day of work before vacation is lovely. We’re all so productive and get just tons of work done.

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I drank a toast to the start of vacation. Alright. I drank a *couple* toasts.

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Exmas Eve with my baby.

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Christmas Day. We exchanged gifts at my apartment then went to dinner at our favorite Chinese restaurant and drove around looking at Christmas lights. It was a nice low-key day. I like a low-key holiday.

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My boy.

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We drank a toast to the holiday. Alright. We drank *several* toasts to the holiday.

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I LOVED The Light Between Oceans by M.L. Stedman. Do recommend.

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Ha ha. Christmas had too many toasts and threw up in their front yard.

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I spread my friendship wings (ha ha, someone dear to me used that phrase once when I was making a new friend and it has just always stayed in my heart and head) and made a new friend when we photographed one another for our respective blogs – Marcy of Fearlessly Just Me. You can see some photographs I did of her here.

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That day we shot was cold and super windy and we were out in it all day and I got SICK. This is what sick looks like.

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I’m trying to tackle some small projects in the apartment this winter. This is one of the cubbies staring me in the face when I sit at the computer and I was tired of it. The top pic is the before, the bottom is after. Ahh. But where did I put those chocolate chips??

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Which brings us to today and it is snowing out so I’m staying in with some work, some projects and some reading. But not enough snacks. Unless I can find those chocolate chips.

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Phew! All caught up! Holidays are over, tree is coming down, now the long cold blah winter begins. Will have to make effort to spice things up! Who’s with me??

My Week in Review: Weeks 30-32

I’ve had such busy weekends lately that before I realize it the weekend is behind me and I haven’t done a Week in Review…and now THREE weeks are behind me, so…time to do a little catch up…I’ll just do highlights to get caught up so this isn’t HUGE. Or is it YUUUUGE? Ha. NOPE. Huge.

Had my first experience videoing a wedding – and trust me, I am no videographer…but it was sort of me or Uncle Bob with his iphone, so…I did the best I could. I took some detail shots along the way to fill in a little slide show…

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I started going through drawers and the closet to get rid of things I no longer enjoy wearing…I’m making donation piles and “sell online” piles. I’ll post a link on the blog when I have some things posted for sale online if you’re interested.

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Caleb and I picked up our girl from the airport – she had traveled to Ireland for 10 days by herself. My girl is so strong and brave!

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I swiped a pic from her Instagram…this is her at Giant’s Causeway. Which she repeatedly kept trying to climb even though told not to. That’s my girl!

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I don’t know if this is nationwide, but here on Long Island we’ve had a recent rash of “creepy clown” sightings…so this Halloween display at a house in Rockville Centre sort of took me aback! What was so funny was the squirrels loved the tree and climbing all over the clown and having a great time. Poor Creepy Clown, so disrespected.

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One weekend Caleb and I dog/house-sat for a friend. In the first five minutes I managed to lose a dog (who was then found), in the first evening I tried to burn the house down (thankfully, I failed), and overnight I managed to break the bed (shut up).

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Guess where I’m going this afternoon? More dog-sitting!

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I’ve started walking again. Starting slow…most days just about 20 minutes…but some days I have time for longer. I like to walk in interesting places.

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Last Saturday I went into the city with friends for a gallery crawl. THAT was a long walk! Thankfully I’d finally gotten myself some new sneakers, they were super comfortable *walking,* but oddly, very uncomfortable for sitting. Weird, right?? I think as they break in a bit they’ll get better.

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I enjoy the galleries, but I usually find the things I see on the street more interesting.

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The next day we took a spur-of-the-moment drive up to 7 Lakes in Harriman State Park, Sloatsburg, NY. I think we were juuuuust a tinch ahead of the height of fall color, but it was still a really nice day.

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I finally felt fallish enough to do a little outdoor decorating (it’s weird when you’re living in someone’s backyard cuz your outer area is really *their* backyard and…it’s just weird).

The boy was pooped cuz we’d just come back from a walk. Poor old boy.

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And I finally *dressed* a little fallishly even though it was actually in the 60s and sort of steamy out, ha. We cranked the ac in our office and it was good.

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And we’re all caught up…I have to get ready for my trek into dog/house-sitting and maybe a trip into Brooklyn this afternoon. I’d had plans, but my brakes are bad on my car and I feel okay driving locally, but going further away, especially on a wet day like today, and…I don’t know. We’ll see. But y’all have a good weekend, do something nice for yourself, have some fun!

All Aboard to New York City

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It’s funny, whenever I’m anywhere else and someone asks me where I live and I say New York, they always immediately assume New York CITY. I try to explain that NY is very large and diverse with beaches and mountains and farmland and suburbs…and that Manhattan, “The City,” is a VERY small part of it. They never buy it. They have their perception of what New York is like and they’re sticking to it no matter what *I* say.

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I think we all have perceptions and assumptions about places…and people…that are unfounded in anything other than our own minds and imaginations filling in gaps. I know my mind, especially, is prone to filling in gaps. Like, if you hear a description of someone without seeing a picture of them, your mind creates a picture FOR you! At least mine does. I don’t know if everyone’s does. That can be dangerous because it creates impossible expectations.

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I’m sort of going to the dark place today, sorry about that! This dress got me thinking about New York City with its great graphic print. Some might call it busy. I call it CAMOUFLAGE!!! A busy pattern does a great job of concealing lumps and bumps because it hides shadows and highlights. Your eye is drawn to the pattern. In a solid dress, fat rolls create highlights and shadows that are easily seen. I’m not saying you should feel ashamed of them and try to conceal your body…I *am* saying that some outfits create a little magic…and who doesn’t like a little magic worked on them once in a while!

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This is another Gwynnie Bee dress, designed by one of their house brands, Isabel & Alice. It’s called the NYC Belted Shift Dress. I had fun wearing it one time with this distressed denim jacket from Target. The outfit was just right for the touch of fall we’ve experienced so far.

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Whenever my daughter shoots my outfit there’s at least one shot with me throwing my hands up in the air. Those of you with Daughters Who Know Everything will know what I’m talking about.

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But fortunately there’s usually one of these, too. And life goes on.

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I Had a Baby….

….25 years ago today.

So I have to torment you Just A Little Bit…with my favorite pictures of my baby over the past 25 years…

And what does this have to do with Fashion Schlub? Well, unlike my triple chins and my bumpy hips…she is the very BEST part of me. She’s a wonderful human being – sweet and smart and kind and clever and independent and beautiful. So, Happy Birthday to my wonderful K-K-K-Katie, beautiful Katie.katie 25 1katie 25  2katie 25 3katie 25 4katie 25 5katie 25 6katie 25 7katie 25 8katie 25 9

That wasn’t so bad, was it?